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Chapter One
Getting On Course
to Your Success
Choices of Successful Students
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Taking the First Step, Journal 1
Focus Questions
– What does “success” mean to you?
– When you achieve your greatest success,
what will you have, what will you be doing,
and what kind of person will you be?
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Success
Is staying on course
to your desired
outcomes and
experiences, creating
wisdom, happiness,
and unconditional
self-worth along the
way.
Write a Great Life
Journal work is an excellent
approach to uncovering hidden
truths about
ourselves……
Marsha Sinetar
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The Top Choices of Successful Students
Behaviors
• Attend class
regularly
• Do all assigned
work and turn in on
time
• Participate actively
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Attitudes/Beliefs
• Take personal
responsibility
• Be goal-directed
• Believe in yourself
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The "A" Student - An Outstanding
Student
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ATTENDANCE: "A" students have virtually perfect attendance. Their
commitment to the class is a high priority and exceeds other
temptations.
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PREPARATION: "A" students are prepared for class. They always read
the assignment. Their attention to detail is such that they occasionally
can elaborate on class examples.
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CURIOSITY: "A" students demonstrate interest in the class and the
subject. They look up or dig out what they don't understand. They often
ask interesting questions or make thoughtful comments.
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RETENTION: "A" students have retentive minds and practice making
retentive connections. They are able to connect past learning with the
present. They bring a background of knowledge with them to their
classes. They focus on learning concepts rather than memorizing
details.
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ATTITUDE: "A" students have a winning attitude. They have both
the determination and the self-discipline necessary for success.
They show initiative. They do things they have not been told to do.
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TALENT: "A" students demonstrate a special talent. It may be
exceptional intelligence and insight. It may be unusual creativity,
organizational skills, commitment - or a some combination. These
gifts are evident to the teacher and usually to the other students
as well.
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EFFORT: "A" students match their effort to the demands of an
assignment.
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COMMUNICATIONS: "A" students place a high priority on writing
and speaking in a manner that conveys clarity and thoughtful
organization. Attention is paid to conciseness and completeness.
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RESULTS: "A" students make high grades on tests - usually the
highest in the class. Their work is a pleasure to grade.
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Fork in the Road
Critical Forks in the Road
Responsibility
Who’s in charge of creating my life the way I want it to be?
Motivation
What are my most valued goals and dreams? What outcomes and experiences do I
want to create? What’s my educational goal? What job/career do I want? What
legacy do I want to leave? To what degree do I expect success?
Self-Management
How do I manage my actions effectively to achieve the life I want? What selfmanagement tools will assist me?
Interdependence
Who do I want to associate with? Will I help others? Will I ask for and accept help?
Self-Awareness
What are my habit patterns? Which habits support my success? Which habits
sabotage my success? How can I change the habits that sabotage me?
Life-Long Learning
What do I need to learn to achieve my desired outcomes and experiences? How can I
use what I’m learning in every college course I take? How can I create deep and
lasting learning? What life lessons do I need to master to succeed? How can I
develop wisdom?
Emotional Intelligence
How do I experience life fully yet manage my emotions so that I stay on course to my
goals and dreams?
Self-Esteem
Who am I? What do I value? How can I feel even more confident? What reputation
do I have with myself?
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Develop Self-Acceptance, Journal 2
Focus Questions
– Why is high self-esteem so important to
success?
– What can you do to raise your selfesteem?
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Self -Esteem
Is the ability to value one’s self
and to
treat oneself with
dignity, love and reality.
Virgina Satir
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Tips on Raising your Self Esteem
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Stop comparing yourself to other people. If you
play this game, you're likely to compare yourself in
a negative way and set yourself up for continuing to
have low self esteem. Why continue to play a game
where you've set the rules against yourself, so that
you're less likely to win!
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Don't keep putting yourself down! You can't
develop high self esteem if you constantly repeat
negative comments about your skills and abilities.
Other people will pick up on it and take on board
the negative way you view yourself. How are they
likely to treat you? Also don't beat yourself up over
"mistakes" that you've made - learn how to reframe
them so that they work for you.
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Using positive affirmations is an excellent way to raise
your self esteem. If you can program your mind to repeat
negative phrases about yourself (and see how effective
that's been!), then you can certainly get into the habit of
continually thinking (and saying to yourself) positive
statements about you. When you do, allow yourself to
experience the positive feelings about your statements.
Also use inspirational quotes to assist you.
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Accept all compliments graciously. Don't dismiss or
ignore them. When you do you give yourself the message
that you do not deserve or are not worthy of praise, which
reflects low self esteem. It also means that others will
become more reluctant to praise or acknowledge your
abilities, if you don't.
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Take advantage of and use life coaching programs,
workshops, books on how to raise your self esteem
and develop a more positive attitude. Whatever material
you see, read it acts as subliminal learning, which means
that it will plant itself in your mind and dominate your
behavior. Talk about food for thought - what diet is your
mind on? Is it a nourishing one?
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Mix with positive and supportive people. Who you
associate with influences your thoughts, actions and
behavior - another form of subliminal learning. Negative
people can put you and your ideas down and it lowers
your self esteem. On the other hand, when you are
surrounded by supportive people, you feel better about
yourself, which helps to raise your self esteem. Learn
how to develop your positive personal support network.
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Acknowledge your positive qualities and skills. Too
many people with low self esteem constantly put
themselves down (back to no 1 again!) and don't
appreciate their many positive attributes. Learn how to
truly affirm and value your many excellent qualities. If
you find this difficult, ask others to tell you. They'll come
up with things you would never have imagined!
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Stop putting up with stuff! Not voicing or
acknowledging your needs means that you are probably
tolerating more than you should. Find out what you're
putting up with and zap those tolerations. By doing so,
you're giving yourself the message that you're worth it.
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Make positive contributions to others. This doesn't
mean that you constantly do for others what they
could be doing for themselves. But when you do
make a positive contribution to others, you begin to
feel more valuable, which increases your sense of
your own value and raises your self esteem.
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Involve yourself in work and activities that you
love. So many people with low self esteem stop doing
those activities that they most enjoy. Even if you're
not in a position to make immediate changes in your
career, you can still devote some of your leisure time
to enjoyable hobbies and activities.
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Start taking action! The universe rewards action.
Backing away and avoiding challenges means that
your self esteem muscles become weak and flabby.
When you start to take action - regardless of the
outcome - you will start to feel better about yourself,
develop your self confidence and raise your self
esteem.
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