Transcript Habit 1
Habit 1 Proactive and Reactive By Sierra Scott and Kelsey Clemons Proactive people • Are not easily offended • Take responsibility for their choices • Think before they act • Bounce back when something negative happens • Always find a way to make it happen • Focus on things they can do, and don’t worry about things they can’t Reactive people • Are Easily offended • Blame others • Get angry and say things that they later regret • Whine and complain • Wait for things to happen to them • Change only when they have to Proactive and reactive language Reactive Proactive • I’ll try • I’ll do it • That’s just the way I am • I can do better than that • There’s nothing I can do • I have to • I can’t • You’re ruining my day • Let’s look at all our options • I choose to • There’s gotta be a way • I’m not going to let your bad rub off on me Can and can’t do people Can do people No can do people • Take action to make it happen • Wait for something to happen to them • Think about solutions and options • Think about problems and barriers • Act • Are acted upon Human tool box • Self- awareness : I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions • Conscience : I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong • Imagination : I can envision new possibilities. • Willpower : I have power to choose. Baby steps Try these baby steps to help you be more proactive: 1) Listen carefully to your words today. Count how many times you use reactive language, such as “You make me…” “ I have to…” “why can’t they…” “I can’t …” 2) Write your self a post-it note:”I will not let _______ decide how I am going to feel.” Place it in your locker, on your mirror, or in your planner and refer to it often. 3) The next time you receive a grade that you think is unfair, don't blow it off or cry about it; make an appointment with your teacher to discuss it and then see what you can learn. Conclusion • So what we’re trying to say is that proactive people excel in life because of their good choices and behavior, but reactive people are inefficient with their choices and behavior because they lack responsibility. • Which person are YOU?