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WHAT IS SOCIAL HEALTH?
• SOCIAL HEALTH: your ability to get
along with the people around you.
• Are able to accept differences in other
people.
• Meet people easily
• Can accept other people’s ideas and
suggestions when working in a group.
• Are usually successful at making
friends with people of both sexes.
• Continue to take part in an activity
even when they don’t get their way.
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10 Rude Things Students Do to Teachers
Talk while the teacher is trying to teach.
Not raise their hand.
Not say “Please,” “Thank you” and “Excuse Me.”
Talk back.
Make no attempt to hide their boredom, irritation, or anger.
Not pay attention.
Use physical or verbal aggression to get their way.
Swear.
Continue a behavior after being asked to stop.
Use disrespectful body language (rolling eyes, slouching, etc.)
10 Rude Things Teachers Do to Students:
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Make fun of them in front of the whole class.
Deliberately ignore them.
Give them too much work on purpose.
Punish the whole class for something one person
did.
Call on them when they know they don’t know
the answer.
Say sarcastic things.
Talk down to them.
Accuse them of doing things based on suspicion,
not facts.
Not listen to their side of the story.
Play Favorites.
People who do the following:
• Interrupt/rudeness
• Appear to NOT care what you’re
saying/Don’t listen
• Curse way too much
• Never say: Please, Thank You,
Your Welcome, Bless You, etc.
• Give you dirty looks or attitude
• Talk about you behind your back
17 Images: Are you
Paying Attention?
What is a
• The connections we
have with other people
and groups in our lives.
3 Skills that help in RELATIONSHIPS
• Communication: Flows in
two directions.
• Cooperation: Working as a
team.
• Compromise: “Give and
take”
• Meet someone for the first time.
(Your Choice how you start the
conversation: What will you talk
about?)
• Who your favorite team is and why.
Make sure to defend this team and why
the other person is wrong.
• SCHOOL (Salk, health class, teachers,
School sports, etc.)
Possible Topics of Discussion
• A recent event; something that
happened that is in the news, wellknown
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Sporting events
Celebrity news or gossip
Weather
What’s happening in your school, town,
state, country
» Food, restaurants, places of interest
» AVOID: Controversial Topics EXAMPLES?
Elements of Conversation
• Shake the person’s hand, introduce yourself, and say
“It’s a pleasure to meet you.” Follow up: “How are
you?” “What are you up to today?”
*Always maintain eye contact and resist distractions.
• Join in the conversation already at hand, or listen.
While listening, think of ways to respond or follow-up
questions to ask and wait to enter the conversation.
• Ask questions to keep the conversation “flowing”
(open-ended questions) and address the topics at hand.
(What do you think…?, How do you feel…?, Tell me more
about…?)
• When concluding the conversation, shake again and
repeat how nice it was to meet that person, leave the
door open for future conversation.
Be a Good LISTENER:
The PASSIVE LISTENER
•Make Eye contact
•Nod your head
•Reflect your feelings with facial
expressions.
•Use short, encouraging verbal
responses (“mmm; ahh, yes, uh-
Be an Active Listener
too!
• Use short verbal responses (“Really?,” “I see,”
“What happened next?”)
• Comment directly on what is being said.
• Use the “Echo Effect”: “So what you’re saying
is…” (Repeat what they said)
• Restate the speaker’s ideas in your own words or
“CLARIFY” (“Do you mean…?”) (“Correct me if
I’m wrong…”)
• Encourage the person to express feelings
“EMPATHY” (“I guess you must have felt…”)
• Encourage more information (“Tell me more
about…”).
• Don’t pass judgment or criticize; just listen!
• Passive: Allowing things to just happen. Not
taking initiative; letting things come as they
may. A “don’t care” attitude.
• May be taken advantage of.
• Aggressive: Speaking up in an overbearing
or harsh way. Can be taken as rude and
confrontational.
• Assertive: Speaking up/stating the truth;
staying calm, yet not allowing others to take
advantage. Taking initiative in a positive
way.
• Passive-Aggressive: the "unassertive" expression of
negative sentiments, feelings of anger, and resentfulness.
“I”Messages
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I believe…
I would like…
I would appreciate…
I feel…
I am confident…
I wish…
I’m upset because…
I want…
I think…
• Avoid “you” or “you in disguise”:
Ex: I think you should…
Saying “You” sounds like you are accusing the
other person & can be perceived the wrong
way.
Rules
of GOOD COMMUNICATON,
so far…
• Use “I” statements and not “you” statements.
• Stay calm, collect thoughts, think before you
speak.
• Avoid “fillers” (Like, OK, Umm, ya’ know).
• Try to avoid controversial topics and offensive
language.
• Choose the right time and place.
• Watch for non-verbal messages.
• Stick to the Point.
• Use Active and Passive listening skills.
• What is a BULLY? A bully is anyone who
targets others with negative actions.
• What are these NEGATIVE ACTIONS?
• Hitting/physical violence
• Practical jokes
• Making fun of someone
• Isolating/shunning others
• Talking badly behind others backs
• Cyber bullying
• Dirty looks
• Calling others names
Why do People BULLY?
• To make themselves feel better
• Jealousy
• To show off
• For popularity
• For revenge
• Problems with family/friends
• To uphold their reputation
• They’ve been bullied in the past
• Other unresolved issues
• Hurt others physically, mentally, emotionally.
• Affect others self-esteem, confidence, self-worth.
• May result in drug abuse, physical violence and/or
suicide.
• May result in victim’s seeking “REVENGE”.
• Allows for an unsafe learning environment making it
more difficult to concentrate and learn.
• Results in stricter policies and rules within a school
limiting freedoms for students.
• Years of professional mental and social health
counseling to deal with trauma of bullying.
How to Deal with BULLYING
• It’s about ATTITUDE: Hold your head up high,
show confidence, self-esteem.
• IGNORE the Bully: Old advice, but the truth is,
bullies love a reaction!
• ADULTS HELP!: You’re not tattling, you’re just
letting someone know what’s going on. Keep them
informed, they can help!
• SAFETY in NUMBERS: The more friends you
surround yourself with, the less of a chance you’ll
be bullied.
Dealing with BULLYING
continued…
• Be Assertive! STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!:
First reaction is to defend yourself physically, try to
use your words and personality to get out of the
situation. Fighting satisfies the bully and will land
you in trouble. Don’t back down, get help!
• Lots of times, fighting will just breed more fights!
• DON’T BE A BULLY YOURSELF!
Be aware of your actions; “do unto others” that’s the
GOLDEN RULE!
It will save you time, grief, trouble, and maybe even
your life!
Be Assertive! Speak Up!!
• Act #1: “Dude, I heard that you were the worst
kid at tryouts yesterday. I can’t believe you think
you’re gonna make the team. You really stink!”
• Act #2: “Really stylin’ there, big guy! I mean,
come on, dude, nice shirt! Yo! Check out this
kid’s shirt. Where do you shop your
grandmother’s garbage can?”
• Act #3: “ Dang yo!, them some big ol’ ears you
got rockin’. Are you Dumbo’s distant relative?
What radio stations you pick up with those
things?”
• Act #4: “Listen, no one likes you because you are
such a loser. Don’t try to act cool because you
are so not.”
Social Health Quiz
• Definitions for Social Health &
Relationships
• Communication DO’s and DON’TS
• Proper introduction
• Open-Ended Questions
• Passive/Assertive/Aggressive
• “I” statements and “You” statements
• Bullying Actions
• Bullying Prevention
• How to deal with Bullying
SOCIAL MEDIA
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Texts on mobile devices
Twitter
Facebook, Myspace, Formspring
Youtube
ANY SOCIAL MEDIA based
website where people can
interact with one another.
What are the POSITIVES and
NEGATIVES with SOCIAL MEDIA?
POSITIVE (+)
• Interact with friends/family
• “Catch up” with old friends,
family haven’t seen in a
while.
• Stay “in the loop” Know
what’s going on
• Easy way to
communicate/convenient
NEGATIVES (-)
• Words can be “misconstrued”
and taken the wrong way
• Make people jealous/envy
• Deliberate
bullying/cyberbullying
• Neglect family and other
friends
Everyone needs:
FRIENDS
•Friends are people with whom we can
share a common interest or hobby.
•Friends provide us with
companionship, and they can be a
source of help when we have a
problem.
Qualities of a GOOD
FRIEND
• LOYALTY: Friends are there when you
need them.
• CARING:Value each other’s feelings.
• RELIABILITY: Able to be counted on.
• SYMPATHY: Aware of how you are
feeling at any given moment.
• Peer Pressure is the influence of others,
usually friends or those your own age, who
influence/encourage you to do something against
your will.
• Positive and Negative Peer Pressure?
• Positive: Influences you to do something good
for your health. EX: ?
• Negative: Influences you to do something that
may be harmful to you or to others. EX: ?
• Does Peer Pressure really exist?