Transcript Self – respect and Self – assertion

Self – respect
and
Self – assertion
Ms. Jayalakshmi R.
To create an awareness on the importance of
having self – respect and being assertive.
Pin pointing how self – respect helps us to be
assertive.
Sharing tips and techniques to gain self –
respect and for being assertive.
Giving ideas on how self – respect and self –
assertion influences behavior.
Role play
Presentation
Activity
Introduction through a role play – An aggressive husband and a submissive wife.
Self – respect:
Defining self– respect.
Why is self – respect important?
How to gain self – respect?
Benefits of having self – respect.
Self – assertion:
What do you mean by assertiveness?
Comparison of assertiveness and aggressiveness.
Activity1: Assertiveness, Self-analysis (Worksheets will be given).
Building up assertiveness.
Techniques for assertiveness.
Activity2: Some ways you can say “no” without being rude or impolite
(Situations will be given)
How self – respect leads to assertiveness?
How self – respect and self – assertion influences behavior.
Queries.
Conclusion.
“If you want to be respected by others, the great
thing is to respect yourself.
Only by that, only by self-respect will you compel
others to respect you.”
Self – respect can be defined as a proper sense
of one's own dignity and integrity which comes
from within.
An earned positive feeling about ones
self.
Without self-respect, you can have no
respect for others and if you don’t
respect others, you will not get the
respect you deserve.
Breeds confidence.
People who have made the greatest
positive impact on humanity have
seemingly had tremendous self-respect.
Helps you to succeed in life.
Figure out who you are and be true to that.
Own up to your mistakes and move on.
Silence the self-criticism in your head.
Try not to care about what other people think.
Begin to give yourself the importance you deserve.
Have the feel that just like anybody who seems to be so important
to you, you are important too.
Spend time with people who like you and make you feel good about
yourself.
You have self respect within yourself, or you would not have been
trying for finding ways to develop it. It is something within you, and
you simply need to find a way to discover it.
Enables you to learn to observe to your own values.
Holds the key for achieving the peace of mind you seek.
The person with self-respect will start liking herself or
himself.
Helps to gain satisfaction in life.
Encourages you to keep the promises which you have
given to yourself.
Helps to fulfill your potential.
Facilitates to develop healthy relationships.
The act of considering the rights
and needs of everybody.
A way of making sure your needs
are met while still considering the
needs of others.
Assertiveness:
Sees everyone as equal with equal rights
and equal responsibilities.
Increases the chances of our needs being
met.
The most appropriate way of handling
relationships.
Allows you to remain in control.
Brings greater self – confidence.
Assertive people have more friends.
Reduces stress.
Aggressiveness:
The aim of aggression is to get
our own way – to win whatever
the cost to other people.
Aggression often breeds
aggression.
Destructive, either physically or
psychologically.
Discourages people from
helping us in the future.
Can make us unpopular.
Can make us feel good for a
short while, but not in the long
run.
Avoid stress.
Deep breathing,
relaxation.
Don’t anticipate trouble.
Replace thoughts.
Check your mental state.
Making up.
Be honest about your own feelings
to yourself.
Be as specific and clear as possible
about what you want, think and
feel.
Always respect the rights of the
other person.
Keep calm and stick to the point.
Adopt appropriate body language
to back up your assertion.
Be direct.
Own your message.
Ask for feedback.
Situation 1: A person asks you to spend some time with
him/her to do a task. But you are too busy.
Situation 2: You are invited as a chief guest for a
Programme. But you are not confident to accept that.
Situation 3: Your friend is calling you to accompany him/her
for a party. But you are very tired and you don’t want to go
with him/her.
Situation 4: You are invited for an event, but you don’t have
time or honestly you do not want to attend that.
Situation 5: You are asked by your close friend to lend
money for him/her. But you don’t like to do that.
A person with self – respect
will start respecting others.
When you respect others,
definitely you will consider the
rights and needs of others. At
this state you will assume that
everyone is equal. Then you
are assertive.
A way of resisting anxieties associated with living in an
often impersonal and competitive world.
Empowers the behavior by preserving the right to refuse,
the right to request and the right to correct a wrong.
Helps to generate a positive attitude.
Enables to maintain a relaxed posture.
Supports to keep direct eye contact.
Can improve your inter-personal relationships.
Facilitates to have a calm and controlled voice.
Feel very satisfied and happy.
Self – respect and self –
assertion helps you to create
a win-win situation and
opens the door to new
opportunities – for yourself
and others.
Self – respect and Selfassertion allows you to take
control, be proactive and
grow as a person. Instead of
seeing a world of limits, you
see a world of opportunities.
Instead of living small, you
live large.
Thank You