Transcript SELF-ESTEEM - Steele Canyon High School

SELF-ESTEEM
Your feelings of self-worth
OBJECTIVES
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Students will:
define self-esteem
examine factors that influence self-esteem
examine how self-esteem relates to other
areas of their life
 identify personal strengths and weaknesses
 Illustrate manifestations of poor self image
and steps to improve self image
What is self-esteem?
 Self-esteem is a measure of how much you
value, respect, and feel confident about
yourself.
Why is good self-esteem
important?
Self-esteem affects how you communicate
with people and what decisions you make
about your health.
High Self-Esteem
Speaks up for self
Respects self and others
Has confidence
Tries new things
Feels valuable to society
Adjusts to change
Feels optimistic
Makes decisions based on values
Low Self-Esteem
Feels insecure
Disrespects self and others
Vulnerable to peer pressure
Doesn’t Feel valuable
Feels depressed
fears failure
 uses drugs and alcohol
Feels pessimistic
Behaves destructively
Ten tips for improving self-esteem
Volunteer in community
Practice gratitude
Speak positively about yourself and others
Take care of your physical health
Reward yourself when you do well
Try something new (take positive risks)
Choose friends who support you and your positive c
Set a goal to improve a weakness
Cheer yourself through hard times
Have fun and laugh (good clean fun,that is)
Living Above The Line
 Behaviors which exist “above the line” are
related to response-ability, which we define
as “having the ability to respond”. With this
ability comes freedom and choices. “Living
Above the Line” means being accountable
for your actions and willing to make
corrections when necessary. It means
looking at options, choosing solutions and
finding ways to become more effective.
Living below the line
 “Living Below the Line”, on the other
hand, involves characteristics like
laying blame, justifying, denying and
quitting as handy alternatives to
responsibility.
Your Best Self = Ownership
 When you “Live Above the Line”, you take
responsibility for your life. You have greater
control because you stop blaming things
outside yourself for your current situation. It
is the first step toward taking ownership.
Taking this ownership also means not
blaming others for what happens to you.
Making Amends
 The 4 Part Apology
 Apologizing when we’ve made mistakes isn’t
easy. When we find ourselves in those
situations, the “4 Part Apology” can help. It
allows us to acknowledge what we did, take
responsibility for it, and look beyond the
actual incident to the consequences of our
behavior. By stating these consequences
and choosing a different behavior we can
help the person we have affected move from
feeling angry or resentful to being thoughtful
and supportive.
ACKNOWLEDGE
 “It’s All About My Relationships” AAMR
 A All = Acknowledge Take responsibility for
your actions by admitting them. Use “I”
statements when speaking. “I acknowledge
that I didn’t hand in my homework.”
APOLOGIZE
A About = Apologize State the cost or damage your
actions caused. “I apologize for breaking my word and
frustrating you.”
MAKE IT RIGHT
M My = Make IT Right Deal with consequences of the
behavior and offer to make up for it with a solution. ÒWhat
can I do to make it right?Ó
Recommit
 R Relationships = Recommit Make a
commitment to appropriate behavior,
which will mend the relationship. “I
agree to get all of my work in to you
tomorrow and do my best to get future
assignments in on time.”
4-part apology
 Using the “4 Part Apology” cleans
up our mistakes,
 gives us a fresh start and realigns
our integrity.