Transcript ANGER MANAGEMENT - karuppurojakkal

Be Blessed by the Divine.
Workshop on Anger
Management
By Varadharajan M.
Important Quote.
“By Doing Service, one should not feel he has
done some obligation to the Society. Rather he
should thank the Society for giving him an
opportunity to serve .”
Workshop on Anger Management
Knowledge is Divine and hence it should be
shared.
Knowledge is unlimited and hence we should
keep on Learning Good things and share with
everyone.
Knowledge is Powerful.
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Three Things that Deteriorate Your Life:
1. LIQUOR (Uncommon)
2. Arrogance (Not in Everyone)
3. ANGER (Very Common)
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LUST, GREED & ANGER are 3 Gateways to HELL.
Hence from the previous 2 Slides, ANGER is
one common factor which is common among
all of us (with varying degree)
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What is Anger?
What can Anger do?
Why should we get Angry?
How to Control Anger?
Composition of an Ideal Person
Conclusion
WHAT IS ANGER- ?
Anger is one letter short of “DANGER”.
It is the response when some expectation is not met
thereby resulting in the form of Shouting, Scolding,
Striking, Hatred and also by Silence.
Sometimes Pre-conceived Notions lead to
Intolerance which results in Anger. (Swami’s Quote)
During Anger you upset yourself first and then be
kind enough to upset others.
WHAT IS ANGER- ?
Anger is the condition by which the Tongue works faster
than the Mind.
It is said that “Of all the 5 Senses, the Tongue is the most
powerful one, since it performs two functions of “Taste” &
“Speech” & it is the Uncontrolled Tongue that leads to
Anger.
Therefore Anger is the younger Brother of Lunacy.
Anger is always on the Past Actions.
Action Vs Reaction (Reaction is always more dangerous
than Action)
EGO is the Prefix of ANGER.
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Entire Universe lives on two “Tents”
Content which leads to Happiness &
Discontent which leads to Anger.
WHAT CAN ANGER DO?
Anger can destroy peace and harmony
(Explain 90/10 principle)
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.(Uncontrollable)
90% of life is decided by how you react.(Controllable)
Anger can end in tragedies
Anger can produce Ulcers, Insomnia, Heart
Diseases and Hypertension.
Why Should We Get Angry?
Why should we get angry and get upset and
immobilised about a thing that stand, not
even 1% chance of changing?
If observed closely we would realise that by
expressing anger we have not been able to
bring out the desired change in people.
Why Should We Get Angry?
(Funny thing is we get Angry with the same
person for the same reason). But never get Angry
with Strangers even if they are wrong.
For every minute you are Angry with someone, you
lose 60 Seconds of happiness, that you can never
get back. So why do you get Angry?
Therefore anger has the effect of pouring another
glass of sweet water into the Ocean.
How to Control Anger
Apply 90/10 Principle in your life.
Follow the Anger Vaccination Kit.
By Being Humourous.
Some Practical ways of controlling Anger.
Train your Subconscious Mind to be +ive.
By attempting to be an Ideal Person.
Parents to be a Role model for Children
A great Person has said “We cannot change the
World but we can change ourselves.”
Anger Vaccination Kit
Do not generally get upset though you may
react (just fake).
Consider others have right to be different
from you.
Try to get rid off expectations you have on
others.
Have a sense of humour.
Anger Vaccination Kit
List out all the Positive traits of a person with
whom you are Angry.
Have a dialogue with the ultimate consumer
of your Anger.
List out all benefits you will enjoy by giving
up Anger.
Anger Vaccination Kit
Put in yourself in a situation of others getting
angry with you.
Ensure satisfaction of your basic needs
eating, sleeping etc.
Try to reduce Chillies, Salt and Tamarind in
your diet.
HUMOUR – Reverse of ANGER
Try to be humorous as Humour increases the
longevity of Life.
During Anger body becomes stiff but during
Humour the body is totally relaxed.
HUMOUR – Reverse of ANGER
Laughter is God’s Sunshine.
Laughter reduces stress hormone levels.
Hence you feel relaxed.
Laughter enhances your immunity by
improving your mood.
Your Immune System is stronger on your
“up” days and you are less prone to upper
respiratory infections.
Some Practical ways of
Controlling Anger.
For Short Term Treatment
Try not to get Angry but Suppressing the Anger is
more dangerous than Expressing the Anger. (Inner
Organs get damaged)
If you get angry, Drink Cold Water in slow sips.
Try to get away from the scene of Anger.
Use Japanese Method.
For Children – Apply Lion’s Posture.
Long Term Treatment.
Attitude Change – Be Positive & Assertive
Flexibility –Try to learn to be flexible.
Satisfaction of Basic needs
Diet
Balance your mind to solve your problem.
Maturity.
Train your Subconscious Mind. (Be Positive)
Be Calm to live longer
Try to Avoid Enmity.
Composition of an Ideal Person
Shark Quality
Dolphin Quality
Carp Quality
Composition of an Ideal Person
Composition of an Ideal Person
– 75% Dolphine
– 15% Shark
– 10% Carp
Guide Your mind
Guide Your mind on to Peace and
Equanimity
"Shaanthih! Shaanthih! Shaanthih!:”
The Above manthra will quieten the
waves of anger.
Conclusion
To lead a good Life follow this basic principle
and try to hang this message at every corner of
your house.
“SACRIFICE YOUR RIGHTS FOR
THE SAKE OF HAPPINESS”
LOVE ALL & SERVE ALL.
Other Workshops
1. Know Your Inner World.
2. Effective Presentation
3.
Personality Development through Self Confidence
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7.
Child – Parent Relationship.
Good Health including Food Habits
Yoga and Breathing Techniques
Attitude and Positive Thinking
THANK YOU!