Transcript An Outline of Response Abilities Pathways

An Outline of
Response Abilities Pathways
Some Key Concepts
Young people depend on adults for emotional security.
Pain and the Brain
Experiences that trigger stress and trauma cause pain to
register in the anterior cingulate cortex in the brain
(Anglia; Dowman)
Fighting Pain With Pain
Most traditional approaches to discipline centre around the
use of punishment.
Tit for Tat Emotional Reaction (ER) Cycles
2005 Circle of Courage
emotion
reaction
Young person reacts
With PAIN-BASED
BEHAVIOUR
emotion
reaction
Adult reacts
With PAIN-BASED
DISCIPLINE
We Need an Alternative Approach
‘…….look beyond my faults to find my needs’
Lyric by Joyce Reba Rambo
The Circle of Courage
Generosity
Independence
Belonging
Mastery
Circle of Courage - Research Foundations
Circle of Courage
Resilience Research
Self-Worth
Research
Belonging
Attachment
Significance
Opportunities to establish
trusting connections
Motivation to affiliate and
form social bonds
The individual believes, “I
am important”
Mastery
Achievement
Competence
Opportunities to solve
problems and meet goals
Motivation to work hard and
attain excellence
The individual believes, “I
can solve problems”
Independence
Autonomy
Power
Opportunities to develop
self-control and
responsibility
Motivation to manage self
and exert influence
The individual believes, “I
set my life pathway”
Altruism
Virtue
Motivation to help and be of
service to others
The individual believes, “My
life has purpose”
Generosity
Opportunities to show
respect and concern
Disconnected Kids
High Risk Behaviours of Young People With Weak Bonds to Adults
The First Stage of RAP - Connecting
The human brain has programs that motivate us to connect to others.
Young people connect to adults and peers who meet their needs.
Respect
Trust
Empowerment
Understanding
The Private Logic of Adult Wary Kids – Barriers to
Connection
FIGHT – HURT OR BE HURT
Threat display: I am dangerous
Power display: I am the boss
Pay back: I’ll make them suffer
FOOL: OUTSMART THEM
Deceiving: Charm and disarm
Diversion: Act dumb and crazy
Mind games: Insult and provoke
FLIGHT: HIDE OR BE HURT
Isolate: Shut out people
Retreat: Shut out the pain
Escape: I can’t take any more
FOLLOW: BAND TOGETHER
Peer power: Follow friends
Alpha Power: Follow the leader
Contagion: Follow the crowd
Bidding To Connect
We need to recognise when kids make bids to connect with us.
The Second Stage of RAP - Clear Thinking
From Risk to Resilience
Challenge
Logic
Emotions
Actions
Challenge
What event triggered the stress?
Logic
What thoughts came to mind?
Emotions
What feelings triggered action?
Actions
What coping strategy was used?
Results
What consequences followed?
Results
BAMMS Thinking Errors
Blaming
Others always try to start fights with me.
I’m worthless and don’t deserve to live.
Assuming the Worst
You can’t trust anybody – they always lie to you.
No matter how hard I try, I always fail.
Minimising and Mislabeling
Everyone does it so what’s the big deal?
So I slapped her around – she’s just a ho!
Self-centred
If I see something I like, it’s mine.
Why should I care? I take care of myself.
Rescripting is a Key
Scripts are terms or phrases designed to influence thinking. Done well, they have
the power to alter private logic.
A Sample Belonging Script
It’s great to have you here.
A Sample Mastery Script
A great kid like you – I know you’re going to be able to handle it.
A Sample Independence Script
Seems to me you’re a person who likes to think for themselves.
A Sample Generosity Script
Thank you for helping out.
The Third Stage of RAP - Restoring With the Circle of
Courage
STRENGTHS
PROBLEMS
RESTORATIVE GOALS
Belonging
trust
friendly
Warm
gregarious
accepting
Alienation
guarded
withdrawn
unattached
lonely
rejected
Belonging/Attachment
a.
b.
Mastery
achievement
focused
creative
persistent
organised
Incompetence
inadequacy
unmotivated
confused
defeatist
cheat
Mastery/Achievement
a.
b.
Independence
responsible
confident
self-disciplined
leader
assertive
Irresponsibility
unreliable
helplessness
undisciplined
easily misled
rebellious
Independence/Autonomy
a.
b.
Generosity
respectful
sharing
kind
empathic
supportive
Selfishness
selfish
vengeful
exploitative
self-centred
indifferent
Generosity/Altruism
a.
b.
Making Caring Fashionable