Transcript Forgiveness & Reconciliation He has ruined my past. I’m beginning to toy with the idea of forgiveness so that I don’t allow him.

Forgiveness & Reconciliation
He has ruined my past. I’m
beginning to toy with the idea of
forgiveness so that I don’t allow
him to destroy my future as well.
Forgiveness: granting pardon and letting
go of resentment and negative feelings
Reconciliation: settling differences and
repairing a relationship
Forgiveness
Does not necessarily reestablish a relationship
Does not obligate one to reconciliation
Is foremost for the benefit of the person who has
been harmed
Is not a sign of weakness
Can only be given by the person harmed
Does not require forgetting
Takes time and effort
Needs a decision to forgive
Forgiveness is the heart’s capacity to
release its grasp on the pains of the past
and free itself to go on.
Forgiveness is giving up the idea of a
better past.
Reconciliation
Reflects the mutual interests of two parties
Requires a willingness to reengage in the
relationship
Requires rebuilding a bridge to span the
chasm between the parties
Bridging the chasm requires
Truth (courage to speak and hear it)
Forbearance (refraining from revenge or
punishment)
Empathy (especially by the person
harmed)
Commitment to one another
Ponder the last paragraph
in the book