Transcript Parenting Styles - Ms. Gash's FACS Room

Effective Parenting Skills
What is Parenting?
Parenting
is a process – the process of caring
for children and helping them grow and learn.
An
important aspect of developing parenting
skills is learning to nurture children. A parent
or caregiver nurtures a child by proving
encouragement and enriching experiences.
Nurturing also involves showing love, support,
concern, and understanding.
Parenting Styles
Select the following parenting style
according to the description given.
The
choices are:
Authoritarian,
Permissive,
Democratic
A
parent that expects unquestioning obedience.
Authoritarian
A
parent that is more concerned with being their
child’s friend than parent.
Permissive
The
parent’s word is law; parents have absolute
control.
Authoritarian
Parents
set limits and enforce family rules.
Democratic
Listens
to concerns and requests of children.
Gives reasons for decisions and home rules.
Democratic
Non-controlling,
non-demanding; children walk
all over the parents.
Permissive
When Children are Deprived
 Unfortunately,
some children grow up with parents
who have not learned parenting skills and who do
not encourage learning. By the time they are four
years old, these children are measurably behind
others in development.
 Deprivation
– the lack of healthy, nurturing
environment.
Do
not confuse deprivation with
poverty. Deprived children can come
from wealthy families as well.
Providing Love and Support
In
many ways, nurturing is the same as
loving. Love is the sum of the caring and
positive things we do for the benefit of
others.
Love can be shown in many different ways.
Hugs, kisses, and smiles are clear
indicators of a parent’s love. Listening
patiently and attentively, giving time and
attention are also examples.
Overparenting
 Overprotective
and over attentive – showing the
child with too much attention, too many toys, and
too many treats. These parents make excuses for
the child’s inappropriate behavior and try to shield
the child from difficult experiences.
 An overprotective parent forgets that children
learn from trial and error and that mistakes are an
essential part of the growth process.
These
children then lack
independence because parents have
always made choices for them.
Communicating Positively
Children
are most responsive when you
speak in kind, respectful tones and use
simple language.
Get
on the child’s level, sit or kneel so that you
are eye-to-eye.
Be simple. Use words the child can understand.
Be clear. Think in terms of the child’s point of
view.
Be positive and polite
Give praise and love.
Question Set #1
What
are the 3 types of parenting styles?
Describe them.
How does a parent or other caregiver
nurture a child?
What is deprivation?
What is overparenting? What negative
affects can overparenting have on
children?
List five guidelines to follow when
communicating with young children?
Guiding Children’s Behavior
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Discipline – the task of helping children learn to behave in
acceptable ways.
Discipline does not mean making children behave. Children
can not be forced to act according to adult standards.
However, when caregivers combine firmness with
understanding, children can learn to control their actions.
Gradually, children begin to understand why certain actions
are right or wrong. They develop and conscience – an inner
sense of what is right.
The ultimate goal of discipline is to help children achieve
self-discipline – the ability to control one’s own behavior.
Encouraging Appropriate
Behavior
Set
a good example
Tell
what is expected
Children
are great imitators. They learn best
by being shown what to do rather than by just
being told.
They
need to be told what is expected of them
in ways they can understand.
Praise
It
appropriate behavior
helps children feel good about themselves.
Praise is an example of positive reinforcement –
a response that encourages a particular
behavior.
Setting Limits
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Limits should keep children from hurting themselves, other
people, or property.
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Keep these questions in mind when setting limits:
 Does the limit allow the child to learn, explore, and grow?
 Is the limit fair and appropriate for the child’s age?
 Does the limit benefit the child, or is it merely for adults’
convenience?
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Be prepared to repeat the limits or rules several times.
Limits should be presented to the child in a calm, direct
tone of voice that indicates the limit is real and to be
respected.
When introducing a limit, it is best to follow these steps:
 Be understanding of the child’s desires.
 Set the limit and explain it.
 Acknowledge the child’s feelings.
 Give alternatives.
Dealing with Inappropriate
Behavior
 Questions
a caregiver should ask when responding to a
child’s misbehavior:
 Does the child understand that the behavior is wrong?
 Was the behavior intentional, or was it simply beyond the
child’s control?
 Punishment
is negative reinforcement – a response that
tends to discourage a particular behavior from being
repeated.
 Techniques
for dealing with inappropriate behavior:
 Natural consequences
 Loss of privileges
 Ignoring
 Time-out
Dealing with Inappropriate
Behavior
Issues
Concerning Discipline
Spanking
1st,
– mixed views
caregivers should never use spanking as a way to
vent anger or frustration.
2nd, there are many effective, positive guidance
techniques that can be used as alternatives to
spanking.
Poor
Disciplinary Measures
Bribing
Making children promise
Shouting or yelling
Shaming or belittling
to behave
Ex.
“If this keeps up, you’ll never amount to
anything.”
Threatening
to withhold love
Consistency
Children
lose trust and confidence in a
parent or caregiver who constantly changes
limits or fails to enforce limits in a
consistent manner.
If
a parent or caregiver laughs at a child’s
behavior one day and punishes the same
behavior the next day, the child will feel
confused and insecure.
Question Set # 2
What
is discipline?
List three keys to effective discipline.
List four guidelines for praising a child’s
good behavior.
List three questions parents should ask
themselves as they choose specific limits
for children.
Do you think it is possible to raise a child
without using any form of punishment?
Why or why not?
Providing Substitute Care
With
many single parent families and more
parents working, there are higher needs for
substitute care.
Home-Based Care
There are three main types of home-based care:
Care
in the child’s own home.
Nanny
– a specially trained person employed to provide
live-in child care services.
Family
A
child care
child arrangement in which a small number of children
are cared for in the caregivers’ home.
Play
A
groups
child care arrangement in which a group of parents
take turns caring for each other’s children in their own
homes.
Providing Substitute Care
 Center-Based
 Child
A
Care
care centers
facility designed primarily to provide care for children of
working parents.
 Preschools
A
child care center that provides educational programs,
usually for children aged 3 to 5.
 Parent
A
cooperatives
child care facility in which part of the supervision is
provided by the parents of enrolled children, who take turns
donating their services.
 Head
In
start centers
the 1960’s, the federal government began Head Start – a
program of locally operated child care facilities designed to
help lover-income and disadvantaged children function
effectively at home, in school, and in the community.
 Montessori
An
preschools
educational facility for 3 to 6 year olds that provides
special learning materials which children are free to explore
on their own.
Effects of Substitute Care
Many
specialists advice that a parent
should stay home to provide child care as
long as possible. But that is not possible
for many parents.
Fortunately,
long-term studies find that
GOOD substitute care has no adverse
effect on children’s intellectual and
emotional development.
Question Set # 3
What
is a nanny?
How is family child care different
from a play group? How are they
similar?
List one advantage and one
disadvantage of a parent cooperative?
When was Head Start created and
why?
What type of learning does a
Montessori School provide?