Realizing your self-worth and increasing your self
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Transcript Realizing your self-worth and increasing your self
Kirk Wilkinson - Founder and President of The Happiness Factor
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Circumstances
10%
Genetics,
40%
Background &
Programming What you
can control
50%
and change
Source: The How of Happiness, Sonya Lyubormirski
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Doctors put in a positive mood
Optimistic sales people
3x more intelligence and creativity
Accurate diagnosis 19% faster
Outsell their pessimistic peers
by up to 56%
Students primed to be happy
Outperform their neutral peers on proficiency tests
“Optimism is a force multiplier” Colin Powell
Handle stress and uncertainty better
Increased creativity and innovation
Greater trust
Better problem solving
Less conflict and contention – better
relationships
Lower workplace turnover
Healthier and happier
“You don’t have to get
mad just because you
don’t know the
answer!”
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What you do!
Your roles, your net worth,
your mistakes, service to others,
profession, accomplishments,
awards, recognition, your weight,
your looks, your body, etc..
Who you are!
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I make mistakes
Incompetent
Inadequate
I am a bad person!
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Competent
I am able to do
good things!
Adequate
I am a good person!
W.A.I.D.T.
Why am I doing this?
You are not perfect
You are unable to meet
everyone’s
expectations
Your weaknesses don’t
define you
Though you could be
better – you are OK.
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T S
S = & x I x Time
Strength
G E
Talents
& Gifts
Time
Invested
Skills Acquired abilities
Intellect Factual Knowledge
Experience Experiential Knowledge
People who focus on their talents are 6 times more likely
to be successful in their job and 3 times more likely to
report an excellent quality of life.
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T: Top of Mind and gut reactions
R: Recurring themes, situations or requests
I: Insights from those who ‘believe’ in you
P: Passions and yearnings
L: Learning (speed) – how fast you learn
E: Effortless (or Flow)
S: Satisfaction and fulfillment
Adapted from Now Discover Your Strengths by Donald Clifton
I AM STRONG
Talents – A new vocabulary
• Perseverance
• Empathy
• Resilience
• Compassion
• Learning
• Curious
• Deduction
• Collaborative
• Peacemaker
• Achievement
• Action
• Adaptability
• Analytical
• Arranger
• Ethical
• Take Charge
• Communicator
• Inclusive
• Observation
• Thinker
• Competition
• Connectedness
• Vigilant
• Coach
• Fairness
• Goal Oriented
• Ideation
• Innovator
• Collector
• Add value
• Optimism
• Relationships
• Ownership
• Problem Solver
• Self-Assurance
• Meaningfulness
• Strategic
• Rapport
• Kind
• Framer
• Careful
• Orderly
Adapted from Now Discover Your Strengths by Donald Clifton
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“After 70 years of research it is clear that
people matter, and matter more than
anything else.” George Vaillant
Feelings
Inside out
Outside in
Facts
Needs
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“I am willing to consider that you may be right – but I
need more information…”
“I can tell this is important to you. Can you tell more
about what this means to you?”
“Before we continue to disagree, what is it we agree
on?”
“Can I have some time to process this so that I can give
you a thoughtful response?”
“Did I?”
坐下闭嘴
SDASU
Sit down and shut up!
W.A.I.T.
Why am I talking?
Questions?
ROV: Value
ROSA: Acceptance
ROS: Strengths
ROF: Failure
ROT: Trust
R.O.D. Discipline
ROW: Who
ROQ: Quiet
Tomorrow:
The Optimist’s
Advantage
Kirk Wilkinson - Founder and President of The Happiness Factor
www.thehappinessfactor.com – [email protected]