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Shakespeare wrote, “This above all: To thine own self be true.”

A Lighthouse or Fantasy?

Do you want to be a lighthouse, steadfastly emanating light from within, ensuring arrival at safe harbor for all

a media caricature, which titillates the senses, beckoning all with sexuality which is pleasing to the eye?

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Modest and Chaste versus neutered, androgynous, and asexual “Let the sisters take care of themselves, and make themselves beautiful, and if any of you are so superstitious and ignorant as to say that this is pride, I can say that you are not informed as the pride which is sinful before the Lord, you are also ignorant as to the excellency of the heavens, and of the beauty which dwells in the society of the Gods. Were you to see an angel, you would see a beautiful and lovely creature. Make yourselves like angels in goodness and beauty.” Brigham Young, Discourses of Brigham Young, p. 215

A gentle suggestion

The longer that a woman retains an angry, resentful, emotional reaction to men’s visual natures, rather than feeling compassion and empathy, she will prolong and hinder attracting a committed, healthy, romantic relationship for herself to enjoy.

Men need to feel a visual attraction as much as a tree needs water to thrive and flourish.

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Are you still trying to climb someone else’s Annapurna?

Are you living a “Banal Script?” • Dancing to old elevator music, Fat Woman, Woman Hater, and Jock?

• Wearing false masks, Creeping Beauty and Play Boy?

• Fearing emotional intimacy, Intellectual, Tough Lady and Queen Bee?

• Hiding from your individual life mission, The Woman Behind the Man and the Man in Front of the Woman?

• Burying resentment to continue being a people pleasing doormat, Mother Hubbard, Nurse, and Teacher?

• Playing the victim and rescuer, Poor Little Me and Big Daddy?

Watch “Run Away Bride”, Luau Scene. Scripts People Live, Transactional Analysis of Life Scripts by Claude Steiner amo

Is Your Picker Broken?

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Be Still

from Bonds That Make Us Free page 247, C. Terry Warner, PhD. http://www.meridianmagazine.com/books/020530bonds29.html, "What, then, do we focus on when living in a self-forgetful and generous way, if not a goal? Part of the answer is this. We do not think of ourselves as a 'force on the move' toward some important objective. Instead, we feel still, inwardly still.

Ask yourself, Who is the person I really need to be? A being who can come into existence only by determined, gritty effort? I think on reflection you will answer, No, the person I need to be is who I am already -- or more accurately who I will be if I cease trying to display myself as worthy and acceptable and thus make myself into a grotesque distortion of who I really am. If this is how you answer, you like many others intuitively agree that we become most ourselves, without distortion, when we relax our frantic effort to justify ourselves and allow ourselves simply to be still -- which means, of course, renouncing the self-betraying way of life.

Still is just the right way to be.” Also read Benjamin Hoff’s, The Tao of Pooh

Those Who Do Not Marry

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ President Lorenzo Snow

“There is no Latter-day Saint who dies after having lived a faithful life who will lose anything because of having failed to do certain things when opportunities were not furnished him or her. In other words, if a young man or a young woman has no opportunity of getting married, and they live faithful lives up to the time of their death, they will have all the blessings, exaltation, and glory that any man or woman will have who had this opportunity and improved it. That is sure and positive” (

Teachings of Lorenzo Snow,

138).

Elder Richard G. Scott

“If you are single and haven’t identified a solid prospect for celestial marriage, live for it. Pray for it. Expect it in the timetable of the Lord. Do not compromise your standards in any way that would rule out that blessing on this or the other side of the veil. The Lord knows the intent of your heart. His prophets have stated that you will have that blessing as you consistently live to qualify for it” (in Conference Report, Apr. 1999, 33; or

Ensign,

May 1999, 27 ).

http://www.ldsces.org/inst_manuals/marriage/m1.htm

Compromise VERSES Compromising Situations

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Scarcity

• False perceptions • Lack of opportunity?

• No scarcity in the eternal perspective • Some

thing

is better than nothing at all is a false concept!

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Your brain should be screaming red flag

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potentially ‘Run!’ IF He or She:

• displays anger and aggression emotionally unavailable • has a dodgy attitude towards chastity

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• i rresponsible • addicted to something, drugs, alcohol, porn, fantasy, etc.

• controlling • plays the victim • not over an ex • has problems with his/her past or his/her childhood that he/she refuses to acknowledge or attempt to resolve • just plain nasty and spiteful Acknowledge red flags and don’t bury your head in the sand. It’s when you don’t acknowledge them when they’re at their most dangerous.

http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/nmls-roughguide-to-a-new-relationship/ (I took a few things out and changed some words in this article that I found on the internet that didn’t apply to the active LDS population.)

The Five A’s That Will End A Romantic Relationship, without Repentance

• Abandonment, physical or emotional • Abuse of body or mind of partner • Addictions • Adultery • Apostasy amo

Elder Oak’s Dating Counsel for Men

“There is another possible contributing factor to the demise of dating and the prominence of the culture of hanging out. For many years the Church has counseled young people not to date before age 16. Perhaps some young adults, especially men, have carried that wise counsel to excess and determined not to date before 26 or maybe even 36.

Men, if you have returned from your mission and you are still following the boy-girl patterns you were counseled to follow when you were 15, it is time for you to grow up. Gather your courage and look for someone to pair off with. Start with a variety of dates with a variety of young women, and when that phase yields a good prospect, proceed to courtship. It’s marriage time. That is what the Lord intends for His young adult sons and daughters. Men have the initiative, and you men should get on with it. If you don’t know what a date is, perhaps this definition will help. I heard it from my 18-year old granddaughter. A “date” must pass the test of three

’s: (1) planned ahead, (2) paid for, and (3) paired off.”

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Elder Oak’s Dating Counsel for Women “Sisters, you seem to have enjoyed my primary concentration on the responsibilities of single men. Now I have a few words for single women.

If you are just marking time waiting for a marriage prospect, stop waiting. You may never have the opportunity for a suitable marriage in this life, so stop waiting and start moving. Prepare yourself for life —even a single life—by education, experience, and planning. Don’t wait for happiness to be thrust upon you. Seek it out in service and learning. Make a life for yourself. And trust in the Lord. Your dedication of a lifetime should follow King Benjamin’s advice to be “calling on the name of the Lord daily, and standing steadfastly in the faith of that which is to come” ( Mosiah 4:11 ).” http://www.lds.org/broadcast/ces/Oaks_000_2005.pdf

Pray for your dates “Pray for what is best for them, which may turn out not to be you. But that is okay. The Lord will bless you, and good things will follow.”

http://speeches.byu.edu/htmlfiles/Chadwick_Bruce_05_2002.html

Fasting and Spiritual Strength

• We fast to teach our bodily appetites to be subjected to our spirits’ control • Appetites – Food – Sex – Companionship – Work and Play balance Recreation, Passions, Attention, Career Advancements, and Public Recognition amo

“Love is Fire

That is the great secret.

It is Fire with the large F. It is Divine Fire. When it is in you it lights you, all of you. And it Transforms. No self-induced flicker can compare with it.

Modern revelation has several words for the emanation that conveys this Love. They are not exact synonyms: Life. Light. Spirit. Power. All are ‘sent forth by the will of the Father through Jesus Christ His Son.’” Truman G. Madsen, four essays on love, p.29

For the Strength of You - Latter

Transcript For the Strength of You - Latter