Transcript Realizing your self-worth and increasing your self

Kirk Wilkinson - Founder and President of The Happiness Factor
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Circumstances
10%
Genetics,
40%
Background &
Programming What you
can control
50%
and change
Source: The How of Happiness, Sonya Lyubormirski
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Doctors put in a positive mood
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Optimistic sales people
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3x more intelligence and creativity
Accurate diagnosis 19% faster
Outsell their pessimistic peers
by up to 56%
Students primed to be happy
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Outperform their neutral peers on proficiency tests
“Optimism is a force multiplier” Colin Powell
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Handle stress and uncertainty better
Increased creativity and innovation
Greater trust
Better problem solving
Less conflict and contention – better
relationships
Lower workplace turnover
Healthier and happier
“You don’t have to get
mad just because you
don’t know the
answer!”
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What you do!
Your roles, your net worth,
your mistakes, service to others,
profession, accomplishments,
awards, recognition, your weight,
your looks, your body, etc..
Who you are!
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I make mistakes
Incompetent
Inadequate
I am a bad person!
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Competent
I am able to do
good things!
Adequate
I am a good person!
W.A.I.D.T.
Why am I doing this?
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You are not perfect
You are unable to meet
everyone’s
expectations
Your weaknesses don’t
define you
Though you could be
better – you are OK.
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T S
S = & x I x Time
Strength
G E
Talents
& Gifts
Time
Invested
Skills  Acquired abilities
Intellect  Factual Knowledge
Experience  Experiential Knowledge
People who focus on their talents are 6 times more likely
to be successful in their job and 3 times more likely to
report an excellent quality of life.
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T: Top of Mind and gut reactions
R: Recurring themes, situations or requests
I: Insights from those who ‘believe’ in you
P: Passions and yearnings
L: Learning (speed) – how fast you learn
E: Effortless (or Flow)
S: Satisfaction and fulfillment
Adapted from Now Discover Your Strengths by Donald Clifton
I AM STRONG
Talents – A new vocabulary
• Perseverance
• Empathy
• Resilience
• Compassion
• Learning
• Curious
• Deduction
• Collaborative
• Peacemaker
• Achievement
• Action
• Adaptability
• Analytical
• Arranger
• Ethical
• Take Charge
• Communicator
• Inclusive
• Observation
• Thinker
• Competition
• Connectedness
• Vigilant
• Coach
• Fairness
• Goal Oriented
• Ideation
• Innovator
• Collector
• Add value
• Optimism
• Relationships
• Ownership
• Problem Solver
• Self-Assurance
• Meaningfulness
• Strategic
• Rapport
• Kind
• Framer
• Careful
• Orderly
Adapted from Now Discover Your Strengths by Donald Clifton
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“After 70 years of research it is clear that
people matter, and matter more than
anything else.” George Vaillant
Feelings
Inside out
Outside in
Facts
Needs
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“I am willing to consider that you may be right – but I
need more information…”
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“I can tell this is important to you. Can you tell more
about what this means to you?”
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“Before we continue to disagree, what is it we agree
on?”
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“Can I have some time to process this so that I can give
you a thoughtful response?”
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“Did I?”
坐下闭嘴
SDASU
Sit down and shut up!
W.A.I.T.
Why am I talking?
Questions?
ROV: Value
ROSA: Acceptance
ROS: Strengths
ROF: Failure
ROT: Trust
R.O.D. Discipline
ROW: Who
ROQ: Quiet
Tomorrow:
The Optimist’s
Advantage
Kirk Wilkinson - Founder and President of The Happiness Factor
www.thehappinessfactor.com – [email protected]