Slide 1

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 2

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 3

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 4

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 5

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 6

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 7

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 8

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 9

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 10

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 11

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 12

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 13

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 14

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 15

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 16

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 17

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 18

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 19

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 20

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 21

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 22

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 23

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 24

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 25

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 26

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 27

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 28

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 29

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 30

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 31

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 32

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 33

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 34

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 35

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 36

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 37

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 38

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 39

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 40

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 41

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 42

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 43

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 44

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 45

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 46

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 47

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 48

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 49

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 50

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 51

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 52

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 53

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 54

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 55

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 56

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 57

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 58

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 59

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 60

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 61

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 62

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 63

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 64

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 65

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 66

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 67

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 68

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 69

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 70

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming


Slide 71

Welcome to:

Surfing Online Safely
Brought to you by the MNPS Community Career Center

Sponsored by:

What should
parents know to
keep their children
safe online

Is Your Child More InternetSavvy Than You Are?
• This workshop will cover:
– Instant messaging/Chat rooms
– Networking sites, safe or not?
– Cyber-bullying
– Online Predators
– Filtering/Blocking, Monitoring/Tracking
– Safe search engines for homework
purposes

What Kids are Really Doing Online:
• 60% of female teens
surveyed have given out
personal information in
questionnaires online
• 45% have given out personal
information to someone they
met online
• 23% have sent pictures to
someone they met on the
internet
All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results

15% have
received
suggestive or
threatening
emails

30% have
been in a chat
room where
the discussion
made them
feel
uncomfortable

All statistics taken from WiredSafety.org special report:
http://www.wiredsafety.org/askparry/special_reports/spr1/qa
33.html

More Survey Results
• 87% of U.S. teens aged 12-17 use the
internet, up from 73% in 2000.

• 66% of adults use the internet, up from 56%
in 2000.
• 51% of teenage internet users say they go
online on a daily basis, up from 42% in
2000.

TIME OUT!

Does my child even
have an email?

With an Email Address
• Your child is able to:
– Of course, send emails
– Join a networking program
– Use a messenger service
– Sign up for free online services such as
radio

You should know your
child’s email address
(Remember: they may have more than one!)

*83% of email is SPAM including sexually explicit and possibly containing
viruses causing attachments

Online Predators
1 in 7 United States teen girls

reported they had met
strangers from the Internet in
person.
video

It Can Happen at Home
Child molesters often
blackmail children into
performing sexual acts on
web cams.

Good things about the
Internet
• Largest collection
of information in
the world
• Helps kids with
their homework

• Allows worldwide
communication
• Provides exposure
to different cultures
and ways of life

Warning Signs from Your Child
• Large amounts of
time spent online
• You find pornographic
or otherwise
inappropriate images
• Reluctance to talk
about what he or she
is doing online
• Becoming withdrawn
from the family/other
activities

TIME OUT!

Where is the
computer
located in
your home?
**nearly one in three (31%) has access from their own bedroom.

Watch Out
Does your child turn off the
computer monitor or change
the screen when you enter the
room?

I.M. and Chat rooms
• Over 60% of teens
use instant
messaging
– MSN Messenger
– AIM (AOL’s IM)
– Online chat
rooms/forums
* Most widely reported use of the internet among teenagers

MSN Messenger

Your Kids Should Know:
• Everything you type is visible to everyone in
the chat room
• Screen names should be non-identifiable
• Never give out any personal information
– Where you go to school
– School activities
– Hangout spots

• Could be charged with juvenile delinquency
over something he or she says online.

Bad Screen Name Examples
•
•
•
•
•

SexyLitttleThing
LittleGirl41398
SoccerStar#5
SyracuseBabe
Jesse2Hot4u

And Remind Them:
• Never accept files or downloads from
people you don't know
• You can save copies of your chat room
conversations.
• Make sure you know how to report
problems to the chat room moderator.

“Sexting”
• These days the disturbing new trend in
teenage flirting is sending nude or seminude photos from cell phone to cell phone:
instead of "texting," they call it called
"sexting."
• While the X-rated offerings are usually
intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend,
the photos often wind up being shared.

“Sexting” cont.
• v: the act of text messaging someone in
the hopes of having a sexual encounter
with them later
• A recent survey hosted by Teenage
Research Unlimited found that 20% of
teenagers have sent or posted nude or
seminude pictures or videos of
themselves.

The Talk
• Talk to them about what's happening among their
peers and ask if they've been involved in sexting
themselves. Without anger or judgement of them, talk
about the repercussions short term and long term and
share your own values. Ask them their thoughts. But
it's by instilling a high sense of self-worth in your teens
from an early age that you can best prepare them for
making wise decisions.

• Talk to your children about the value of their sexuality
and how priceless their bodies are. This should be an
ongoing conversation from the time they learn about
what sex is.

I.M./Text Messaging Lingo

Decoded
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•

LOL
IDK
BRB
2MI
9
OMG
KPC
DIKU

Laugh out loud
I don’t know
Be right back
Too much information
Parent is watching
Oh my God
Keeping parents clueless
Do I Know You

Networking Sites: What’s Going On
• Myspace, Facebook, etc.
(public domain)
– These are sites
designed for members
to network, share
information, etc.
• Has no regulations for
young users

61% of teens have a
____
personal profile on a site
such as MySpace.

www.myspace.com

20% of teens report that they
believe it is safe to share personal
information on a public blog or
networking site

Private! Private! Private!
If you're over 16 and you want to make
your profile private, here's how:
1. log in
2. click on my account
3. click on privacy tab
4. check the box that says profile
viewable by: My friends only
5. click save all changes

Identity Theft
Security
• Padlock in lower-right corner
• Https://
Warnings
• Emails requesting personal Information
• Avoid Hyperlinks to fraudulent sites
Wireless (Wifi)
• People can access info without knowledge
• War Driving
• Always include passwords

Just a thought
3rd parties are getting smarter
– Police departments and school
administrators can use Facebook/Myspace
pages to detect “problems” including illegal
behavior, threats to others or self, violations
of student codes of conduct, etc.
– Potential employers screen sites to gather
information about the character of potential
employees

Safety Considerations
– Default security settings are
often very low—you can go
in and strengthen these.
– Anything you post can be
saved, even if you take it
down later
– Friends can post things
without your permission

Tools  Internet
Options  Security
Tab
Right Click 
Save Picture As

Preventative Measures
• Talk to your children often about online risks
– The cute 14 year old boy they’ve met
online might not really be 14 or even a boy
– Teens often don’t see online promiscuity
as “real”
– Posting risqué photos or appearing to be
“up for anything” is an invitation to online
predators

Helpful Websites
• http://www.felonspy.com/
• http://www.familywatchdog.us/

• http://criminalsearches.com/

Video Networking
• What is it?
– Video networking (common sites include
You Tube) allows anyone to upload and
share videos they produce, copy, or find.
– Generally, sites require registration (give
your email address and birth date), but
there is no fee
– Age restriction is applied to videos with
adult material, but this is based only on the
honor system

What’s Out There?
On various video-sharing
sites, there are
documented incidents
of:
– graphic combat video from
the war in Iraq
– be-headings
– pornography
– pedophilia

Online Videos
• Let kids know the downside:
– Online predators can use videos for
information
– “Funny” videos could be used later against
someone
– Legal problems result from videos that
violate copyright law

Cyber-bullying 
Occurs when a minor is bullied by
another minor using:
– Internet
– interactive and digital technologies
– mobile phones
– If an adult behaves this way it is
called cyber-harassment or
cyber-stalking

It’s a Serious Threat

Children have killed each other
and committed suicide after
being involved in a cyberbullying incident

Flaming- (N’ Etiquette)
• Don’t send mean chat
messages, get involved
in chat room arguments
(flaming) or incite others
to do so.

Crime and Punishment
• Misdemeanor cyberharassment charges or
charge of juvenile
delinquency
• Typically results losing
ISP or IM accounts
• Hacking/password/identity
theft is serious criminal
matter under state and
federal law

Solutions

What Parents Can Do To Make a
Difference

Safer Search Engines
• All Ages:
– school.nettrekker.com

• Younger children:
– kids.yahoo.com
– askkids.com
• Teens:
– discovery.com
– nationalgeographic.org
– safekids.com

Available Computer
Software
• Blocking:
– “bad site” list
• Blocks access to sites you put on
list
– “good site” list
• Prevents child from accessing
any site not on list

Suggested Blocking Software

• Net Nanny
• Safe Eyes
• CYBERsitter

Available Computer
Software
• Tracking and Monitoring:
– Tracks where your children go, how long
they spend, etc.
• Can even control what times of day
children use computer
• Recommended for older children who
are allowed reasonable freedom online;
this is the back-up system if something
goes wrong.

Monitoring Software

• Radar
• Monitor Wolf
• Atomic Watch

Additional tips
• MSN and AOL software provide parental
blocking options
– Parents can block sites such as Myspace
• Other blocking programs can be purchased

http://www.software4parents.com/

For More Information
Internet safety resources for parents as
well as links to protective software can
be found at:

wiredsafety.org

isafe.org

Summary Tips
• Know your child’s email address and
password
• Monitor instant messaging and chat room
activities
• Know the security settings/privacy
• Routinely check your child’s Myspace
account or Google your child’s name
• Check for personal information (esp. school,
teams, activities, etc.)

Summary Tips
• Emphasize that everything done online has
consequences just like in real life
• Pictures can be more suggestive than we
think
• Software is available for your computer to
block, filter, and/or monitor your child’s
activities

Does My Child have an Email
Address?

Is there a WebCam at my
House?

Are there good things about the
Internet?

Is my child spending Too much
time on the computer?

Does my child have a
MySpace or FaceBook
account?

What does I.M. Stand for?

Which of the following is a
Social Networking Site?

• Yahoo
• Google
• E-Harmony
• Facebook

What is the primary purpose of
the website You Tube?

• Chatting
• Sharing online videos
• Downloading Music
• Cyber-Dating

In Conclusion
Don’t be afraid!
– Give your children common
sense rules for the Internet
and seek help if there is
something you do not
understand.

Thank You
for
Coming