Theme 2014: Experiencing God, Embracing People!
needed in the world today?
2 Misconceptions about conflicts:
Why is unresolved conflicts
1 John 4:20….
“If anyone says, ‘I love God,’ yet hates his
brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does
not love his brother, whom he has seen,
cannot love God, whom he has not seen.”
1 Peter 3:7….
“Husbands, in the same way be
considerate as you live with your wives,
and treat them with respect . . . so that
nothing will hinder your prayers.”
“You are only hurting yourself
with your anger…” [NIV]
“And those who are
peacemakers will plant
seeds of peace and reap
a harvest of goodness.”
to being a
“23 So if you are standing before the altar
in the Temple, offering a sacrifice to God,
and you suddenly remember that someone
has something against you, 24 leave your
sacrifice there beside the altar. Go and be
reconciled to that person. Then come and
offer your sacrifice to God.” [NLT]
should take priority even
The biggest barrier to
deal with is…
“He (Adam) answered, ‘I heard you
in the garden, and I was afraid
because I was naked; so I hid.’ ”
Fear of being EXPOSED or
being VULNERABLE —
causes us to do 3 things . . .
afraid to reveal our
withdraw & hide our
try to control things,
have last words.
Where do we find
2 Timothy 1:7….
“For God has not given us a spirit of
fear and timidity, but of power, love,
and self-discipline.” [NLT]
“If you need wisdom – if you want to
know what God wants you to do –
ask him, and he will gladly tell you.
He will not resent your asking.” [NLT]
What are the causes of
“What causes fights and quarrels
among you? They are caused by
selfish desires that are continually
at war inside you.”
When I’m at peace inside, what’s
outside doesn’t upset me. I can
disagree without getting distressed.
“Pride only leads
We all have
“3 Why do you notice the little piece
of dust in your friend’s eye, but you
don’t notice the big piece of wood in
your own eye? . . . 5 First, take the
wood out of your own eye. Then you
will see clearly to take the dust
out of your friend’s eye.” [NCV]
“. . . be quick to listen, slow to
speak, and slow to get angry.”
“Each of you should look not only
to your own interests, but also
to the interests of others.
Your attitude should be the same
as that of Christ Jesus.”
Old Chinese proverbs….
“. . . we must bear the ‘burden’
of being considerate of the
doubts and fears of others…”
“Speak the truth in love.”
— but never use the
truth as a bat to
hit or stab people.
“Reckless words pierce like a sword,
but the tongue of the wise brings
“Do not use harmful words, but only
helpful words, the kind that build up
and provide what is needed ...” [TEV]
In conflict settlements,
learn to attack the issue
without attacking each other.
“You must rid yourselves of all such
things as these: anger, rage, malice,
slander, and filthy language
from your lips.” [NIV]
Don’t try to intimidate
with anger (threats).
Saying things to
wound, hurt, destroy.
Insults, belittling, labeling,
is re-establishing the relationship.
is resolving every disagreement.
The truth is that there are some
things you will never agree on.
You can have UNITY without
You can walk hand in hand
without seeing eye to eye.
You can have reconciliation
without resolution of every issue.
focus on the relationship
— often issues become
As Christians, we should commit to
agent of “reconciliation.”
What do you think is
God’s GOAL for us?
2 Corinthians 5:18-20….
“God has restored our relationship
with him through Christ, and has
given us this ministry of restoring
relationships. God was in Christ
restoring his relationship with
He didn’t hold people’s faults against
them, and he has given us this
message of restored relationships
to tell others. We are Christ’s
representatives . . . We beg you on
behalf of Christ to become reunited