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W
HAT ARE YOU MOTIVATED BY
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These 6 needs are not just desires or wants, but profound needs which serve as the basis of every choice we make
Certainty Variety Significance Connection Growth Contribution
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E ARE ALL DRIVEN BY THE NEED TO FULFIL SIX HUMAN NEEDS
1. Certainty
This is the need for security, comfort and consistency
2. Uncertainty
This is the need for variety, challenges and change - ‘spice in life’
3. Significance
The need to feel important, needed, wanted and worthy of love
4. Love and Connection
The need for feeling connected with and loved by other human beings
5. Growth
The need for constant development emotionally, intellectually and spiritually
6. Contribution
Giving beyond ourselves and giving to others.
C ORE N EEDS : K EY Q UESTIONS Ask yourself: On a scale of 0 to 10 how much of each of the 6 needs is fulfilled for you in a given context: business, family, relationship?
Are all your needs met at a 7 or higher or do you have to go somewhere else to have your needs met?
If your needs are fulfilled at a 7 or higher on a scale of 0 to 10 you are motivated and passionate about what you do.
If you find you are at a 6 or lower in any of your needs, identify and take steps to allow you to feel more fulfilled.
Ask yourself:
In a given context, what do you need to do in order to feel more :
certainty, variety,
significance, love & connection, growth, contribution?
G OOGLE YOUR N ECK TOP COMPUTER W HAT ’ S GOING ON IN THERE ?
C ONSCIOUS 5 % U NCONSCIOUS 95 %
T HE BRAIN IS AN INFORMATION PROCESSING UNIT We delete what we decide is irrelevant We distort what we experience so it can fit in with what is familiar We generalise one thing to mean something we have experienced before Your personal map is made up of a picture, sounds, feelings, smells, tastes and words you say to yourself.
These filters shape your life
E MOTIONS The states we choose to experience on a consistent basis that impact on the quality of our lives.
Emotions are not random feelings that happen by chance... emotions are things we do.
We do happiness We do sadness We do depression We do anger There are over 3,000 emotions and we choose which ones we will do depending on which needs we want to meet and our habitual choices.
THERE IS ENORMOUS POWER IN EMOTION
The foundation of happiness, joy, love, passion and fulfillment comes from our willingness to choose our emotions.
Experiencing any emotion is our first choice.
Our second choice is to decide to revisit that emotion...
Therefore, be willing to develop the emotional muscles that will assist us in creating our ideal life .
E XAMPLES OF EMOTIONS :
Empowering:
happiness, contentment, certainty, passion, joy, love, creativity, stimulated, curious, excited, bubbling, energised, impassioned, serene, fascinated, fun-loving, vibrant, exuberant, enthralled, juiced, focused, ecstatic, exhilarated, confident, empowered, charged, determined, comfortable, resourceful, gratefulness, compassion, forgiveness...
Disempowering:
frustrated, angry, afraid, confused, impatient, irritated, lonely, nervous, scared, terrified, embarrassed, harried, overwhelmed, stressed, exhausted, jealous, lost, disgusted, stupid, terrible, down, depressed, petrified, indifferent, bored, judgement, devastated, miserable...
VALUES GOVERN OUR BEHAVIOUR
Values are the way we judge
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good and bad
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right and wrong
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appropriateness and inappropriateness Our values are what we move toward or away from – Success or Failure to succeed in our life.
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OUR VALUES
Can be positive or They can be negative
Therefore be very clear about what your values are as this is where you put your energy and your focus Where focus goes energy flows!
T AP I NTO Y OUR A WARENESS
What are you doing with your body?
What are you focusing on or believing?
What are you saying to yourself?
MINDFULNESS
There’s so much to see if only we took the time to notice what actually is instead of how we think things are. Resolve to set aside some time everyday to just be: whether that’s sitting in silence in order to become aware of your thoughts and breathing, or taking a slow walk in nature and really tuning into the sights and sounds around you: the leaves on the trees, the clouds in the sky, the birds and the insects.
Do less - Some people wear their busyness like a badge of honour. The solution is to shrink your to-do list.
And yes, you can say no to things.
D O ONE THING AT A TIME
It’s a matter of prioritising what’s important and letting go of what’s not. Mindfulness is the opposite of multitasking because it means being focused on just one thing in the moment. So the next time you’re tempted to check emails while talking on the phone while drinking your coffee, stop, breathe and resolve to single task instead .
Zen proverb that encapsulates this way of being:
“When walking, walk. When eating, eat.”
D ON ’ T STRESS
When we’re present in the moment we can’t help but let go of our worries about the future and our regrets about the past.
In our fast-paced lives, waiting is a big source of frustration. But while it might seem like a nuisance, waiting actually represents a great opportunity.
So the next time you find yourself in a long line or at the bus stop, bring your attention to the breath. Focus on the flow of the breath in and out of the body, from moment to moment and allow everything else to just be including your feelings of impatience and irritation.
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REATHE
If you feel stressed out and overwhelmed, breathe. It will calm you and release the tensions.
If you are worried about something coming up, or caught up in something that already happened, breathe. It will bring you back to the present.
If you have too many tasks to do, or are scattered during your workday, breathe. It will help bring you into focus, to concentrate on the most important task you need to be focusing on right now.
If you are exercising, breathe. It will help you enjoy the exercise, and therefore stick with it for longer.
If you are moving too fast, breathe. It will remind you to slow down, and enjoy life more.
So breathe. And enjoy each moment of this life. They’re too fleeting and few to waste .
R ESILIENCE MEANS ADAPTING
Resilience is the ability to roll with the punches. When stress, adversity or trauma strikes, you still experience anger, grief and pain, but you're able to keep functioning — both physically and psychologically. Resilience isn't about toughing it out, being stoic or going it alone. In fact, being able to reach out to others for support is a key component of being resilient.
Resilience means being able to adapt to life's misfortunes and setbacks.
R ESILIENCE : B UILD SKILLS TO ENDURE HARDSHIP
When something goes wrong, do you tend to bounce back or fall apart? When you have resilience, you harness inner strength that helps you rebound from a setback or challenge, such as a job loss, an illness, a disaster or the death of a loved one. Resilience won't make your problems go away — but resilience can give you the ability to see past them, find enjoyment in life and better handle stress.
T IPS TO IMPROVE YOUR RESILIENCE
Get connected. Building strong, positive relationships with loved ones and friends can provide you with needed support and acceptance in both good times and bad. Establish other important connections by doing volunteer work, getting involved in your community, or joining a faith or spiritual community.
Make every day meaningful. Do something that gives you a sense of accomplishment and purpose every day. Set goals to help you look toward the future with meaning. Learn from experience. Think back on how you've coped with hardships in the past. Consider the skills and strategies that helped you through rough times. You might even write about past experiences in a journal to help you identify both positive and negative behaviour patterns — and guide your behaviour in the future.
Remain hopeful. You can't change what's happened in the past, but you can always look toward the future.
Take care of yourself. Tend to your own needs and feelings, both physically and emotionally. Participate in activities and hobbies you enjoy. Include physical activity in your daily routine. Get plenty of sleep. Eat a healthy diet. To restore an inner sense of peace or calm, practice stress management and relaxation techniques, such as yoga, meditation, guided imagery, deep breathing or prayer.
Be proactive. Don't ignore your problems or try to wish them away. Although it can take time to recover from a major setback, traumatic event or loss, know that your situation can improve if you actively work at it.
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T TAKES A LOT OF WORK FROM THE FACE TO LET OUT A SMILE
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BUT JUST THINK WHAT GOOD SMILING CAN BRING TO THE MOST IMPORTANT MUSCLE OF THE BODY
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THE HEART
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If you don't have a smile, I'll give you one of mine.
Smiling is infectious. You can catch it like the flu.
Someone smiled at me today, And I started smiling too.
A laugh is a smile that bursts.
Smile - sunshine is good for your teeth.
A smile is like tight underwear - it makes your cheeks go up.
Is a smile a question? Or is it the answer?
Everyone smiles in the same language.
A smile is a curve that sets everything straight. Smile. Have you ever noticed how easily puppies make human friends? Yet all they do is wag their tails and fall over.
The world always looks brighter from behind a smile.
A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks.
Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been.
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SMILE IS THE LIGHT IN THE WINDOW OF YOUR FACE THAT TELLS PEOPLE YOU
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RE AT HOME
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