Transcript The medium through which people and animals communicate

What do we mean by “Body Language” ??
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Body language plays a big role in intuition
as it gives us messages about the other
person, that we can interpret at an intuitive
level. Communication is mostly based on
non verbal cues.
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Facial Expression including Eye contact
Gestures
Stance
Space Relationship
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There are some universal facial expressions; a
smile, a frown, a scowl.
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Eye contact is direct and powerful.
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The use of eye contact varies significantly
from culture to culture
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Fidgeting shows boredom and restlessness.
Pressing fingers together to form a steeple
shows interests, assertiveness and
determination.
Touching the nose or rubbing eyes indicates
discomfort.
A hand to the back of the neck may indicate
withdrawal from a conversation.
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Interested people always have an erect
posture, pay attention and lean forward
A firm handshake will give the impression
of assertiveness or honesty
People showing open hands, both feet
planted on the ground are accepting
A head tilted to the side indicates interest
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Leaning backwards demonstrates
aloofness or rejection
Folding arms across ones chest or body is
protective and gives the impression of a
closed, guarded and defensive character.
People with arms folded, legs crossed and
bodies turned away are signalling that
they are rejecting messages.
A head down is negative and judgmental
The winning qualities that make you a leader or
a charismatic speaker are not only about what
you say, but about how you say that. Leadership
is a natural trait and not only a sociological
phenomenon, whichh has biological and
physiological aspects.
We can determine who will become the
dominant
male in a group of animals just by
simply
modifying their behavior, either by
training or
chemically
It is not surprising that some of the most
charismatic leaders of our day, like Barack
Obama
or Steve Jobs, are masters of body language
and
have mastered the ability to synchronize their
verbal and the non-verbal messages: to control
their body gestures, and thereby their ability to
influence their audience and effectively
convey
their message
ENTERING THE ROOM/STAGE
The posture of a leader starts with
the entrance- stride out to the podium
with the confident and upright
posture of someone in command. This
includes long strides. Avoid shifting
your weight from side to side. This
gesture is often perceived as
nervousness
First impressions are made
quickly, last a long time, and cannot
be repealed. Play the scenario in
your head ahead of time. Think
about what you want to project and
act accordingly.
Keep your body open –
sending the message "I have
nothing to hide".
Straight, open
hands forming one line with your
arm shows honesty and openness
Keep open body posture and appropriate eye
contact. If sitting, chose a place at a reasonable
distance from the other person, or audience.
You will notice that the best leaders get out from
behind the podium so the audience can see
their entire bodies. They fully face the audience,
make eye contact, keep their movements relaxed
and natural, and stand tall - all of which are
nonverbal signs of credibility and competence
"The eyes are often called, 'the windows of the soul' as
they can express many different nonverbal signals
Direct eye contact often increases significantly when we
are listening, and especially when we are paying close
attention to what the other person is saying.
There is reduced eye contact when talking, particularly by
people who are visual thinkers, as they stare into the
distance or upwards and 'see' what they are talking about.
Make sure that your eyes sparkle. Good eye
contact is essential, but if your eyes are tired
and bloodshot, then it is not as effective. On
top of practicing your talk, some eye drops
might be a worthwhile investment
By using positive gestures such as nodding
repeatedly and acknowledging the audience you
build an alliance with them, a nonverbal
agreement that you are on the same side.
One of the best ways to
emphasize a message is by
taking a pause. It is not limited
to public speaking. Taking a
pause and letting your body
language to convey a message
speaks more loudly then words.
This is a very effective tool but
only when not overused. Too
many pauses will bore the
audience.
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Make your handshake strong and firm. Pump hands once or
twice, and then release.
A weak handshake or a bone crushing handshake can both
leave a
negative impression.
Don’t be afraid to practice shaking hands
Remember that a handshake is part of the first impression
that you make, and the last impression that you leave at
an interview.
If you have a weak, limp handshake, this tells the
interviewer that you may not have the ability to deal with
confrontation. On the other hand, if your handshake is too
strong, then you may not be a good listener
Placing tips of fingers, one against the other,
indicates active listening while taking a critical
stance and giving serious attention to the
information
Linking fingertips shows an attempt to provide
an accurate and thorough answer
Bringing fingertips closer together and closing the
space between the fingers indicates a lack of
confidence in the accuracy of the answer
Have you ever wished that you could tell when
someone is lying to you?
Most people have lied one way or another in
their life. In fact, lying has become part of
human nature. Sometimes we have to tell lies in
order to avoid hurting somebody else. As the
saying goes, what the person doesn't know won't
hurt him. However, if discovering the truth is
what you're after, then these tips on how to
detect a lie will help you find out if you're being
duped or not.
Denying eye contact is often a sign of
discomfort.
Usually people make eye contact for about
half of the conversation, so if you notice their
eyes constantly wavering, especially during a
touchy subject, you may be dealing with a
liar.
Covering the mouth is usually a sign of
discomfort and can be related to stress.
When you notice someone suddenly
covering their mouth or rubbing their chin,
it’s usually a sign they are uncomfortable.
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Locked
mindedness, submissive, or defensive
which are all state of minds that can be
related to lies.
Always keep in mind leg crossing should
be read in context and in groups of other
body language gestures.
According to Cornell University communications
researchers, people are most likely to lie on the
telephone
In fact, the researchers say, phone fibbing is even
more likely than when people use e-mail, instant
messaging or even speak face-to-face
"Some psychologists did not expect this. Lies make
us feel uncomfortable, and you would think we
should
be using media to reduce that discomfort, but that's
not the case," says Jeff Hancock, Cornell assistant
professor of communication
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Closed hands can be interpreted as a sign of
closed-mindedness, submission or
defensiveness, which are all states of mind
that can be related to lies.
Most people find it hard to lie while their
hands are open
Rubbing the lower eyelid is like saying: “I'm
not so sure about what has been said.”
The deeper the finger rubs, the greater the
discomfort and disbelief with what is being
said or heard.
Research shows that, when a person
is dishonest, they tend to touch their
nose often.
The theory behind touching the nose
gesture is to mimic the person
covering their mouth as if they are
telling lies.
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Recent studies have shown that an average
person has approximately 54% chance of
catching deception. Here are some gestures to
detect a lie.
Keep in mind each one of the following
gestures should be used in context and
multiple gestures should be recognized to
detect a lie. To detect deceptive messages you
should learn to understand the following
gestures.
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Observe your date's face. Most flirting starts
with facial expressions. Here are a few things
to watch for in your date's face:
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The head tilt. If your date tilts his head slightly when he looks at you, you
can bet he's subconsciously showing you he likes you.
The eyebrow flash. In other words, watch for your man to lift his
eyebrows when he looks over at you. Though subtle, men tend to lift their
eyebrows quickly when they see someone they're attracted to [2][3].
Flared nostrils. Often, a man's nostrils will flare slightly when he's
interested in a woman. This gives his face a more "open" expression and
betters his chances of appearing attractive to you [4].
A flirtatious smile. There are a number of flirtatious smiles a boy can flash
at you when you're just getting to know each other:
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The sneer. While this can come across as cute and coy, it's often an indication that the
boy just wants something physical. This half smile is meant to look mysterious and
alluring without inviting you to get emotionally attached.
The closed mouth smile. This is usually construed as a good thing; he's into you, but
he's shy. Don't be surprised if he takes a while to open up to you.
The smirk. This one is easy to get confused with the closed mouth smile. However,
generally the smirk will come from one side of the mouth, whereas the open mouth
smile will be the same on both sides.
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Notice his eye contact. If you have just met, he
may look away every time he catches you
looking at him. As you get more comfortable
together, you'll notice stronger eye contact and
gazes that last longer than a couple seconds.
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Watch his chest. A man keeps his torso
pointed towards the most important thing in
the room [5]. Therefore, a man who is interested
in you will keep his chest and shoulders
pointed at you, even if he is looking in a
different direction.
Note that this also holds true for his pelvis. If
you're standing apart and he keeps his pelvis
pointed at you, even when he turns, he's
probably interested.
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Peek at his legs. If he's standing with his feet
set wide apart, he's trying to look powerful and
show off for you
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Be mindful of his hands. If he hooks his hands
on his belt loop or pockets, he may be trying to
subconsciously move your attention to that
part of his body. Likewise, standing with his
hands on his hips is a subconscious way for
your date to look powerful and sexy for you
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Pay attention to his touch. A man who is
interested will find any excuse to touch you.
This could be anything from simply touching
your arm when you say something funny to
reaching over and brushing an eyelash off your
face.
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Hugging. When you hug is the duration of the
hug longer than 5-10 seconds? Platonic hugs
are usually about that, but if he's holding on
longer than that, it probably means he doesn't
want it to be a 'just friends' hug. If he lingers
and holds on a little when you pull away, you
know he doesn't want to let go.
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Watch his hands. As a man begins to flirt
more, he'll start to use his hands more, too.
He'll get more animated and use more gestures
when he speaks. He'll also start to fidget more
and use his hands to fix his hair, clothing, etc.
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He fixes his hair. Watch him when you get up
to leave a room. Do his hands immediately fly
up to fix his hair? Smoothing or ruffling his
hair is a sign he's trying to look good for you.
He touches his face. When humans are
attracted to someone, their skin (especially on
their face) becomes more sensitive. Therefore,
look for him to continuously rub his chin,
cheek, or lips. He may also lick his lips or take
frequent sips from his drink.
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He rubs his stomach. While this can be a sign of
insecurity, there's a good chance that it also means
your man is trying to get you to notice him.
He smoothes his shirt or pants. This form of
preening can mean both that he's nervous and that
he's trying to look his best for you.
He offers you his hand palm-up. If you're at the
hand-holding stage, pay attention to the way he
offers you his hand. If his palm is facing up, he's
hoping to connect on more than just a physical
level.
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Look at his posture. This is a tricky one, but if
your man usually has good posture, look for
slight slouching around you. This indicates not
only that he feels comfortable around you, but
also that he wants to take you into his arms.
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Gage his giggle-factor. Does he laugh easily
around you? A man who is attracted to and
comfortable around you will laugh more easily
than a man who could care less. In addition, he
may try harder to make you laugh or get you to
notice him. If your date is exceptionally silly
around you or exceptionally loud when you're
in the same room, you can bet he's hoping you
find him as funny as he finds you.
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Take careful watch when he is standing near
you. He may try to move in closer when you
don't seem to be watching to test if you feel
comfortable around him. In normal
conversation, a man will be 1.5-2 feet away
from another person. [16] If he is closer, you can
take that as a sign that he's attracted to you.
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Notice proximity when you sit next to each
other. If your calves are pressed against one
another, if he leans in very close pressed
against your shoulder to whisper to you, if he
leans his head on yours or on your shoulder, if
he nudges you or lightly pushes you, these are
all signs he's interested in you.
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Comparing his body to yours. It may sound
creepy, but does he hold out his hand to compare
how much smaller your hands are to his? Is he
fascinated by the difference in your leg-torso
proportions and his? Does he look at your feet
when they are next to his? If he is interested in you
as a person, he'll be interested in your body as well
as it is one component of who you are. Depending
on the guy this might come off as either an almost
child-like curiosity about your body to the other
extreme of a more 'checking-you-out' kind of
sexual vibe. This should hopefully be a clue to if he
likes you as a person or just your body.
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Look deep into his eyes. Does he blink
frequently? Do his pupils dilate around you?
These are both indications that he's interested
in you. In addition, he may return your long
stare. Long lasting, comfortable (not piercing)
eye contact is a sign that he wants to get to
know you.
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Don't jump to any conclusions .
Don't get confused about whether the signals mean something or not. For
example, just because he keeps his body pointing towards you when you
talk to him doesn't necessarily mean he's interested. Take some time to
read ALL the signs before you make your decision
Try to talk about stuff you both like. If he isn't looking at you while you
talk, it means he's not interested. If he is commenting and nodding he's
interested.
Compare his behavior around you to his behavior around other girls. If
he is flirty around all of you, he could just be a flirt.
Try and gauge whether or not his smiles are genuine. Obviously, a
genuine smile is a sure sign that he's interested in you and feels
comfortable around you.
Don't let his friends intimidate you! A guy will like a girl who will stand
out and be confident!
Make sure he's ACTUALLY interested in you before you go up to talk to
him if you've never talked before.
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Pay attention to her gaze. A woman who is
interested will not only check you out, but
she'll let you catch her doing it! Repeated direct
eye contact from across the room is a sure sign
she wants you to come say hi, especially if it's
accompanied by a smile.
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Watch her face. Women's faces tend to be more animated when
they're interested in you. Pay attention to her eyebrows, lips, and
eyes to see how she reacts to the things you have to say. Here a
few things to keep your eyes peeled for: Raised eyebrows. This
can be used in a number of situations, but most of the time, it's a
good thing. When paired with a smile and a nod, raised eyebrows
means that she agrees with what you're saying—even if it's just
because you're the one who's saying it. Women will also raise their
eyebrows after making eye contact to show that they like what
they see.
Fidgety lips. If she chews on her lips when she's thinking or
listening, she's drawing attention to her lips, and thus probably
interested. Likewise, look for her to be licking her lips. Not only is
this a subconscious way to draw attention to her lips, but women's
mouths get drier when they're excited and/or aroused,
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Dilated pupils. Both males and females' pupils dilate
when they are interested in the person they're talking
to. This will be especially apparent if you're in a light
setting, as darker settings will naturally produce more
dilated pupils.
Overactive eyelids. If she's batting her eyelashes, she's
definitely flirting. While this move is very cliché, the
stereotype comes from somewhere. If a woman is
interested in you, she'll blink slightly faster than she
would normally.
Flared nostrils. When women are interested or
aroused, their nostrils flare. It's an involuntary
response to excitement, so, like dilated pupils, you can
be pretty sure she's genuinely interested if her nostrils
are flared.
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Take note of where she is in relation to you.
Interested women will lean in close. If you're
sitting at a table, she may rest her head on one
or both of her hands to get closer to you.
Beware of crossed arms. If she's sitting back in
her chair with her arms crossed, chances are
she's bored or uninterested. Try regaining her
interest by sparking conversation about her
and her life. If nothing works, you may need to
find another girl.
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Pay attention to the way she touches her hair.
Gentle movements, such as mindlessly twirling
a strand around her finger or running her
fingers through it slowly are signs that she's
very interested. Quick, jerky movements
indicate that she's embarrassed or impatient,
especially when paired with wandering eyes.
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Be mindful of her fingers. Women who are interested will use
their fingers to caress erogenous zones on their body, fiddle with
jewelry, or play with their glass.
Caressing erogenous zones. When a woman often caresses her lips,
neck, or collarbones, she's sending you a signal that she wants
you. This is commonly a subconscious way of drawing your
attention to these areas, reminding you that she's sexy.
Fiddling with jewelry. When a woman is around someone that she's
interested in, her heart beats faster. This makes her feel nervous
excitement. As a sort of outlet for that tension, she'll twist her
rings, play with her earring, or tug at her necklace. She may also
bounce her foot or leg to get rid of the extra energy.
Playing with objects. When a woman strokes the stem of a wine
glass or runs her fingers along the rim of her water cup, she's
trying to get your attention. If the movements are slow and
controlled, she's likely interested. If, however, she's tapping the
glass and pursing her lips, she probably can't wait to get out of
there.
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Look at her legs. Often times, an interested
woman will cross her legs. This is an especially
good sign if her top leg is pointed towards you.
She may also stroke her lower thigh or smooth
her pants as or before she does this to further
draw attention to her legs.
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Note physical contact. Everyone has a personal
"bubble" of about 18 inches. If she gets into your
personal space, or even finds excuses to touch you,
you can bet she's interested. Be ready for any
"tests" she might make for herself—stepping into
your personal space to let someone walk past,
touching your arm as a condolence when you're
sad, or putting her hand on your knee to
emphasize that she finds you funny are all quick
breakdowns of the physical barriers to see how
you react.If you're interested in her, respond by
doing a few little "tests" of your own. She'll know
you're interested, and it'll open up the doors for
longer, more prolonged touching.
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Be aware of eye contact. A woman will let you
know she thinks you're the most interesting person
in the room by staring into your eyes. If you're just
getting to know each other, she will only hold it a
couple seconds longer than normal. However, if
you know each other well, she may feel
comfortable enough to stare deep into your eyes
for long periods of time. It takes two. She can't
make prolonged eye contact with you if you shift
your gaze. If you're uncomfortable by her
advances, feel free to look away quickly. However,
if you're interested in her, let the eye contact last
for a couple seconds before you let yourself (or
her!) look away.
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Gauge her giggle factor. Take notice of how often
she smiles or laughs around you comparatively to
other people. Often times, a woman who's
interested in you will find it hard to stop laughing
in your presence. This may be during a
conversation with you, during which she'll make
lots of eye contact, smile, and giggle or laugh at
even the most pitiful jokes, or it may be simply
when she's in the same room with you. Look also
for overly loud, boisterous behavior when she's
engaged in a different conversation in the same
room; it's a sure sign she wants you to notice her.
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Be mindful of "cute" gestures. There are a few
gestures that women will make to encourage
your desire to take her into your arms. The
most important of these is the shoulder shrug.
Open, upturned palms are also important signs
that she's interested.
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Check out her heartbeat. If you are
comfortable enough with each other to cuddle,
put your head on her chest. If her heart is
racing, she's really interested. If you're not
comfortable enough to get close to her heart,
check out her wrist pulse. Lightly grab her
hand and rest a finger on her wrist. This is
difficult to master, but if you can pin down a
racing heart, you have a pretty good sign that
she's very into you.
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Look for mirrored movements. Often, a
woman who is interested will subconsciously
mirror your movements. This shows that the
two of you are on the same wavelength and
can thus increase intimacy in the relationship.
That's why dancing is considered intimate or
sexy—it forces you to mirror each other's
movements!
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When a girl looks you up and down without moving
her head then smiles. That means she likes what she
sees and might be quietly declaring that she likes you.
Look for the facial muscle tension. It's inversely
proportional to the attraction. The most noticeable
areas are around the lips, chin and forehead.
You can also try the clock trick. Look abruptly at the
clock, then back at her, unless you were watching her
from the corner of your eye. Any object works for this.
If she was looking where you were looking, she was
probably watching you. But beware, she might have
thought you saw something dangerous or interesting
and wanted to find out what it was.
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Do not stare at the woman's cleavage, even if
she has it partially exposed. Some men have a
very bad habit of doing this, but you can
almost guarantee your date will be offended if
she notices your eyes are wandering (especially
on a first date).
Refrain from assuming that seemingly sexual
gestures mean the girl wants you. If you make
advances and she's not looking for that, things
will probably not end well.
Not all women have the same body language!