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Habit 5
Seek First to Understand,
Then to be Understood
**** Don’t forget, this curriculum is based on the 7 Habits of Highly
Effective Teens.
Self Evaluation
Rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 5 - how you think the
following people would rate you as a listener:
Poor
Average
Great
Your best friend
1
2
3
4
5
Your parents/guardian
1
2
3
4
5
A team partner
1
2
3
4
5
A friend at school
1
2
3
4
5
A family member
1
2
3
4
5
Listening
How did you do?
What makes it easy to listen to another person?
How do you feel when someone isn’t listening to
you?
How do you feel when someone IS listening to you?
Please Listen
Share this poem from the
7 Habits book.
Think about it. Have you
ever felt this way?
Do you think friends or
family have felt this way?
Let’s learn how to be a
GREAT listener.
Five Poor Listening Styles
Spacing Out – your mind is wandering to another place
Pretend – you don’t pay much attention but throw in the
occasional “yah” or “uh-huh”
Selective – you only hear worlds that click in your own
interest
Word – you only listen to words, not tone, feeling or
body language
Self-centered – you see everything from only your point
of view
Let’s See a Few In Action
Select two poor listening styles from the previous
slide.
Have four volunteers pair up.
Each pair will illustrate one of the selected poor
listening style.
Have Fun!
Genuine Listening
You really have to listen to get inside another
person’s mind and heart.
It’s standing in another person’s shoes.
It’s repeating back what others are saying.
Remember – it’s not just the words:
7% is the words
40% is the tone/feeling
53% is body language
Please……Hear What I’m
Not Saying
No matter how hard people may appear on the
surface, most everyone is tender inside and has a
desperate need to be understood.
This is a great way to visualize this…….
Read aloud a page in 7 Habits (on next slide)
The Keys to Being a Good
Listener
Genuine Listening – listening with your eyes, ears
and heart
Empathy – understanding and identifying with the
feelings and emotions of another
Kind – treating other people, animals and things
well
Mirroring – repeating back in your own words what
the other person is saying and feeling
What else do you think is
important?
Brainstorm a list of other things that make good
listeners.
Add the four things from the previous slide.
You will need them for the next activity.
Next to this list – create a list of 6 topics you could
discuss with just about anyone.
Now…… It’s your turn.
Get in groups of 3 (your advisor can decide how
that is done).
Each person will have a role:
1 – talker
2 – listener
3 – observer
You will rotate every two minutes.
The Steps
Does each person have a role?
Do you have a topic?
Ready…….break (talk for 2 minutes)
Stop
The observer reports how the two people did in their
role.
Now we switch.
Continue this until each person has been in each of the
three roles.
Let’s try this for real.
See how long you can keep eye contact with
someone while they are talking to you.
Sometime this week, ask your parent, “How’s it
going?” Open your heart and practice genuine
listening. You’ll be surprised by what you learn.
The next time you find yourself wanting to bury
your feelings deep inside you, don’t do it. Instead,
express them in a responsible way.