Finding the Real Story,,,, Listening with a Counselor’s Ear

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Finding the Real Story…. Listening with a Counselor’s Ear

Do You Communicate Effectively?

Communication Involves Three Components

Verbal Messages – the words we choose • Paraverbal Messages – how we say the words • Nonverbal Messages – our body language

How You Communicate

Words 7% Tone 38% 38% Nonverbal 55%

Verbal Messages

• Are brief, succinct, and organized • Are free of jargon • Do not create resistance in the listener

Paraverbal Messages • Account for about 38% of what is perceived and understood by others.

• Includes the tone, pitch, and pacing of our voice.

Nonverbal Messages • Account for about 55% of what is perceived and understood by others.

• Are conveyed through our facial expressions as well as our postures and gestures.


In Conversation • Use simple language • Avoid acronyms • Avoid slang • If you have to repeat it several times, maybe it is the way you are conveying it to them.

Listening • Requires concentration and energy • Includes a desire and willingness to try and see things from another’s perspective • Involves a psychological connection with the speaker • Requires that we suspend judgment and evaluation

Key Listening Skills • • Nonverbal: – Giving full physical attention to the speaker – Being aware of the speaker’s nonverbal messages Verbal: – Paying attention to the words and feelings that are being expressed – Using reflective listening tools such as paraphrasing, reflecting, summarizing, and questioning to increase understanding of the message and help the speaker tell his/her story

Active Listening • • • • • Leaning gently towards the speaker Facing the other person squarely Maintaining an open posture with arms and legs uncrossed Maintaining an appropriate distance Moving our bodies in response to the speaker, i.e., appropriate head nodding, facial expressions

How are you communicating vs. your students?

“A student does not care what you know, unless they know that you care.” - Dr. Crystal Kuykendall-