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Jennifer Kerpelman, Ph.D. Dept. of Human Development and Family Studies Auburn University During their teens, many youth actively explore romantic relationships. Providing effective relationships education can support positive youth development and help reduce impulsive and health- compromising behaviors. Relationships education can facilitate movement toward well- functioning, committed, healthy relationships /marriages in adulthood. Benefits Learning about self as part of a couple Positive feelings about self Belonging/Closeness Support Peer group acceptance Risks Emotional stress Sexually transmitted disease Pregnancy/teen parenthood Relationship violence Overarching goal: To increase the numbers of adolescents who have the skills and knowledge for forming and maintaining healthy romantic relationships. Learning about healthy dating patterns Addressing factors related to healthy and stable relationships Recognizing patterns of unhealthy and abusive relationships Increasing self-efficacy in relationships Enhancing problem-solving and communication skills Learning ways to manage conflict in relationships Good Fit? Does the information (and do the examples and activities) speak to youth Clear and Easy? Are the lessons/activities easy to understand and implement; are How much? Does the program cover the range of material needed in adequate Context? How does class/group make-up, regional location, teacher/facilitator Facilitator Comfort and Rapport? Are the facilitators comfortable with from different backgrounds. Do the lessons work well for both males and females, and for different age groups? the messages clear? quantities to facilitate the desired changes in beliefs, knowledge, skills, and behavior? characteristics, or factors in the larger community influence the effectiveness of the program being implemented? the material and can they talk easily with youth? Do the youth trust the facilitators? Relationship Smarts Plus (RS+) Research- and theory-based. Incorporates hands-on activities. Uses materials that show diversity. Evaluated across multiple years Revised based on teacher and student feedback. www.dibbleinstitute.org LESSON 1: LESSON 2: LESSON 3: LESSON 4: LESSON 5: LESSON 6: LESSON 7: LESSON 8: LESSON 9: LESSON 10: LESSON 11: LESSON 12: LESSON 13: LESSON 14: WHO AM I AND WHERE AM I GOING? WHAT I VALUE MATURITY ISSUES AND PRESSURE SITUATIONS ATTRACTIONS AND INFATUATION LOVE AND INTIMACY PRINCIPLES OF SMART RELATIONSHIPS THE LOW-RISK APPROACH TO RELATIONSHIPS IS IT A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP? DANGEROUS LOVE A FOUNDATION FOR GOOD COMMUNICATION COMMUNICATION CHALLENGES AND SKILLS THROUGH THE EYES OF A CHILD LOOKING TOWARDS THE FUTURE FOLLOW YOUR NORTH STAR Smart and Not-So-Smart Relationship Strategies Red Flags Communication: Better Ways to Complain Interview with a Happy Couple 7 Principles of Smart Relationships Principle 1: Look for Common Interests Principle 2: Pay Attention to Values Principle 3: Don't Try To Change the Other Person Principle 4: Don't Try to Change Yourself to Get Someone’s Love or Friendship Principle 5: Expect Good Communication Principle 6: Don't Play Games, Pressure, or Manipulate Principle 7: Expect Respect Taking the time to really get to know someone can help you make the right choice should you decide to get more serious with that person. This means finding out if: ◦ ◦ ◦ ◦ ◦ ◦ ◦ you share interests with this person you have important values in common this person handles disagreements with you in a good way you accept this person for who she or he really is this person accept s you for who you really are you can be real with each other (no game playing, pressuring or manipulating) this person treats you with respect Red Flag = Warning sign of abuse White Flag = It May or May not be a warning sign When you have your friends over tonight, you plan to tell them how much you hate it when they leave without bothering to help you clean up. Bad start: You are such slobs… Better start: Your friend is not spending as much time with you since she started going out with Brett. You want her to make more time for you. Bad start: Every since you started going with Brett you just ignore everyone. You’re going to lose all your friends and then you’ll be sorry when he dumps you… Better start Your friend is always cutting someone down. You hate that he always does this. Bad start: Get a life! Have you nothing more interesting inside your head to talk about? Better start When you hang out with your boyfriend , he mainly wants to play video games. You would like for him to do things that you are interested in some of the time. Bad start. I am sick and tired of always playing video games when we’re together. Maybe you should dating your computer rather than me. Better start. Talk with couples that you think have good relationships. Find out: How they got to know each other What they see as important in their relationship How they handle disagreements What they think helps make their relationship last •Teens need accurate information about romantic relationships. •Relationships education programs for youth should increase the numbers of adolescents who have the skills and knowledge for forming and maintaining healthy romantic relationships. •Good curricula have engaging activities that involve the youth in ways that enhance learning. •Programs should be adjusted to fit the needs of the audience and facilitators should be well prepared. •Evaluation helps us determine whether and how curricula are effective.