Transcript Cinderella Picture Yourself at the Palace”

Leadership
Development:
“Reaching
the Palace”
Cary J. Broussard
Author, From Cinderella to CEO
Your Personal Plan for Success
(and Reaching the Palace)
 Learn to think like a chief executive officer
at any level (with integrity)
 Envision a transformation for yourself that
suits your own values, goals and realities
 Recognize the value of risk-taking and how
to inspire others to follow you
Real-Life Cinderella Advice
“Determine your goal and then consider how
men have successfully navigated their rise.”
Lalia Rach, Associate Dean,
Tisch Hotel School/New York University
Dancing in the Right Shoes Work Life Strategies
 Delegate
 Motivate
 Negotiate
Delegate vs. Dumping
 Weigh skill level
 Define goal
 Consider time availability
 Avoid micro-managing
 Provide resources to help
Motivate
 Instill confidence
 Provide incentives
 Stay accessible
 Give credit and don’t criticize
 Don’t apologize
Negotiate
 Saying or Hearing “No” is an option
 Don’t fly off handle
 Offer solution
 Negotiate for staff or contract…or raise
 Create a priority list with boss
Negotiating (Principles)
 Know power of person you are
negotiating with
 Be realistic about your value
 Know what you are willing to concede
 Ask questions – get information
 After verbal agreement – get in writing
 Ask mentor to advocate for you
 Seize moment when you’re golden
Real-Life Cinderella Advice
“Never join a company where you
can’t picture yourself being the CEO.”
Myra Hart,
Harvard Professor and one of original founders of Staples
Recognize the Beauty in Ideas –
Not the Beast…
 Be a leader (CEO) at
any level
 Recognize potential
before others do
 Trust your intuition
 Get others on board
 Make decisions but
anticipate criticism
 Risk-taking leads to
the castle
Risk Taking – the Stepping Stones
 Recognize your skill set and others
 Ask for and conduct evaluations
 Lead a project
 Introduce original ideas
 Evaluate your opportunities, loyalties and
support systems
Remember….
 With greater visibility comes more
criticism.
 Don’t emphasize your fears and doubts if
you want others to follow
 Look at decisions as investments. Do the
research, weigh the odds and if it doesn’t
work out figure out how to recoup any
losses.
 Be rational but listen to your heart.
Intuition is a powerful tool..
Are You Ready to Reach the Palace?
(Ask Yourself These Questions)
 Do you want to think like a chief
executive officer now ?
 Do you envision a transformation for
yourself that suits your values, goals
and realities ?
 Do you have a plan to gain the support
of important allies?
 What are your next steps?
Real-Life Cinderella Advice
300 Years Ago…. Still True Today
“You may fail to reach success, without a fairy
godmother or godfather to help you on your way.”
Charles Perault, first Western publisher of Cinderella
How Mentors Work Magic
How Mentors Work Magic
 They Give You Credit!
 Offer insight into company politics
 Provide a safe place for problems
 Help keep things in perspective
 Support bid for a raise, promotion,
or desired flex time
 They teach specific job skills and procedures
Staying on the Path to Success
Staying on the Path to Success
“The key is never to quit, ever….”
Nancy Brinker, Founder,
Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation
How to Handle Wolves in the Workplace
#1 Take responsibility for your own survival
#2 Learn how to accept criticism well
#3 Be strategic about staying on your
path to success
Staying on the Path to Success
 Keep doing your job well
 Be a political animal
 Surround yourself with supporters
 Be extra prepared
 Exercise patience
 Limit exposure to detractor(s)
 Kill enemies with kindness and laughter
Surviving a Wicked Boss
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Win over with sheer excellence
Don’t view boss as the enemy
Pick your battles
Muster up some empathy
Consult your mentor
Wait until –
– Boss self destructs
…Like the evil queen
 Whistle while you work
Real-Life Cinderella Advice
“Ask yourself – how do I promote myself”
Christine Duffy, CEO Maritz Travel
Rapunzel Says “Let Down Your Hair…
Make Your Voice Heard!”
Rapunzel Says “Let Down Your Hair…
Make Your Voice Heard!”
 Strengthen your communication skills
 Be a good listener
 Observe how other people communicate
 Take yourself seriously but keep sense
of humor
 Together – Make your voices heard
Cut Through the Briar – To the Castle
How to have your ideas taken more seriously
by men (and women) p. 135
 Practice delivering your idea
 How to move business forward
 Listen to flow of conversation
 Evaluate communication habits
 Idea falls flat?
 Don’t take “no” for answer
 If you’re excluded
Streamline Meetings
 Prior to meeting
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Work on items important to you
Work with others attending
Resolve major hurdles/conflicts
 When chair, let people have their
say without being too lenient
 Stay on schedule
 Keep emotions “in check”
Personal PR – Five Steps to Tasteful
Self Promotion….
 Informally let others know about your results
 Brag on someone else
 Offer to give presentations at meetings
 Contribute articles/quotes
 Accept that not everyone will be a supporter
(i.e. Don’t Beat Yourself Up)
Swimming with the Swans
(How to Cultivate Supporters)
 Deliver on what you say you will do
 Give co-workers deserved praise
 Join industry groups or outside interest
groups
 Stay the course as support ebbs and flows
 Keep paddling!
Duckling to Swan Exercise
 What are you good at now?
 What do you enjoy that you don’t get to do –
and are good at?
 What steps can you take to use your
skills/talents?
 List your memorable accomplishments
 List three steps you can take to get more
recognition (now and future)
Lost in the Woods?
Remember These Smart Survival Strategies
 Leave trail of good contacts
 Stay in touch with recruiters
 Build a financial contingency fund
 Stay in good physical/mental condition
 Fine tune your interview skills
Seven Bad Habits to Break
…on Your Way to the Castle
 Whistle while you work – Don’t be a “pill”
 Dress up for the ball – Don’t get complacent
 Prioritize – Don’t forget to delegate
 Recognize wolves – Don’t be naïve
 Imperfect princess – Don’t dwell on your
shortcomings
 Hold your head high – Don’t forget this
 Success is sweet – Don’t waste time on
revenge
And They Worked
…Happily Ever After
 Paddle your way into a group that recognizes
your strengths
 Find a fairy godmentor
 Bring everyone to the feast and support
diversity
 Behave as if you always belonged at the Ball!
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book, speaking and consulting….
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