Habit 5

Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood You Have Two Ears and One Mouth…Hel-lo!!

Five Poor Listening Styles  Spacing Out  Pretend Listening  Selective Listening  Word Listening  Self-centered Listening

Genuine Listening    Listen with your eyes, heart, & ears Stand in their shoes Practice mirroring

Body Language 53% Words 7% Tone/Feeling 40%

Communication with Parents  Take time to listen and understand your parents. You’ll gain a greater respect for them and you’ll get your way more often.

 Begin with small deposits into their RBA – every little bit counts  Then, start asking them some questions like “How was your day?” or “Is there anything I can do around the house?”

Seek to Be Understood  Requires Courage  Think Win-Win: you understand them, help them understand you  Giving feedback is an important part of seeking to be understood