Transcript Boundaries - ascscrusaders

A
safety plan is a practical guide
that helps lower your risk of being
hurt. A good safety plan helps
you think through lifestyle
changes that will help keep you
as safe as possible at school, at
home and other places that you
go on a daily basis.

Relationships are about the interactions
you with people everyday.

Family
Friends
People at school
When your able it could be
boyfriend/girlfriend
Neighbor, doctor, teacher




All of these relationships have an effect
(positive or negative) in your life.
 Some things healthy relationships can do

Make you feel like you belong
Increase your confidence
Provides understanding, respect and care
Guidance
Respect
 Trust
 Honesty
 Safety
 Equality
 Consistency
 Value
 Empathy

Unhealthy relationships can cause
distress, discomfort and take away your
self confidence.
 In an unhealthy relationship

› There is no communication
› One person tries to control everything
› Name calling
› Pushes, grabs, hits, punches
We each belong to ourselves
• I belong to myself-my body, my time, my feelings, my personal
space, my thoughts, my spirit, all of me. And other people
belong to themselves.
Some things are not a choice.
• My family, school, coach and/or employer have rules that I
must follow. I can speak up but I cannot always control
what other people will think, feel, say or do. I can set
boundaries, leave or seek help if others harm my health or
safety. I can always control whether a situation or
relationship at home, school, with friends or at work will get
better.
 Problems should not be secrets.
• Neither should touch, teasing, gift or favors.
 Keep telling until you get help.
• Getting help can mean- asking the person who is
creating the problem to change his/her behavior;
talking to someone who is in a position of authority to
solve the problem; gathering with other people to deal
with the problem together; asking for personal support
from someone outside the situation completely.
 What makes it hard to set boundaries
• Internalizes beliefs: not worth it, have not right,
dangerous to say no, my role is to please others.
• Triggers: Emotions, behaviors, thoughts, and words
that cause us to explode with feelings.
• Longing to belong: wishing to be excepted, loved,
wanted or included by another person or group.
• Having a grown-up in the home where
appropriate boundary-setting was not allowed.

Communication teaches people to set
boundaries by talking about their own
feelings, the other persons specific
behavior that is a problem for them, and
the specific behavior from the other
person they want to see.
› Use I phrases
› Use Feeling phrases
I feel
When you- state specific behavior that is
a problem for you.
 Would you please


› Try and stay away from attacking phrases
and “you never” or “you always”
› I feel frustrated when you interrupt and
sound angry when I try to explain a problem
to you. Would you please listen to me first
and then tell me what you want to say in
calm voice.
You have the right to your own personal
boundaries/Space. If you feel scared or
uncomfortable around someone please
seek a trusted confidant.
 If you know someone who is scared or
hurt, let them know you are their for
them. Listen to them, don’t judge, don’t
give advice.

Split up into A and B groups
 Have each group come up with a list of
10 things that they think make a healthy
relationship.
 Discuss

 Example
 Having cooperation within your relationship
means working together as a team.