Transcript PowerPoint Slide Show - Open Sky Wilderness Therapy

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Mindful
Parenting:
Emotional Regulation &
Boundary Holding
Presented by:
Norman Elizondo
Family Wellness Counselor, Open Sky Wilderness Therapy
Boundaries 101:
Successful Strategies for Setting, Keeping,
and Following Through with Boundaries to
Support Healthy Relationships
Jonathan Mitchell, MA, LPC
Clinical Therapist
Open Sky Wilderness Therapy
Boundaries are Relational!
(read: RISKY)
With Relationship, Boundaries
Take on Higher Stakes…
If Boundaries
Haven’t Worked
Explore the polarity:
Non-Relational Punishment --- Lenient Friendship
If Boundaries
Haven’t Worked
• When I make a boundary from a place in
which I am triggered (e.g., have taken what is
happening personally), I become less
effective.
• However, I can always use this experience as a way of strengthening
a relationship by becoming transparent and disarmed, thereby
increasing my chances of a boundary being met!
If Boundaries Haven’t Worked
• How do I “break” relationship
when I am holding a boundary?
• What happens to me
personally when I hold a
boundary and it is broken?
• Through this investigation, I
can both become more
effective in holding them, and
grow closer to my children.
What Can This Look Like?
• Most of the time, when we struggle holding
boundaries (or boundaries struggle to be held)
something from our own family of origin is
getting in our way (i.e., breaks the relationship
in that moment).
Awareness
The state or ability to perceive, feel,
or be conscious of events, objects
or sensory patterns.
We can purposefully focus awareness
Physical
Spiritual
Awareness
Emotional
Mental
Mindfulness
“…non-elaborative,
nonjudgmental, presentcentered awareness in
which each thought,
feeling, or sensation that
arises in the attentional
field is acknowledged and
accepted as it is.”
(Bishop et al., 2004)
The Four- line Feelings Check
• Physical (body): internal & external physical sensations,
sight, sound, smell and taste
• Mental (mind): thoughts & cognitions
• Emotional (heart): mood & specific emotions
• Spiritual (soul): sense of connectedness & integration
If Boundaries
Haven’t Worked
• When I make a boundary from a place in
which I am triggered (e.g., have taken what is
happening personally), I become less
effective.
• However, I can always use this experience as a way of strengthening
a relationship by becoming transparent and disarmed, thereby
increasing my chances of a boundary being met!
If Boundaries Haven’t Worked
• How do I “break” relationship when I am holding a
boundary?
What happens to me personally when I hold a
boundary and it is broken?
Through this investigation, I can both become more
effective in holding them, and grow closer to my
children.
Hold the line
1. Statement of
Imminent
Consequences.
2. Verbally, experientially
enforcing the
consequence.
If Boundaries
Haven’t Worked
Explore the polarity:
Non-Relational Punishment --- Lenient Friendship
Boundaries are Relational!
The Four- line Feelings Check
• Physical (body): internal & external physical sensations, sight,
sound, smell and taste
• Mental (mind): thoughts & cognitions
• Emotional (heart): mood & specific emotions
• Spiritual (soul): sense of connectedness & integration
Present moment awareness allows us
to purposefully choose our action and
our speech.
LET EVERY BOUNDARY BE FUELED BY THE
STATEMENT, “I LOVE YOU!” AND “I AM IN
CHARGE.”
Holding boundaries is tough,
emotional work so in the moment:
1. Practice Mindfulness and become Aware
2. Emotionally Regulate by practicing Three-fold
breathing and Interoception
3. Validate the other person
4. Make, verbalize and hold
the boundary.
Alignment, Relaxation
Resilience
Thank you!
• Your participation speaks volumes to the dedication
and love you have for yourself and your family…
• Contact Information:
[email protected]
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