Transcript Mastering Self Management - Midlands Technical College

Mastering Self Management
Once you accept the responsibility
for choosing and creating the life you
want, the next step is taking
purposeful actions that will turn my
desires into reality.
Procrastinators
• What is procrastination?
• Pg. 88 Case study
• What does acting on purpose mean?
Acting on purpose
Do important actions/things first, before they become
urgent
• Acting on purpose means taking action until you
accomplish the task at hand with the desired outcome.
• Dreams do not take action, creators do. The dreams set
your destination, but unless you act the desired
outcome is not achieved.
• Give examples of famous or not so famous people who
have taken purposeful action to make a difference in
the world or for individuals?
• Must have persistent repetition of purposeful actions
to achieve success. Successful people apply strategies
to create the success they desire.
7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Stephen Covey
• Importance to you is what you value and not what other people
value. Everyone has an opinion about what is important.
• The action is important only if it propels you forward towards
fulfilling your goals. If your action is not assisting you to reach your
goals then you are sabotaging your dreams and desired outcomes.
• If meeting a deadline set by an instructor means you pass or fail the
class, which quadrant would it fall under? Why?
• You have to make the deadlines valuable to you so that you will
accomplish the task.
• Which quadrant do you spend most of your time? Is it assisting you
with meeting your goals or is sabotaging them?
• P. 90-91 Quadrants
Use of quadrants
Will what I am doing today positively affect my life one
year from today?
Creators
Victims
• Spend most of their time in I
and II.
• Schedule conferences, rewrite
notes, form study groups, and
study nearly everyday. Predict
test questions and answer
them.
• They create urgency by
commitment by to
purposefully acting to achieve
their valued goals and dreams;
thus, staying on course.
• Say no the III and IV
• Spend most of their time in
III and IV.
• Repeat unproductive
actions such as blaming,
complaining, excusing, and
wasting time.
Consequently moving
farther off course.
Time and Self Management
-The secret to effective self
management is making choices that
maximize the time you spend in I and II.
-You will need to experiment to see
which tools help you to accomplish
positive outcomes which help you stay
on course and accomplish your valued
dreams and goals.
Time Management Tools
• Monthly calendar
• Next actions list
• Tracking forms
Monthly Calendar
• Overview of quadrants I and II.
• Shows dates, appointments, and assignments.
• Use it whenever you have to schedule
anything. Write down classes, labs, drs. appts.,
deadlines, family responsibilities.
• Say “No” to unscheduled or low priority
opportunities that will not keep you on
course.
• Some people use a PDA or their cell phone
Next Actions List
• P. 94-95 Record what you need to do next, not an overview of the
month or week.
• Write your life goals and corresponding goals that you defined in
chp. 3. More effective than a to do list, since it keeps you on course.
• List Quadrant I actions for each of your goals. Be sure that the
action is important and urgent. Be sure each action is dated,
achievable, personal, positive, and specific (DAPPS).
• List II under your goals-struggling students seldom follow through
with these typed goals. II actions make a huge impact on the
difference in the results you create.
• As you complete an action mark it off of the list. Add new ones as
they arise. This frees your mind to be creative and engage in critical
thinking.
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Tracking Forms
• Pg. 100 This form helps you to coordinate
many actions all directed at a common goal.
• At the end of 7 to 14 days you will see exactly
what you have and have not done to achieve
your goals.
• The tracker keeps the inner defender from
fooling yourself into thinking you are doing
what you need to do to stay on course when
you really are not.
Rewards
p. 96-97
• If you can remember everything you need to do, I
guess you’re not doing very much. Some people
would rather be right than successful.
• Univ. of Ga. Found that students’ self
management skills and attitudes are better
predictors of the their success than SAT or
ACT scores.
• Do the best you can to form a habit of using a self
management system and see how much more
you accomplish and how often you are on course.
Develop Self Discipline
• Self discipline involves persistent small steps.
• Success = self discipline; which is the willingness to do
whatever has to be done, whether you feel like it or
not, until you reach your goals and dreams.
• Our actions reveal whether we have the self-discipline
to stay on course in the face of tempting alternatives.
• Remember wanting and doing are 2 different things.
• To develop self discipline you must have commitment,
focus, and persistence.
Commitment
• Journal 9
• Remember an unbending intention, a single
mindedness of purpose that promises to
overcome all obstacles regardless of how you
may feel at any particular moment.
• Must make a commitment before you can find
a solution to a problem.
• Motivation comes from commitment to fulfill
a purpose.
Focus
• Not allowing your mind to dash from one distraction to another.
• Focus is self discipline in thought.
• Struggling students can become distracted for months. They arrive to class
late, if they come at all, turn in sloppy work or ignore the assignment.
They have taken their eye off of the prize which means they have lost their
commitment to reach their desired goals and dreams.
• Struggling students allow the Inner Defender and Inner Critic to be their
worst enemy. Their ID begins to look for excuses not to complete the
never ending list of tasks that must be completed in order to be
successful. Their IC says, I never was a good student anyway.
• Successful students focus on the Inner Guide to provide them the sprint to
the finish knowing that they can accomplish this task because they have
already gotten this far. They see the finish line and cross it.
Persistence
• Self discipline in action
• Do I love myself enough to keep going? You will
reap the rewards of your efforts and suffer the
victory of defeat.
• Failure is guaranteed if you quit, but success is
not guaranteed simply because you persist.
Remember, if you are doing the same thing over
and over, getting the same result, but expecting
something different you need to try something
new.
• Luanne’s story p. 104
Self Management At Work
• Known as “doing diligence” in the workplace.
• In college “doing diligence” impresses potential
employers by you having an excellent GPA and work
ethic.
• To impress potential employers, quadrant II actions,
gain experience through part time jobs, volunteer
work, internships, and leadership through student
government, clubs, or other activities that relate to
your career.
• Soft skills will help you to get and keep a job along with
using time management skills effectively.
Job Hunting
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Make a list of potential employers and careers that interest you.
Attend a resume writing workshop.
Develop good telephone skills.
Make cold calls to see if a company may have unadvertised
openings.
Develop a resume and tailor the cover letter to meet the job
requirements while highlighting your assets.
Participate in mock interviews.
Visit the Career Services Office on campus.
Do not become discouraged during this difficult time. Focus on the
Inner Guide to get you through and develop a support group to
help.
K now that as you learn the nature of your new job that the tasks
will take you longer than the veterans.
Develop Self Confidence
• You must believe that you can do whatever it is that you want to do.
Do not let others opinions matter to you.
• Pg. 110 Nathan McCall
• Genuine self confidence results from a history of success, and a
history or success results from persistently taking purposeful
actions. A 32 day commitment journal is beneficial.
• I CAN should be your motto.
• You must tell yourself how proud you are of yourself.
• Begin a success list and every day write down at least one thing you
did well and that you are proud of.
• Visualization is an important technique to success not matter what
the area.
• Since we chose the movies that we visualize, why not be the star in
one that you are successful.