Transcript HOW TO GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY

HOW TO GET OUT OF
YOUR OWN WAY!
Things We Do That Hurt
Our Chances For Success
You think you are having
a bad day
The Dutch protect Holland
The British protect London
Most Powerful /
Technologically advanced
nation on the face of the
earth.
Protects one of it’s
greatest cities.
Success Defined
• What do you consider success?
What is success?
• Power to acquire whatever one
demands of life without
violating the rights of others.
What is success?
• Choosing to enter into the arena
of action, determined to give
yourself to that which will
better mankind forever.
Simply put;
• To be all I can be to help others
be all they can be.
Simply put;
• The only one who can stop you
from being that person is you.
Why do people fail?
• Many just do not feel the need to
succeed.
Why do people fail?
• Many are afraid of success.
Why do people fail?
• Some are suspicious of success.
BEING SUCCESSFUL
• Is the biggest problem you have
yourself?
• It has been said that success is 87%
people knowledge and 13% product
knowledge.
• People knowledge includes knowing
yourself.
• GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY!!
BEING SUCCESSFUL
• Is the biggest problem you have
yourself?
• It has been said that success is
87% people knowledge and 13%
product knowledge.
BEING SUCCESSFUL
• People knowledge includes knowing
yourself.
• GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY!!
SELF SABOTAGING TRAITS
•We all do it
•Some of us make
a habit of it
A poor understanding of
people
• “The most important single
ingredient in the formula of
success is knowing how to
get along with people.”
(THEODORE ROOSEVELT )
Three things to remember
about people
• 1.They can be peculiar / odd
• 2.They tend to see things from their
own perspective
• Example:
• Patience is something we greatly admire in
eth driver behind us, but not the one in front
of us.
• 3.They can be insecure
Remedy for the poor
understanding of people
• 1. Find the key to their life
• Listen to them – ask questions
• 2. Show them their benefits
• Ways to improve
• 3. Give them encouragement
• A compliment is like verbal sunshine!
BLAMING OTHERS
• People who do this make others
out to be the “BAD GUY” when
things go wrong
• When you blame someone else for
your feelings or behaviour you give
them CONTROL over your life
• You envision yourself as the victim
REMEDY FOR BLAMING
OTHERS
• 1. Assume you are part of the problem
• 2. Accept responsibility
• 3. Admit your wrong-doing
• It is tough to say “I AM SORRY”!
LACK OF FOCUS
• “Get good advice and
you will succeed; don’t
go charging into battle
without a plan”
(PROVERBS 20:18 GOOD
NEWS FOR MODERN MAN)
A Lack of focus will cause
you to……….
• 1. Waste time
• 2. Waste talent
• 3. Misuse resources
A LACK OF FOCUS ????
• 168 Hours in a week
• 37 of these on average are for
discretionary use
• 1924 hours a year
• 19,240 hours a decade
• 144,300 hours in a lifetime
• How you use these discretionary
hours makes or breaks your
success
What is the single most
heard phrase daily
worldwide?
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“You Have Mail”
127 million times a day
Elwood Edwards
What are the next most
common phrases?
• Welcome, files done, good by
Email
• Average person checks his/hers
5 times a day
• Average person never goes
more than 3 days without
checking
The average person
spends:
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20 years sleeping
6 years watching television
5 years dressing
3 years waiting for others
1 year on the telephone
4 months tying their shoes
So…………………………
• Just think of the extra things
you could with those 39 years if
only;
So…………………………
• 20 years sleeping
• 6 years watching
television
• 5 years dressing
• 3 years waiting
for others
• 1 year on the
telephone
• 4 months tying
their shoes
We could walk
around sleep
deprived,
barefooted and
naked, not
talking on the
phone or
watching
television; while
we were waiting
on someone
REMEDY FOR A LACK
OF FOCUS
• 1.What are my interest?
• What excites you?
• What are you passionate about?
• 2. What are my opportunities?
• Professionally / Personally?
• 3. What are my gifts?
• Writing, administration, teaching are
a few examples
Remedy for wasted time
Remedy for wasted time
NOT BEING INFORMED
• 1. Facts mean very little until they
are rightly understood, related
and interpreted
• 2. Do I gather enough facts before
I make crucial decisions; or do I
act impulsively?
• 3. Do I check out the reason
behind behavior I do not
understand; or do I just react?
INFORMATION
• “It is a capitol mistake to theorize
before one has data. Insensibly
one begins to twist the facts to
suit theories instead of theories to
suit the facts”
(SHERLOCK HOLMES)
INFORMATION
• In other words, without good
information, we won’t see things
the way they really are; you will
see them as you think they are.
Remedy for Poor
Information
• 1. Make no decision without
factual information
• 2. Make persons seeking a
decision responsible to obtain the
factual information
Surrounding yourself with
negative people
• Questions to ask before you “Huddle”
your team;
• Do they believe in me?
• RESPECT
• Do they have my best interest at
heart?
• LOYALTY
• Can they help me?
• Their abilities
Before going into the
“Huddle” with negative
thinkers
• If they do help me , will it
change their attitude?
• Can I improve them through
their association with my
team?
TEAMWORK
•Focusing on
weaknesses or
negatives divides a
team and destroys
it.
REMEDY FOR NEGATIVE
PEOPLE
• Choice is the key;
• When possible….
Chose not to be with them
• When impossible…..
Chose to rise above them!
Expecting Failure
•You will generally
get what you
expect!
EXPECTING FAILURE
• Epitaph on the Pessimist's Tombstone
I Expected This!
Keys to successful
relationships
• Build on strengths –
Not weaknesses
• Expect only the best!
REMEDY FOR
EXPECTING FAILURE
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Predetermine the picture;
How do we make this good?
Eliminate the negatives
Plan the positives
•GET EXCITED!
INABILITY TO LEARN
FROM OTHERS
• “If there is any one secret to
success, it lies in the ability of a
person top get the other person’s
point of vie and see things from his
angle as well as your own”
(HENRY FORD)
This type of person has an
“I” problem
• I= Infallible;
• I am right all of the time
• I= Inflexible;
• I am stubborn and set in their ways
• I= Insecure;
• I Can’t
Remedy for being unable to
learn from others
• Hang around “SMARTER” people that
yourself
• Soon you will start learning from them or you
will be left behind by them.
• The books you read and who you associate
yourself with will determine your course for
the rest of your life.
Refusing to take a risk
• “What kind of man would live
where there is no daring? I Don’t
believe in taking foolish chances,
but nothing can be accomplished if
we don’t take any chances at all.”
(CHARLES LINDBERG)
Remedy for refusing to take
risk
• Get bigger goals
• Get associated with
“Bigger” people
Albert Einstein
• “Great
spirits have
always encountered
violent opposition
from mediocre
minds”
Undisciplined Living
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Not
Not
Not
Not
managing
managing
managing
managing
time.
energy.
goals.
moods.
• Either manage your moods or your
moods will manage you.
• Undisciplined living will destroy
your success.
Remedy for undisciplined
living
• Set up standards that require
accountability
• Work by standards; not your
moods.
• Everyone has the same amount of
time; it is what you chose to do
with your time that makes the
difference.
The Tongue
• “The boneless tongue, so small can crush
and destroy” declared the Greek
• “The tongue destroys a greater hoard”
asserts the Turk “ Than does the sword”
• A Persian Proverb wisely saith “A lengthy
tongue, an early death”
Or sometimes takes the form instead “Don’t let
your tongue cut off your head”
THE TONGUE
• THE TONGUE CAN SPEAK A
WORD WHOSE SPEED” SAY THE
CHINESE “OUTSTRIPS THE
STEED”
• WHILE ARAB SAGES THIS
IMPART: “THE TONGUE’S GREAT
STOREHOUSE IS THE HEART”
THE TONGUE
• FROM HEBREW WIT THE MAXIM
SPRUNG “THOUGH FEET WOULD
SLIP, NE’ER LET THE TONGUE”
THE TONGUE
• THE SACRED WRITER
CROWNS THE WHOLE:
“WHO KEEPS THE
TONGUE DOTH KEEP
THE SOUL”
BEING STOPPED BY FAILURE
• Failures are a part of our lives
• The attitude we have toward
them, however, separates the
successful people from the
unsuccessful.
FAILURE PERSPECTIVES
• People who are stopped by
failure see themselves from
a personal perspective.
• People who are not stopped
by failure see themselves
from a process perspective.
REMEDY FOR BEING
STOPPED BY FAILURE
• LIGHTEN UP…. Don’t take everything
so personally
• FOCUS ON THE POSSIBILITIES
……Not the liabilities
• NEVER STAY DOWN…..get back up
• People admire courage more than
brilliance
• THE GREATEST BOOKS THAT HAVE
BEEN WRITTEN ARE ABOUT
REMEDY FOR BEING
STOPPED BY FAILURE
• The greatest books that have ever
been written are about courage, not
on being brilliant.
REMEMBER THIS
• Failure does not mean I am a failure, it
does mean that I have not yet
succeeded.
• Failure does not mean I have
accomplished nothing; it does mean
that I have learned something
• How I apply that learning experience
determines success or failure
REMEMBER THIS
• Failure does not mean I have been
a fool; it does mean I had enough
faith to experiment
• Failure does not mean I have been
disgraced; it means I dared to try.
REMEMBER THIS
• Failure does not mean that I don’t
have “it”; it does mean that I have
to do something a different way
• Failure does not mean I am inferior;
it does mean I am not perfect.
THE FOUR D’S OF
SUCCESS
DREAMS
THE FOUR D’S OF
SUCCESS
DESIRES
DREAMS
THE FOUR D’S OF
SUCCESS
DETERMINATION
DESIRES
DREAMS
THE FOUR D’S OF
SUCCESS
DESTINY
DETERMINATION
DESIRES
DREAMS
BE A GARDENER OF
PEOPLE
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12 ROWS WORTH PLANTING
4 Rows of Peas
3 rows of Squash
5 rows of Lettuce
Four Rows Of Peas
• P• P• P• P-
Preparedness
Perseverance
Promptness
Politeness
Three Rows Of Squash
• Squash Criticism
• Squash Gossip
• Squash Indifference
Five Rows Of Lettuce
Faithful
• Let Us Be Unselfish
• Let Us Be Loyal
• Let Us
Love One Another
• Let Us
Be Truthful
• Let Us Be
Things that truly matter
Success is more than
making money.
Success is in the trying, not the
triumph.
Things that truly matter
Life is hard… and not always
fair.
Life is a series of problems.
Do we want to moan about them or
solve them?
Things that truly matter
Life is also fun, and
incredibly funny.
Of all the gifts bestowed
by nature, laughter must
be close to the top.
Things that truly matter
We live by choice, not chance.
No one here was ask whether he/she
would accept life.
That is not the choice;
the choice is how we live our
lives.
Things that truly matter
Attitude is a choice- the most important
one you will make.
Don’t let the world around you squeeze
you into it’s own mold.
Things that truly matter
Habits are a key to all success.
The only difference in those that fail
and those that succeed is their
habits.
“We are what we repeatedly do.
Excellence, then, is not an act,
but a habit.” Aristotle
Things that truly matter
Being thankful is a habit- the best
one you will ever have.
Don’t complain because of what you
don’t have, appreciate what do
have.
Things that truly matter
Good people build their lives
on a foundation of
respect.
Treat others as you would
like to be treated.
Things that truly matter
Honesty is still the best
policy.
‘Nuff said!
Things that truly matter
Kind words cost little, but
accomplish much.
Few things in life are more
powerful than a positive
push!
Things that truly matter
Real motivation comes from
within.
Your chance for success in
any undertaking can be
measured in your belief in
yourself.
Things that truly matter
Goals are dreams with
deadlines.
People with goals succeed
because they know
where that are going.
Things that truly matter
There is no substitute for
hard work.
The best life offers you is
a chance to work hard at
work worth doing.
Things that truly matter
You have to give up something to get
something.
Decide what you want, decide what
you are willing to exchange for it,
and go to work.
Things that truly matter
Successful people don’t find time, they
make time.
Time is life , it is irreversible and
irreplaceable
Things that truly matter
The body needs exercise and
nutrition; so do the mind
and spirit.
Your mind , body and spirit
act in concert to
determine your health
and wellbeing
Things that truly matter
It is ok to fail, everyone else
has.
Sometimes if you are not
failing you are not
Things that truly matter
Life is simpler when we know what is
essential.
The heart sees rightly what is
sometimes invisible to the eye
Things that truly matter
Essential #1 is being a good person.
Do all the good you can;
Every time you can;
by all the means you can;
for all the people you can.
BE A WINNER!
•KEEP YOUR
GOALS OUT OF
REACH; NOT
OUT OF SIGHT
My contact information
•Sandy Davis
[email protected]
318-425-5351
1511 Doctors Drive
Bossier City, LA.
71115