Transcript PRO-SOCIAL GROUP

Interactions with Others
Self-Control
Understanding others’ feelings
Fitting In
Conversation Time
Wrap Up
PRO-SOCIAL GROUP
Expectations
1.
Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up
2.
Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready.
3.
Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side.
Remember Confidentiality
What is said in the room stays in the room!
Period: 1 2 3
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Show this pass to your teacher BEFORE leaving class
Students Name-###
Come to:
Students Name-###
Room 317
Students Name-###
Room:________________
If this period is your lunch time please bring your lunch/drink
http://www.mtstcil.org/skills/manners-test.php
PRO-SOCIAL GROUP WEEKLY PROGRESS
REPORT
Student Name_____________________________ Rater Name:__________________________
Week of ____/____/_____
This student is participating in our S/AIG Pro-Social Skills group. The targeted social skills are listed
below. Using the provided criteria, rate the student’s use of the individual skills during this past week.
2 = Student exhibits skills all/most of the time
Math
1 = Student exhibits skills half or less of the time
Science
Social Studies
Language Arts
0 = Student exhibits skills rarely or not at all
Elective
Elective
PE
Lunch
Totals
2 1
0
2 1
0
/16
2 1
0
2 1
0
/16
Respectful:
Disagreeing
respectfully
2 1
0 2 1
0
2 1
0
2 1
0
2 1
0 2 1
0
Respectful:
Avoiding interruptions 2
1
0 2 1
0
2 1
0
2 1
0
2 1
0 2 1
0
Responsible:
Paying attention to
work/task.
2 1
0 2 1
0
2 1
0
2 1
0
2 1
0 2 1
0
2 1
0
2 1
0
/16
Asking for help
appropriately
2 1
0 2 1
0
2 1
0
2 1
0
2 1
0 2 1
0
2 1
0
2 1
0
/16
Staying calm when
communicating with
2 1
0 2 1
0
2
2 1
0
/16
Responsible:
Safe:
1 0
2
others
1 0
2
0
1
2
0
1
2
0
1
Total:
=
/10
/10
/10
PARENT SIGNATURE:______________________________ To
/10
/10
be returned daily.
/10
/10
/10
/80
Beth
WHAT HAPPENS WITH THE WPR CARD?
• Mondays: Card is sent to teachers
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Teachers complete the card based on behavior presented that week.
• Wednesday: Cards are returned to Guidance
• Fridays: Cards are shared with you
Goal is 80% average for 4 weeks
Interactions with Others
Self-Control
Understanding others’ feelings
Fitting In
Conversation Time
Wrap Up
TOWER GAME
Purpose:
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To have students work together and see what social peer interactions skills they use to work
together.
Activity:
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Build a tower
Materials:
• Index cards
Directions:
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Break students into equal groups.
Give each group a stack of index cards
Tell the groups that they are working together to build the tallest tower out of index cards.
Notes: Facilitator should look for the social skills peers are using with another, such as:
Observe group dynamics – Who takes charge? Is there discussion or does one person take over? Any positive or negative comments being
said? **You may want to take some notes on your observations so that you can refer back to what you saw.
DISCUSSION
How did you get started?
How did you decide on the design?
Was it easy to get started?
Did your team agree right away on the plan?
Interactions with Others
Self-Control/Listening
Understanding others’ feelings
Fitting In
Conversation Time
Wrap Up
PRO-SOCIAL GROUP
Expectations
1.
Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up
2.
Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready.
3.
Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side.
Remember Confidentiality
What is said in the room stays in the room!
WHAT IS SELF CONTROL?
Definition: The ability to demonstrate control over one’s emotions & reactions.
Examples of non self control behaviors are:
shouting out
making sounds
Verbal sarcasm
words
fighting
giggling
shutting down
avoidance
eating too much or not at all
WHY DO PEOPLE LOSE CONTROL?
Sick
Tired
Sleepy
Heard bad news
Got into trouble
Experienced some sort of loss
Home troubles
Having to do something you don’t want to.
Peer pressure
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOUR ABOUT TO LOOSE CONTROL?
Physical changes
 Tense, hot, sweaty, fidgety and red color
Emotional Changes
 Sad, Bad Mood, Upset, Sarcasm, Joking, feeling Overwhelmed, Anxious
Mental Changes
 Negative thoughts, Racing Thoughts, Worry
PUT ON YOUR THINKING CAPS!
Questions:
1. What would school, home and your community look like if no one
had self control?
(think of your relationships with your parents, teachers, peers)
2. Do you think its important to have self control?
3. What can you do to ensure you don’t lose self control?
 For example: Your teacher tells the class something and you didn’t hear what the teacher said.
All you hear is noise around you. What can you do?
A: Ask the teacher to repeat him/her self
A lot of times, misunderstandings occur because…
 we don’t hear correctly
 we don’t listen to what is being said.
FUN ACTIVITY TIME
Story time: Pass Right/Pass Left
ACTIVITY:
Have your entire group form a circle. The best format is to have them seated on the floor sitting “Indian" style. If this
will not work with your group, you can have them in chairs or even standing in a circle. Give each person in the
circle a penny, card, or some other small item that can be passed easily from hand to hand. Tell the group that you
are going to read them a story and every time they hear any word that sounds like right, they are to pass the button
in their hand to he person on their right depending on what they heard. Start reading the story slowly so that they
have a chance to catch on to what you want them to do. After a few passes stop the story and ask them how they
are doing. Check to see that everyone has a button in his hand. If your group is typical, some will have two or
three buttons and others will not have any. Have them redistribute the buttons so that everyone has one again.
Now continue to read the story, getting faster as you go. Stop the story a couple of more times to check on how
they are doing.
From the book: Activities that teach
STORY: “LIFE WITH THE WRIGHT FAMILY”
One day the Wright family decided to take a vacation. The first thing they had to decide was
who would be left at home since there was not enough room in the Wright family car for
all of them. Mr. Wright decided that Aunt Linda Wright would be the one left at home.
Of course this made Aunt Linda Wright so mad that she left the house immediately
yelling "It will be a right cold day before I return".
The Wright family now bundled up the children, Tommy Wright, Susan Wright, Timmy Wright
and Shelly Wright and got in the car and left. Unfortunately, as they turned out of the
driveway someone had left a trash can in the street so they had to turn right around
and stop the car. They told Tommy Wright to get out of the car and move the trash can
so they could get going. Tommy took so long that they almost left him in the street.
Once the Wright family got on the road, Mother Wright wondered if she had left the
stove on. Father Wright told her not to worry he had checked the stove and she had not
left it on. As they turned right at the corner, everyone started to think about other
things that they might have left undone.
No need to worry now, they were off on a right fine vacation. When they arrived at the gas
station, Father Wright put gas in the car and then discovered that he had left his wallet
at home. So Timmy Wright ran home to get the money that was left behind. After Timmy
had left, Susan Wright started to feel sick. She left the car saying that she had to throw
up. This of course got Mother Wright's attention and she left the car in a hurry. Shelly
Wright wanted to watch Susan get sick, so she left the car too. Father Wright was left
with Tommy Wright who was playing a game in the backseat.
With all of this going on Father Wright decided that this was not the right time to take a
vacation, so he gathered up all of the family and left the gas station as quickly as he
could. When he arrived home, he turned left into the driveway and said "I wish the
Wright family had never left the house today! Right?”
STRATEGIES TO SELF-CONTROL
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Listening: How do we show self-control with listening?
 Eye-contact
 Asking for understanding
 ???
Respect: How do we show self-control with respect?
 Raise your hand
 Wait until others are finished speaking
 Say Excuse Me
 ????
Example: Some one is constantly talking and you want to say something:. What can you do?
Stop-Think-React
Situation:
 You wake up late for school and your mom is rushing you to hurry up. You find yourself feeling rushed and
upset that your mom is yelling at you, when you already know your late
You should.....
YOU COULD ……………..
Stop:
 STOP- (Count 1,2,3,…10)
 Breath in and out
Think
 Self Affirmations:
“Its ok, I am late but I can do this, it will be ok, no need to get upset”
React
• Acknowledge the situation with your mom
• Try your best to hurry and let your mom know your going as fast as you can
(Calmly)
YOU HAVE MASTERED SELF-CONTROL!!
Listening
Taking turns
Stop-Think-React
Interactions with Others
Self-Control
Understanding others’ feelings
Fitting In
Conversation Time
Wrap Up
PRO-SOCIAL GROUP
Expectations
1.
Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up
2.
Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready.
3.
Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side.
Remember Confidentiality
What is said in the room stays in the room!
WHAT DO YOU SEE?
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Why is it important to understand body language when speaking to
someone?
 Making Friends, talking to an adult, a peer in class.
What “Cues” will help you understand how someone else is feeling?
 Tone of voice, posture and facial expression
Try to figure out what the other person might be feeling?
 Angry, sad, happy, anxious, etc…
BODY LANGUAGE SPEAKS VOLUME?
http://www.howcast.com/videos/10608-How-To-Interpret-Body-Language
Pantomimes
HOW TO TELL!
How can you tell if someone is interested in what you have to say?
How do you know when is your turn to speak?
How do you know when its your turn to just sit back and listen?
YOUR TURN
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Role Play 
How can you let the other person know you understand what they are feeling?
 Nod your head
 Keep good eye contact
 Touch or don’t touch the person
 Get closer or don’t get closer
 Stay or walk away
 Etc.
Decide on what's the best way and do it!
Interactions with Others
Self-Control
Understanding others’ feelings
Fitting In
Conversation Time
Wrap Up
PRO-SOCIAL GROUP
Expectations
1.
Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up
2.
Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready.
3.
Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side.
Remember Confidentiality
What is said in the room stays in the room!
FITTING IN…….
Definition:
To Belong, To make Plan for it, to make an adjustment for it.
1. How do you know when you fit in to a group?
Likeable behaviors and non likeable behaviors.
2. How do you know when peers are accepting of who you are?
Accepting behaviors?
Body language is important!!!!!! (learned in lesson 4)
WHAT ARE YOU DOING?
Attention Seeking Behaviors
- Center of Attention
• Party, Class, Home
- Inappropriate Behaviors
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speaking out of turn
making jokes
making noises
body language
being bossy
- Appropriate fitting in behaviors:
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taking turns
staying on topic in a conversation
appropriate eye contact
smiling, body language mimics the others
appearance and hygiene
You like to make people laugh, when would be a great time to be funny?
HOW DO YOU KNOW?
How do you know when your not fitting well with others?
- Body Language (ignoring, walking away, looking somewhere else like the clock)
- Verbal (changing topics, talking to someone else, insult, making fun of you)
Do you continue trying to talk to people who don’t want you to be with them?
Yes or no? Why?
How do you know when you ARE fitting in?
- You feel accepted, peers are looking for you, they respond back too you appropriately)
You got, it!
You’re an expert on Body
Language!
Interactions with Others
Self-Control
Understanding others’ feelings
Fitting In
Conversation Time
Wrap Up
PRO-SOCIAL GROUP
Expectations
1.
Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up
2.
Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready.
3.
Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side.
Remember Confidentiality
What is said in the room stays in the room!
WHAT IS?
What is a conversation?
1. A form of interactive, spontaneous communication between two or more people
who are following rules of etiquette.
2. What are some “cues” to look for when wanting to talk to some one?
3. What are some “cues” to look for to maintain a conversation?
Conversation DO'S
CONVERSATAIONS
Look at the person or people you are talking to
If you haven’t met before, introduce yourself and ask their name
Use a person’s name when talking to them
Ask questions when you don’t understand something
Stick to the subject
Say nice things about people and praise those who deserve it
It's fine to disagree, but disagree politely
Conversation DONT'S
Don't fidget, look elsewhere, or wander off while someone else is talking
Don't listen in on conversations you aren‚t part of
Don't interrupt when someone else is talking
Don't whisper in front of another person
Don't whine, tattletale, brag, or say mean things about others
Don't ask personal questions such as how much things cost or why someone looks or dresses the way they do
Don't point or stare
Don't argue about things that aren't important
Some Magic Words to Being Polite
“Thank You”
“Please”
“May I?”
“Excuse Me”
WHEN AND WHERE?
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How do you know when it’s a good time to start a conversation?
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How do you know it is not a good time to start a conversation?
3.
Do you talk to adults the same way you talk to your peers? If not, why
not?
4.
Where are some appropriate places in school to start a conversation?
PRACTICE IT!
• Activity time
• Card game
Students can learn how to express an action, emotio
Interactions with Others
Self-Control
Understanding others’ feelings
Fitting In
Conversation Time
Wrap Up
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Celebration
Student Survey
PRO-SOCIAL GROUP
Expectations
1.
Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up
2.
Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready.
3.
Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side.
Remember Confidentiality
What is said in the room stays in the room!
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