Transcript Going from Coach to Fan!

From the Playground to
the Campus: Becoming
the Parent of a College
Student
Presented by: Division of Student Affairs and
TCNJ Parent and Family Association
Session Learning Outcomes
• Goals for Today:
– To become familiar with the TCNJ philosophy regarding TCNJ parents
– To learn how we apply this philosophy to communication and interaction
with parents and families
– To learn about parent and family activities and services provided by the
College and the Parent and Family Program
– To be introduced to the college curriculum and learning goals for your
student
– To become more familiar with the services and programs that support
your student
– To start to feel…part of the family!
Institutional Philosophy
• The student is at the core of our educational program
• We focus our efforts on student learning and the student
experience
• Desirable student learning outcomes include skills and efficacy in
accomplishing goals and problem-solving
• We partner with parents to help students learn and achieve their
goals and value families as important members of the TCNJ
community
• Acknowledging that the parent-student relationship is in transition
during the college years (moving from director/planner to
advisor/guide), we work to help your family achieve a successful
transition
How TCNJ Partners with Parents & Families
• Advisement & Involvement
– Parent & Family Association Membership
– Family & Family Association Executive Board
• Communication
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Parents Listserve
Text Alert Registration
E-Newsletters
Student Affairs email
Parent and Family Website
FERPA
Conduct Notification Letter
Addressing Concerns and Problem-Solving
…More Partnering…
• College Liaisons – Magda Manetas/Associate VP for
Student Affairs and Dean of Students
([email protected], 609-771-2455)
• Programming
– Accepted Student Day
– Summer Orientation – July 10 – 18, 2012
– Parent & Family Hospitality Suite on Check-In Day: –
August 23, 2012
– Family Weekend – October 19-20, 2012
Your Student & TCNJ
The Greater Curriculum
Intellectual & Academic Development
Personal Development –
Competencies/Independence/Managing
Emotions/Developing Mature Interpersonal
Relationships/Establishing Identity
Vocational Development
Spiritual & Ethical Development - Integrity
A Sense of Belonging & Community
A Sense of Purpose
The Changing Landscape
• Context: Parents are “Gen-X”, some “Baby Boomers” & Students are
“Millenials” or “PAPAs” (Post-Adolescent Pre-Adults)
• Some researchers see this generation of students as on schedule
developmentally – others perceive as extended adolescence
• Technology has provided almost instant and constant communication
between students and parents
• K-12 – a “good” parent is an involved parent, advocacy might have required
the parent to “rescue and fix” for student
• Change from perception of college campus as a safe/inviolable haven to a
place where frightening things can and do happen
• Culture encourages a customer-service orientation to education as a product
and concept that everything is negotiable – grades, roommates
• Students feel special, confident, happy but pressured to achieve and multi-task
• Students conventional, value what parents value
Aspirations
What Parents Hope For Their Students:
Independence
The Ability to Navigate the World
The Ability to Make Sound and
Healthy Decisions
Success and Happiness
Sense of Belonging and Community
…and A Willingness to Carry a Homing Device – Cell
Phones: “The world’s longest umbilical cord.”
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Resources
Residential Education and Housing
Ambassadors
Faculty & Academic Advisors
The Career Center
Counseling and Psychological Services
Student Health Services
Differing Abilities Services
Athletics and Recreation
Student Activities
Religious and Spiritual Life/Chaplains
Campus Police
Alcohol & Drug Education Program
Office of Anti-Violence Initiatives
Center for Academic Success/Tutoring Center and the Writer’s
Place
College Family Feud
1.
In a recent survey of southern universities, on average, how many
times a week did students call home to speak with their parents?
2.
What percentage of TCNJ first year students reported involvement
in a student club or organization?
3.
What percentage of residential students typically stay on campus on
the weekend?
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How many hours per week does the average TCNJ first year
student report that they study?
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What percentage of first year students at TCNJ work on campus?
College Family Feud
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In a recent survey of southern universities, on average, how many
times a week did students call home to speak with their parents?
12 times
What percentage of TCNJ first year students reported involvement
in a club or organization? 83%
What percentage of residential students typically stay on campus on
the weekend? 66% (56% are on campus 3-4 weekends per month)
How many hours per week does the average TCNJ first year
student report that they study? 11-15 hours
What percentage of first year students at TCNJ work on campus?
23%
Questions?
Do you wonder…
• Will my student be lonely?
• Will they get involved – over-involved?
• Will they excel academically?
• Will they have an impossible roommate?
• Will there be anyone there for them when you can’t be?
• How can I help them prepare for this transition?
• Will we have enough money left to retire after we finish educating the
children?