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A Personal Developmental
Balance Wheel
Social
Physical
Parental
Intellectual
Marital
Spiritual
Familial
Emotional
Political
Professional
Material
Financial
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A Personal Developmental Balance Wheel
Social
Physical
Parental
Intellectual
Marital
Spiritual
Familial
Emotional
Political
Professional
Material
Financial
Goals
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But, around what core?
How do all these aspects balance out?
Social
Physical
Parental
Intellectual
Marital
Spiritual
Core?
Familial
Emotional
Political
Professional
Material
Financial
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-ate Theory of Drives
Domin-ate
BALANCE?
M-ate
Cre-ate
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LPV 3. Courage to Act?
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Observe and identify VABEs
Confirm VABEs with person
Explore validity of VABEs with person
Set probationary time period
Active coaching
If progress, continue;
if not, make a change
(cause = my weak coaching or his weak
learning or both)
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Can you change anything in the
world “out there” without changing
yourself first?
Society
Organization
Team
Self
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Insanity …
… is expecting
different results
while you continue
doing the same
thing.
Einstein/Alcoholics
Anonymous
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Leading Strategic Change
Requires . . . .
Vision (What do you see?)
Understanding (Rigorous analysis)
Courage (to initiate action)
THE “LEADERSHIP POINT OF VIEW”
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Are you
leading
your own
life or living
too much
outside-in?
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Break
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Day Two:
Team Perspectives
• What stood out for you on Day One?
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Greenland
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Leadership is about
managing energy,
first in yourself
and then in others.
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The obligatory commute …
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Managing Energy
Energizers
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Drainers
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How do you want to feel?
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You think this penguin thing
is overstated?
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FLOW
Time warps (slow or fast)
Lose sense of self
Intense focus
Perform at highest level
Seems effortless (flow)
Internally satisfying
Regain larger sense of self
Adapted from FLOW by Mihalyi Csikszentmihalyi
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What do you think of Flow …
It seems to come from a variety of sources
But can you repeat it regularly or is it
“unmanageable?”
Could you design it into your life?
More importantly, what if it were in you, that
is, what if you could transport it from one
activity to another?
Study of World Class Performers
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NEWBURG’S CAREER SAMPLES
World Class Athletes
Touring Musicians
Heart Surgeons
Extraordinary Executives
Warriors/Naval Aviators
550 World Class Performers
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The Resonance Model
dream
revisit
your
dream
preparation
obstacles
Doug Newburg, PhD 21
The Resonance Model
dream
Doug Newburg, PhD
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“When people come to
work, it’s important that
they be connected to a
dream.”
- Bill Gates, Fortune, 1/26/04, p. 124
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Two Kinds of Life’s Dreams
LD external
What you wanted to be
or do.
Externally measured
Achievement based
“Success”
LD internal
How you felt at your
best.
Internally measured
Experience based
“Success”
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Your internal Life’s Dream (LDint)
 Is not a “goal” which is a “false dream”
 Is a connection between resonance
producing activities and the Feelings that
come at the peak
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Goals vs “Experience” (feel)
 Much of the industrial era has focused
on goal setting
 Achievement orientation often drives
our behavior at the expense of our
emotional experience
 Remember to remember how you feel is
equally as important as what you do.
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The dangerous “outside-in”
nature of corporate goals.
100%
Assertiveness
OUTSIDE
50%
INSIDE
Fear of
Rejection
0%
© James G. Clawson
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Focusing on Feel to Perform
Dave Scott
49, Six-time Ironman Hawaii Champion
“During a race, I never wear a
wristwatch, and my bike doesn’t
have a speedometer. They’re
distractions.
All I work on is finding a rhythm
that feels strong and sticking to it.”
Outside, 9/03, p. 122
© James G. Clawson
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Does how you feel
affect your performance?
• How many times have you been asked by
supervision at work how you want to feel?
• How do you WANT to feel?
• The pervasive management assumption:
PWD WTHTD ROHTF
• This is a formula for mediocrity.
© James G. Clawson
Revisiting the Dream
“Just mixing it up with the guys
and being in the hunt is a rush,
and I can’t wait to experience
those feelings again.”
-- Tiger Woods, after three months rehab on his
knee, Golf Digest, October 2008, p. 55
© James G. Clawson
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Examples of Feel …
 Easy speed (Jeff Rouse)
 Playing to win at the highest
level (Dawn Staley)
 Out of my chest
 Being at one with my
surroundings
 Peaceful, satisfied, alive
 Buoyant, connected mastery
 Light, unhurried, and
engaged.
Be careful of the
“achievement orientation”
Energy
Other dangers of the
achievement orientation:
1. Winning at any cost
2. Making the numbers is #1
3. Emerging hollowness
4. Character and ethical
implications
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The Resonance Model
Preparation
dream
preparation
Preparation, practice,
rehearsal, WORK
Doug Newburg, PhD
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Preparation
People ask me, “How do you
play so well?” I practiced,
intense “shedding.” If you’re
willing to put in the time, you
can do it to a certain level.
Maybe I have a special talent that
is intangible, but if you are
willing to put in the time, you
can really get it together.”
Bruce Hornsby
© James G. Clawson
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The Relationship between Dream and
Preparation: Vijay Singh, pro golfer
“Confidence doesn’t come from
winning. Winning comes from
confidence. And that confidence
comes from hard work.”
- Vijay Singh, Golf Digest, “From the Gallery,” June 2005.
Singh won nine tournaments in 2004, was ranked #1 in the
world, and is known for his extraordinary practice regimen,
hours and hours a day.
© James G. Clawson
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STAMINA: the preparation “problem”
dream
preparation
Doug Newburg, PhD
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Relationship between
stamina and the “dream”
“Even to this day I get a thrill out of just hitting
balls. Seeing the shot and then hitting the shot.
If I can hit the ball the way I want to hit it on the
range, I’d rather do that than play golf. I just
love the feeling of hitting good golf shots.”
- Vijay Singh, Golf Digest, April 2008, page 188.
What do you enjoy enough that you can
persist doing it just for the joy of doing it?
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What’s the difference between
“work” and a “job?”
“I stopped loving golf at exactly the time I
decided to turn pro.”
- Tom Weiskopf , Golf, July 2004, p. 133
People pay me a lot of money to go away from my
family, stay in cheap motels, ride on the bus all night,
and eat rubber chicken. But when the curtain goes
up and the light on the camera goes on, THAT I do for
free.
- John Molo, Grammy winning musician
© James G. Clawson
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The difference between
“work” and a Job
JOB:
what you have to do
?
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WORK:
what you choose
to do with your life
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The Resonance Model
Obstacles
dream
work
Setbacks
Obstacles
Successes
Doug Newburg, PhD
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OBSTACLES
Adversity has ever been considered
the state in which a man most easily
becomes acquainted with himself.
- Samuel Johnson
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Typical Reaction to Obstacles:
Getting stuck in the “Duty” Cycle
dream
preparation
s
obstacles
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What happens when one crosses the
divide between choice and obligation?
CHOICE
Energy?
Productivity?
Creativity?
Innovation
Engagement?
Commitment?
Buy-In?
OBLIGATION
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We all start out knowing magic. We are born with
whirlwinds, forest fires and comets inside of us.
We are all born able to sing to birds and read the
clouds, and see our destiny in grains of sand.
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But then we get the magic educated right out of our
souls. We get it churched out, spanked out, washed
out, and combed out. We get put on the straight and
narrow and told to be responsible. Told to act our
age. Told to grow up, for God’s sake. And you know
why we were told that? Because the people doing the
telling were afraid of our youth, and because the
magic we knew made them ashamed and sad about
what they had allowed to wither in themselves.
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After you go so far away from it though, you can’t
really get it back, just seconds of knowing and
remembering. When people get weepy at movies, it’s
because in that dark theater the golden pool of magic
is touched just briefly. Then they come out into the
hard sun of logic and reason again and it dries up, and
they’re left feeling a little heavy, and they don’t know
why.
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The truth of life is that each year we get a little further
from the essence that is born with us. We get
shouldered burdens, some of them good, some of them
not so good. Things happen to us. Life itself does its
best to take that memory of magic away from us. You
don’t know it’s happening until one day you feel like
you’ve lost something… and you’re not sure what it is.
It’s like smiling at a pretty girl, and she calls you “sir.”
It just happens.
From “Boy’s Life,” Robert MacCammon
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The Resonance Model
Breaking through the SOS Barrier
dream
revisit
your
dream
work
obstacles
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Revisiting the Dream
 Reconnecting with your emotional
experiencing
 Reconnecting with “why?”
 Balancing experience with results
 Getting OUT of the “duty cycle”
 Paradoxically improves results
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Revisiting the Dream
“Just mixing it up with the guys and
being in the hunt is a rush, and I can’t
wait to experience those feelings
again.”
Tiger Woods, after three months rehab on his
knee, Golf Digest, October 2008, p. 55
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What is “success?”
• Money?
• Fame?
• Power?
• “afterward, you want to do it
again.”
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One surgeon …
 Asks patients to tell “why they want to live
longer”
 Asks for a photo after surgery
 This reconnects patients with their dreams
 Reconnects surgeon with his dream: to
prevent deaths like his grandfather’s
 Personal Management Process: he
reconnects with his dream through patients’
photos
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How do you approach your work?
dream
revisit
your
dream
preparation
obligation
© James G. Clawson
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“feel” and “goal” are not the same…
…we still had a long way to go. Like ants getting over an
enormous obstacle we climbed up without appearing to
make any progress. The slope was very steep. . . The air
was luminous, and the light was tinged with the most
delicate blue. On the other side of the couloir, ridges of
bare ice refracted the light like prisms and sparkled with
rainbow hues. The weather was still set fine--not a single
cloud--and the air was dry. I felt in splendid form and as if,
somehow, I had found a perfect balance within myself--was
this, I wondered, the essence of happiness.
Maurice Herzog, Annapurna, p. 166
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So, we come back again to this
question:
How do you want to feel?
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Resonance
is a question of
harmony between inside and outside
“I think that what we’re seeking is an
experience of being alive, so that our life
experiences on the purely physical plane
will have resonance with our innermost
being and reality, so that we actually feel
the rapture of being alive.”
- Joseph Campbell, The Power of Myth, 1988
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The Pursuit of Excellence
"Excellence is attained by those
who care more than others think is wise,
who risk more than others think is safe,
who dream more than others think is
practical.“
Bud Greenspan
© James G. Clawson
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Five Key Questions
1. How do I want
to feel today?
5. What
are you
willing to
work for?
4. How can I
2. What does it take
get it back? RESONANCE to get that feeling?
3. What keeps me
from that feeling?
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THE PURPOSE OF LIFE
 Find Your Resonance
 Invest in Your Resonance
 Enjoy Your Resonance
 Help Others Find Their Resonance
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Key Points …
 Pay attention to your internal Life’s Dream as
well as your external Life’s Dream
 Ask yourself, “if you’re not resonating, will you
be performing at a world-class level?”
 Pay attention to your experience along with
your achieving.
 It’s your life: what are you willing to work for?
 Ignore Task AND Process at the risk of your
enjoyment AND your performance
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Implications for Managers
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Can you distinguish between LDext and LDint?
Can you identify your LDint?
Can you identify your team’s LDint?
Can you help people reconnect with their LDint?
What will the impact be on performance?
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If you want
more on the
FEEL PERFORMANCE
relationship
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Break
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Session 5:
Leading Change in Teams
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What do we know
about teams?
• What they are
• Stages of development
• Necessary roles
• Principles of Building
• Principles of Leading
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Work Group or …
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Strong central leader
Individual accountability
Purpose = Corp’s.
Sequential jobs
Efficient meetings
Individual measures
Make work
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Team?
Shared Leadership
Team Accountability
Distinctive Purpose
Shared, real work
Open ended meetings
Direct, collective measures
Real work
Katzenbach and Smith, “The Wisdom of Teams”
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Common Stages of
Group Development (revised)
Forming
Orientation
Purpose? Membership?
Storming/Rule
Setting
Who’s the leader? What’s our style?
What’s okay? What’s not?
Performing
Working on the task.
Getting completion.
New tasks, new assignments, new
relationships, letting go.
Reforming
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