Transcript A New You! Beliefs & Messages Charlene M. Dewey, M.D., M.Ed., FACP Associate Professor of Medical Education & Administration Associate Professor of Medicine Debbie Smith,

A New You!
Beliefs & Messages
Charlene M. Dewey, M.D., M.Ed., FACP
Associate Professor of Medical Education & Administration
Associate Professor of Medicine
Debbie Smith, M.A.
Life Strategist & Consultant
Sponsored by: This program is provided by Vanderbilt School of Medicine, the Center for
Professional Health, The Faculty and Physician Wellness Committee and the Center for
Women in Medicine.
Conflict of Interest
A New You is sponsored by Vanderbilt School of Medicine, the Center for
Professional Health, the Faculty & Physician Wellness Committee and the Center
for Women in Medicine.
Vanderbilt School of Medicine is accredited by the Accreditation Council for
Continuing Medical Education to provide continuing medical education for
physicians. Vanderbilt School of Medicine designates this educational activity for
a maximum of 1.0 AMA PRA Category 1 Credit(s)™ per session.
Physicians should only claim credit commensurate with the extent of their
participation in the activity. It is the policy of Vanderbilt School of Medicine that
participants in CME activities be made aware of any affiliation or financial interest
that may affect the planner’s involvement and speaker’s presentation(s). Each
planner and speaker has completed and signed a conflict of interest statement;
these relationships will be disclosed to the audience.
Charlene Dewey and Debbie Smith have NO financial
relationships to disclose.
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♀ The overall purpose of this series is
to assist women faculty and
employees with focusing on their
wellness and prioritizing it to the top
of their “to do” list as part of their
new years resolution.
Session 2 - Goals
♀ Our purpose today is to reflect on the
messages that you take in and to
evaluate whether the beliefs you
have formed as a result of those
messages are ones that you really
believe or whether they are ones you
have inherited and need to reexamine and potentially change.
Session 2 - Objectives
1. Women will reassess where they are
with their personal well-being.
2. List at least three protective factors
to help prevent burnout.
3. Reflect on their personal beliefs and
the messages they receive in life.
4. Reflect on how they define success
for themselves.
Session 2 - Agenda
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Introduction
Recap of Session 1
Protective factors for burnout
Beliefs and messages
Small group activity
Summary & evaluations
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What is Thriving?
Embracing the truth of who you are so
that you can freely receive, give and
hope, regardless of your circumstances.
--Debbie Smith, M.A.
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Living is like gardening
The Cycle of Survival
Anxiety about future
Expectations/responsibilities
from others
Exhaustion/Feel
trapped
Scrambling to
perform
Anxiety about performance
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Tending your core (Desires & Gifts)
Weeding the garden (Beliefs)
Cultivating strong roots (Values)
Receiving nourishment in every season
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< Beautiful Blossoms
< Free from weeds
< Well-nourished
< Awareness of “core”
< Strong roots
Burnout
Protective Factors
♀ Personal:
1. Tend to self care issues first
2. Address Maslach’s 6 sources of
burnout
3. Influence happiness through personal
values and choices
4. Adapt a healthy philosophy/outlook
5. Spend time with family & friends
Spickard, Gabbe & Christensen. JAMA, September 2002:288(12):1447-50
Protective Factors
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A supportive spouse or partner
Engage in religious or spiritual activity
Hobbies
Mentor (s)
Spickard, Gabbe & Christensen. JAMA, September 2002:288(12):1447-50
Protective Factors
♀ Work:
1. Address Maslach’s 6 sources of burnout
2. Gain control over environment &
workload
3. Find meaning in work
4. Set limits and maintain balance
5. Have a mentor
6. Obtain adequate administrative support
systems
Spickard, Gabbe & Christensen. JAMA, September 2002:288(12):1447-50
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Postures that lead to
Emotional Exhaustion
♀ Micromanager (over-stepping
boundaries, over-involvement in “caretaking”)
♀ Performance (counterfeit giving)
♀ Pretending (sucking it up)
♀ Worry (managing the future)
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Postures of engagement
♀ Human – rhythm of work & rest;
healthy respect for needs and limits
♀ Rooted – authentic identity & purpose
♀ Honest – joy and sorrow; give &
receive
♀ Gratitude – each day is a gift
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What Happened?
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“The single most important contribution education can
make to a child’s development is to help her toward a
field where her talents best suit her, where she will be
satisfied and competent. We’ve completely lost sight
of that. Instead we subject everyone to an education
where, if you succeed, you will be best suited to be a
college professor. And we evaluate everyone along
the way according to whether they meet that narrow
definition of success…There are hundreds and
hundreds of ways to succeed, and many, many
different abilities that will help get you there.”
--Howard Gardner
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Confusing Messages
♀ Familial
♀ Cultural
♀ Religious
♀ Professional
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Family Messages
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Cultural Messages
The average consumer is
exposed to somewhere
between 250-600 (some
sources say as many as 3,000!)
advertisements per day.
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Professional Messages
♀ Expressing need = weakness
♀ Suck it up!
♀ Pretend you’ve got it all
together
♀ Get more grants!
♀ See more patients!
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Weeds in Toula’s Life
♀ “You’ve passed your expiration date” for
marriage
♀ Your primary goal in life is to get married
and have babies
♀ You’re different than the other kids – you
don’t belong
♀ It’s no use hoping for anything different
than what’s always been
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Toula’s Seeds of Truth
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I love learning
I want to learn about computers
I can change
I can ask for help
I do belong!
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Weeds vs. Truth
Weed
*It’s selfish to take
time for yourself
*Saying “no” means
you’re lazy
*Hide your strengths they’re threatening to
others
Truth
*It’s selfish NOT to
take time for yourself
*Saying “no” means
you’re purposeful
*Give your strengthsthey’re a gift
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Environmental Messages
TRUTH
vs.
Myth
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“The life which is not examined is
not worth living.” --Plato
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Discovering what is true
♀ History (biographies, memoirs)
♀ Community (others’ stories)
♀ Spiritual writings/traditions
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“The moment we begin to fear the
opinions of others and hesitate to tell the
truth that is in us, and from motives of
policy are silent when we should speak,
the divine floods of light and life no
longer flow into our souls.”
--Elizabeth Cady Stanton
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“I will not die an unlived life. I will not live
in fear of falling or catching fire. I choose to
inhabit my days, to allow my living to open
me, to make me less afraid, more accessible,
to loosen my heart until it becomes a wing, a
torch, a promise. I choose to risk my
significance, to live so that which came to me
as seed goes to the next as blossom, and that
which came to me as blossom, goes on as
fruit.”
--Dawna Markova
Summary
♀ Burnout can be prevented and
managed – protect yourself!
♀ Define your own messages in life
and live by them!
♀ Session 3 is in July 2010