Transcript Paying Attention To Our Thinking

Week 1 Agenda
 Lesson 1-Introduction
 Social Skills Overview
 Lesson 2-Active Listening
 Lesson 3-Asking Questions
 Lesson 4-Giving Feedback
 Lesson 5-Knowing Your Feelings
Introduction
Thinking Controls
Behavior
By taking charge
of our thinking
we can take
control of our
lives
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3 Key Types
of Skills
 Cognitive Self Change - Paying attention to
the thoughts and feelings that go on inside of
us to avoid the kinds of thoughts and feelings
that lead us to trouble
 Social Skills – Behaviors or abilities we use
in situations that involve other people
 Problem Solving Skills – Skills to help us
make better choices
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Cognitive
Restructuring
Actions
Thoughts/Perceptions
Feelings
Attitudes/Beliefs
Thinking For A Change
I
will
decide
I am
My own
authority
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Social Skills:
Overview
Social Skills
 Social Skills are the skills we use when we
deal with other people
 Good social skills help get us what we want;
maximizing positive responses, and
minimizing negative responses from other
people
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Social Skill
Active Listening
Active Listening - Definition
 An active way of hearing what the other
person is saying to you
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Active Listening-Skill Steps
1.
2.
3.
4.
Look at the person who is talking
Think about what is being said
Wait your turn to talk
Say what you want to say
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Social Skill
Asking Questions
Asking Questions - Definition
 You want to get
more information
about something
that is important
to you
?
Examples –
 Directions for
something
 More information
 Clarification about
an assignment
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Asking Questions
1. Decide what you would like to know
more about
2. Decide whom to ask
3. Think about different ways to ask
your question. Pick one way
4. Pick the right time and place to ask
your question
5. Ask your question
?
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Social Skill
Giving Feedback
Giving Feedback - Definition
 A way for you to provide information to
another person in an objective, nonthreatening way about what you think or feel
concerning what he or she has said or done
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Giving Feedback
1. Decide if you want to provide objective
2.
3.
4.
5.
information to someone about his/her behavior,
thoughts, or feelings.
Decide what kind of information you wish to
provide.
Think about different ways to give the
information. Pick one way.
Pick the right time and place to give feedback.
Give the other person the information in an
objective manner.
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Social Skill
Knowing Your Feelings
Knowing Your Feelings - Definition
Steps we use to tune
into what is going on
inside of us that make
us think or act in a
certain way.
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Knowing Your Feelings
1. Tune in to what is going on in your
body that helps you know what you
are feeling.
2. Decide what happened to make you
feel that way.
3. Decide what you could call the
feeling.
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Mental Toolbox
 Listening
 Asking Questions
?
 Giving Feedback
 Knowing Your Feelings
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Homework
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