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Disciplining Students in
the
Teen Challenge Program
By Dave Batty
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Lesson 1
Discipline in your life
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Key Truth:
Your present view of discipline has
been greatly influenced by
your past experiences.
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Key Verse: Proverbs 22:6
Train a child in the way he
should go, and when he is old he
will not turn from it.
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Discipline in your life
(Early childhood years 1-12)
Were you raised and disciplined by Christian parents?
Yes
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Question 2
What was your home setting during your
first twelve years?
I was raised by both my biological father
and mother.
I was raised in a home with a step parent.
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Question 2
What was your home setting during your
first twelve years?
I was raised in a single parent home.
I was raised by someone other than my
biological parents.
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Question 4
Rate how often you were disciplined.
Rarely
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Very often
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Question 5
How often were the persons angry at the
time they were disciplining you?
Rarely
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Very often
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How you handle discipline
will quickly show the depth
of character in your life.
It will also expose your
weaknesses.
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What do you know about the
person you are disciplining?
Illustration
Checkers vs. Chess
How are they different?
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Lesson 2
Principles of Discipline
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Key Truth:
Understanding God's view of
discipline
will help me live a godly lifestyle
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Key Verse:
Hebrews 12:11 NIV
No discipline seems pleasant at the
time, but painful. Later on, however,
it produces a harvest of
righteousness and peace for those
who have been trained by it.
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What are some Biblical reasons for
having discipline?
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A. The need for discipline
 Proverbs
22:6
 Hebrews 12:11
 2 Timothy 3:16
 Romans 2:5-8
 Genesis 2:15-17, 3:1-24
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A. The need for discipline
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The simple reason why discipline is
needed—people have disobeyed
That’s a negative reason.
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Positive reason—People need to learn
to obey. This leads to the best life.
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B. Three levels of obedience
1.
Obey because you were told to do
it.
2.
Obey and discover the main
reason why you were told to do it.
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With every rule:
What are the main reasons why we have
this rule?
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B. Three levels of obedience
Obey on your own--An expanded version is: Obey on
your own---because it is the right
thing to do.
3.
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It is extremely important that
staff function at Level Three
Do the rules you enforce
reflect God’s priorities in life?
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D. Three levels of discipline
1.
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Self-discipline
--not self-punishment
--a healthy, mature way of facing life
--functioning at level 3 of obedience
--it's self-control
--willingly choosing to live within the
rules
2 Corinthians 10:5 Philippians 3:12-14
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D. Three levels of discipline
1.
Self-discipline
2 Corinthians 10:5
2.
Discipline by others.
Romans 13:1-5
3.
Discipline by God.
Hebrews 12:5-11
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Lesson 3
Relationships in
Discipline
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Key Truth:
Discipline carries the
greatest potential for positive
growth in the context of
meaningful relationships.
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Hebrews 12:10 NIV Our fathers
disciplined us for a little while as they
thought best; but God disciplines us
for our good, that we may share in
his holiness.
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THE SETTING OF DISCIPLINE
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A. Discipline in the context of meaningful
relationships
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The family
2.
Society
3.
God
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Discipline at Teen Challenge
In the Teen Challenge
program , damaged
relationships are a major
problem
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B. Discipline in the context of damaged
relationships
1.
Delusion --not seeing, not
understanding, or not acting in
truth.
2.
Denial--a defense mechanism to hide
from the painful consequences of facing
the truth
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B. Discipline in the context of damaged
relationships
3.
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Rebellion--"I don't want to submit
to your authority."
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Case Study #2 Just a little respect, please!
Instructions:
1. Take Study Guide Project 4. Read the case
study on the top of the page. If you are studying
this as a correspondence course, continue and
answer all questions at this time.
2. If you are studying this course in a classroom
environment group, go ahead and answer all
questions before the next session / class. Bring it
with you to discuss in the next class.
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Lesson 4
The Main Goals of
Discipline
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Key Truth:
Change within and in one’s behavior is
the goal of discipline.
Key Verse:
2 Peter 3:9b NIV He is patient with
you,
not wanting anyone to perish,
but everyone to come to repentance.
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A. What is the main goal of discipline?
A.
Change!
--What kind of change?
--you cannot force a student to change
--biblical discipline is designed to bring change
from a willing heart.
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Love is the highest motive for change
So what motivates a person to want to change?
1. Learning
2. Pain
Spiritual pain
b. Emotional pain
c. Physical pain
a.
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What kind of change are we looking for?
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Change that comes from the heart
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Change to want to obey God and those in
authority over us.
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B. What is the purpose of discipline
- punishment and correction?
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C. What is redemptive discipline?
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To bring healing, not just
punishment
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What are we doing to prepare
this to be a redemptive
experience?
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D. Discipline and the Consequences
Two perspectives of the problem
1. Getting caught
2. Disobedient behavior
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E. Attitudes of the staff
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Firm love
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Tender heart
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Attentive ears
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Lesson 5:
The Role of Staff in
Discipline
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Key Truth:
Teen Challenge staff must demonstrate God's
character in the context of discipline.
Key Verses:
Ephesians 4:15 NIV Instead, speaking the truth in
love, we will in all things grow up into him who is
the Head, that is, Christ.
1 Corinthians 11:1 NIV
Follow my example, as I follow the example of
Christ.
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Key areas in the life of the staff
A.
Understanding authority
B.
The self image of the staff
C.
Avoiding the wrong kind of help
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Key areas in the life of the staff
D.
Understanding cultural differences
E.
Communicating with Godly love
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A. Understanding authority
1.
The Jesus Style of authority
2.
God commands parents to discipline their children
3.
Leadership by example
1 Corinthians 11:1
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A. Understanding authority
4.
Walk in truth
5.
Obey at levels 2 & 3
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B.The self image of the staff
Do you need to be needed?
2. Power & a weak self image
3. The RIGHT to be respected
1.
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C. AVOIDING THE WRONG KIND OF
HELP
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1. Enabling
1.
Anything that stands in the way of persons experiencing the natural
consequences of their own behavior. Galatians 6:7-8
2.When helping harms the one you love.
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1. Enabling
3.
Rescuing people from their responsibilities and/or
consequences.
4.
Giving the person permission to stay sick, and continue
with their inappropriate behavior.
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2.
Confronting Conflict
We are most useful in confronting conflict when we are not
so much trying to change another person as we are trying
to help them see themselves more accurately.
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D. Understanding cultural differences
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E. Communicating with Godly love
1 Peter 4:8
Colossians 4:6
Ephesians 4:15
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Case Study 4: Kitchen Crew Chief
Question 2
What are the two issues that face the staff
as a result of the student's actions and
words?
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Lesson 6
TC Standards & Policies
for Discipline
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Key Truth: Discipline in the TC program is
only done within the context of approved
policies and procedures.
Key Verse: 2 Timothy 4:5 NIV
But you, keep your head in all situations,
endure hardship, . . . discharge all the
duties of your ministry.
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3 Steps for Standards and Policies
1.
Teen Challenge Accreditation Standards
2.
Local TC Policies & Procedures
How staff implement these policies &
procedures
3.
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Abuse, neglect, and exploitation
How could the discipline practices of a TC center relate to
the issues of abuse, neglect, or exploitation?
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What constitutes abuse when disciplining a student?
Physical abuse - hitting, beating, attempted strangulation.
Verbal abuse - shouting, berating a student, subjecting them to racial slurs or
other demeaning verbal messages.
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Student Rights
The right to give informed consent to refuse treatment or medication
and to be advised of the consequences of such a decision. That any
third-party coverage of treatment, including any limitations on the
duration of services, be made aware of if available.
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Student Rights
b.
The right to a grievance procedure.
c.
The right to a humane and safe environment free from abuse,
neglect, and exploitation. The student shall not be detained against
their will. They shall be granted dignity and personal privacy.
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What issues raised in this standard directly
relate to discipline?"
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STUDENT GRIEVANCE POLICY
Standard 77
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Student Records
Student Records – Standards 68 & 69
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Step 2
Policies and Procedures Manual
1.
2.
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Documenting discipline given to students
Policies on discipline
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Step 3
Implementing discipline policies
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Case study #5: The Laundry Lie
Question 1:
If you were the staff who caught Jill doing her
laundry, what would you do?
Question 2:
If you were the program director, what would you do
once you found out from the other two staff what Jill had done?
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Case study #5: The Laundry Lie
Discipline assigned Jill
1. She was assigned 3 hours of extra work detail--one hour for each
staff involved in this case. She had to wash the van inside and out and
do yard work for the rest of the time.
2. She had to memorize several verses related to lying and
manipulation.
3. On her next scheduled day to do her laundry, she was not allowed
to use the washer or dryer, but had to do her laundry by hand.
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Lesson 7
Interview with Teen
Challenge Program
Director
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Lesson 8
Methods of Discipline
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Key Truth:
With the Lord's help, we need to find the most appropriate
discipline for each student.
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Key Verse:
Hebrews 12:11 (NIV)
No discipline seems pleasant at the
time, but painful. Later on, however, it
produces a harvest of righteousness and
peace for those who have been trained by
it.
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A major concern for all staff
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What is the intent behind the discipline?
How will this discipline help this student
develop the godly attitudes and
behaviors of a growing Christian?
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Methods of Discipline
Discipline situation #___
How would you discipline?
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A. Methods of Discipline
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Counseling
Educational Projects
Loss of Privileges
Work Detail
Major violations
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1.
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Counseling
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2.
Educational Projects
A. Scripture study
B. Character Qualities study
C. Book study projects
D. Special written projects
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3. Loss of Privileges
--phone calls
--visits from family
--mail
--recreation
--shopping trips
--passes
--free time
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4.
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Work Detail
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5.
a.
b.
c.
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Major violations
Probation
Extend time in the program
Start the program over again
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5.
d.
e.
f.
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Major violations
Suspension
Dismissal from the program
Transfer to another program
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B. Prohibited Disciplinary Procedures
1.
2.
3.
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No demeaning language
No physical contact
No lock-downs
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B. Prohibited Disciplinary Procedures
e.
Do not discipline in public
No food deprivation
f.
No excessive discipline
d.
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C.
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Dismissal process
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D. How to assign appropriate discipline
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Lesson 9
Making Discipline Effective
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Key Truth
Staff must respond in discipline with godly attitudes to help
make the discipline effective.
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Key Verse
1 Peter 3:9 (NIV)
Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing,
because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.
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Making Discipline Effective
A.
B.
C.
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Show love & concern
Avoid favoritism
Stay calm during a problem
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Making Discipline Effective
D.
E.
F.
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Dealing with difficult people
Patience vs. frustration
Confronting conflict
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A.
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Show love & concern
How can staff show they love the students?
How can staff show they care about the students?
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A.
Show love & concern
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How did staff show love or fail to show love?
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How did that impact their relationship with that staff,
especially when it came time to discipline?
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B.
Avoid favoritism
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How do staff show favoritism to students?
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How does the perception of favoritism affect the
student's response to discipline?
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C.
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Stay calm during a problem
How easy is it for you right now in life to take
disrespectful comments or unjustified criticism?
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C.
Stay calm during a problem
Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs
up anger.
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E.
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Patience vs. frustration
What situations related to discipline do you think would
be most frustrating to you?
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E.
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Patience vs. frustration
What are some appropriate or inappropriate ways to
express patience in the context of disciplining students in
the Teen Challenge program?
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Chapter 10
Special Situations in
Discipline
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Special Situations in Discipline
A.
B.
C.
D.
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Training for new staff
Confession vs. denial
Evidence gathering and assessment
Confidentiality
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Special Situations in Discipline
E.
F.
G.
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When do you call the police?
When do you discipline the whole program?
Disciplining a student with a background of abuse
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Contact information
Global Teen Challenge
[email protected]
www.GlobalTC.org
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