Transcript Unit 3 PowerPoint Slides

“Victim” or “Creator”:
You Hold the Keys
Unit 3: SDEV101
“victim” vs “Victim”
“v” = Someone that is
acted on and usually
adversely affected by a
force or agent (1): one
that is injured,
destroyed, or
sacrificed under any of
various conditions
“victim” vs “Victim”
“V” = When people do
what they’ve been
doing even when it
doesn’t work out.
Creators
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Change their
beliefs,
behaviors,
attitudes or
environment
to create the best
results they can.
Choice
Victim
Response =
Blaming,
Complaining, Excusing, Repeating
Behavior
Creator
Response = Seeking
solutions, Taking action, Trying
something new
Result
Result
Seldom achieves goal
Often achieves goal
“Living my life is like traveling in my car. If I
want to get where I want to go, I better be
the driver and not a passenger.”
Inner Conversations
Inner Critic: internal voice that criticizes
us for all that goes wrong.
“If you had just …,” “I knew you couldn’t
do it because you are …;” “That idea is
stupid …”
Inner Defender: Inner voices that seeks to
avoid criticism by deflecting it outwardly by
blaming outside circumstances, people or
situations.
“I could have done it but they …,” “I would
have been able to, but I had to …”
More Inner Conversations
Inner Guide: objectively observes
events
“Am I on course or off course? If I
am off course, how can I get back on
course?”
Language of Responsibility
Victims & Creators look at world through
different lenses.
Use different vocabulary to represent reality
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Victims heed the voice of Inner Critic or
Inner Defender
Creators listen to their Inner Guide
Victim Language vs Creator
Language
 I failed another test.
I’m so stupid. I never
should have come to
college.
 I would have passed
that test if I had a
decent teacher. She’s
terrible!
 Darn! I failed the test. I
better go talk to my
teacher to see how I
can improve.
If you don’t like
something change it.
If you can’t change it,
change the way you
think about it!