Transcript ABC’s of Effective Parenting

ABC’s of Effective
Parenting
Eva Cyrusova
General Objective:
• Increase the awareness of
parenting strategies
• Enhance parents’
negotiation skills
Introduction
• The goal of parenting?.......
Kids
- are able to look after themselves
- enjoy life
- make those around them happy
- are caring and kind
- stand up for what they believe in
- learn self-control
- and finally….
BECOMING A COMPETENT ADULT
• What is one thing that your
parents have done to guide
you toward the goal of
becoming a competent adult?
Parenting Styles
• Authoritative parents are warm but firm and consistent.
• Set developmentally appropriate limits
• Set reasonable standards, moderate on discipline
• High in communication and emotional support
• Encourages independency and individuality
• Allow choices, give alternatives
• Use reasoning, negotiation and compromise
Their children are independent, socially responsible
and less influenced by negative peer pressure.
Authoritarian - Strict
• Authoritarian parents show less affection.
• Value obedience, respect
• Rules are non-negotiable, do not allow
reasonable choices
• Discourage independency and individuality
• Exercise physical punishment
• Their children are greatly influenced by peer
pressure, are passive or rebelling against
parents’ values. They have lower
self-esteem.
Permissive
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Permissive parents are warm but undemanding.
They are passive in their parenting.
Very low on discipline, structure and expectation. Sets no guidelines.
They do not like to say no or disappoint their children.
They believe that demonstrate their love is to give in to their children’s
wishes.
• Their children may have difficulty with self-control, demonstrate
egocentric tendencies, manipulative behaviour.
These children are the unhappiest of all (anxiety,
depression). Likely to engage in antisocial behaviour.
As they have not been taught how to control or discipline
themselves, they are less likely to develop self-respect.
Permissive - Uninvolved
• Uninvolved parents are not warm, do not place any
demands.
• They minimize their interaction time.
• Generally do not want to be bothered by their
children.
• Their children show similar patterns as children
raised in permissive homes
(impulsive behaviour, issues with self-regulation).
Questions:
• Describe the time when you witnessed a
parenting technique you felt was very
effective (or describe your own).
• Can you think of a time when you
encountered an example of ineffective
parenting?
Parenting Strategies
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No.1 No one can be a perfect
parent
Do you know your strengths and weaknesses?
No.2 Back each other up
No.3 Communicate, explain,
discuss…
No.4 Make and negotiate
rules and limits
No.5 Let them learn natural
and logical consequences
No.6 Be consistent
No. 7 Praise, praise, praise
(and sometimes ignore)
What do you praise your child most for ?
Things you praise your child for tell them a lot about
what you believe is important in live.
Problem, Conflict, Disagreement…?
Use No-Lose Method!
Case study
Problem to Solution in 5 Steps
1. Identify the conflict (and people’s feelings)
2. Generate possible solutions (What will that do for me?)
3. Decide on the best solution (which provides the best
balance for everyone)
4. Implement the decision
5. Evaluate how it worked
Questions?
THANK YOU!