Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships
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Physical
Scratching
Punching
Biting
Kicking
Pulling Hair
Choking
Pushing
Slapping
Shoving
Using a
weapon
Sexual
Unwanted
kissing/touching
Forcing a victim
to go further than
they want
Rape
Emotional
Name Calling / Put
Downs
Controls,
Intimidates,
Humiliates
Yelling / Screaming
Threatens suicide to
manipulate
Threats of violence
or harm
Keeps victim away
from friends/family
Makes victim feel
responsible
www.chooserespect.org
1 in 11 teens reports being a victim of physical dating abuse each year
1 in 4 teens reports verbal, physical, emotional or sexual abuse each year
1 in 5 high school girls has been physically or sexually abused by a dating
partner
The overall occurrence of dating violence is higher among black (13.9%)
than Hispanic (9.3%) or white (7%) students
72% students in 8th & 9th grade report dating.
By the time they are in high school, 54% students report dating violence among peers
1 in 3 teens report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched,
kicked, slapped, choked or otherwise physically hurt by their partner
80% teens regard verbal abuse as a serious issue for their age group
Nearly 80% of girls who’ve been physically abused in their dating
relationships continue to date their abuser
Nearly 1 in 5 teen girls who’ve been in a relationship said that a boyfriend
threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a break-up
Almost 70% rape victims knew their rapist as a boyfriend, friend or
acquaintance
Teen dating abuse most often takes place in the home of one of the partners
Honeymoon The abuser often…
Says “I love you!”
Apologizes
Promises it won’t happen again
Buys you gifts
Blames you or other things
Honeymoon
Tension Building
Your partner starts fights
with you & yells at you for
no reason
Feel you can’t do
anything right & things
could blow up at any time
The
Cycle of
Violence
Explosion
Tension
Building
Explosion The abuser may
Physically abuse you by hitting, kicking, slamming you against
a wall, etc.
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news/131070/teen-abuseScream & yell in a way that scares or humiliates you
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Threatens to hurt you
Rape or force you to go further sexually than you want to
Signs of Abused Person
Bruises, scratches or other
injuries
Avoiding friends at social events
Changes in clothes or make-up
Changes in eating/sleeping
habits
Crying spells/hysteria
Alcohol/Drug use
Anxiety & Depression
Sudden changes in mood or
personality
Fearfulness of dating partner
Signs of Abuser
Wants serious relationship
quickly
Will not take no for an answer
Is jealous & possessive
Is very controlling of decisions,
friends, activities, clothing, etc.
Demands to know where you
are at all times
Uses guilt “If you really loved
me, you would…”
Blames you…”You asked for it”
or “You made me mad”
Apologizes for violent behavior
& promises not to do it again
Why does abuse happen?
It’s related to certain risk factors, such as:
Truly believes it’s okay
Uses alcohol or drugs
Can’t manage anger
Hangs out with violent peers
Has low self-esteem or is depressed
Doesn’t have parental supervision & support
Witnesses abuse at home or in the community
Has a history of aggressive behavior or bullying
How do I get out of an abusive relationship?
http://sandy.utah.gov/government/police-department/a-look-atteen-dating-violence-video/video.html
Break the Cycle
www.breakthecycle.org
Choose Respect-Centers for Disease Control & Prevention
www.chooserespect.org
The Date Safe Project
www.thedatesafeproject.org
Love is not Abuse
www.loveisnotabuse.com/teen_whenlovehurts.htm
Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt Teens, American Psychological Association
www.apa.org/pi/pii/teen/homepage.html
See It and Stop It
www.seeitandstopit.org