Catalyzing Brain Change:From Incremental Skills toQuantum
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Transcript Catalyzing Brain Change:From Incremental Skills toQuantum
2015 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium
March 28, 2014
Washington, D.C.
Linda Graham, MFT
Marriage and Family Therapist – 25 years
Psychodynamic, Attachment, Trauma, Mindfulness, Neuroscience
Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum
Resilience and Well-Being
2013 Books for a Better Life award
2014 Better Books for a Better World award
www.lindagraham-mft.net
[email protected]
All the world is full of suffering.
It is also full of overcoming.
- Helen Keller
Premise of Workshop
Different neural activities underlie
Different levels of client functioning, thus
Different mechanisms of therapeutic change
Four mechanisms of brain change to address
Four levels of client functioning
Modern Brain Science
The field of neuroscience is so new,
we must be comfortable not only
venturing into the unknown
but into error.
- Richard Mendius, M.D.
Neuroscience of Brain Change
Neuroscience technology is 20 years old
Meditation improves attention and impulse
control; shifts mood and perspective; promotes
health
Oxytocin can calm a panic attack in less than a
minute
Kindness and comfort, early on, protects against
later stress, trauma, psychopathology
Neuroplasticity
Greatest discovery of modern neuroscience
Growing new neurons
Strengthening synaptic connections
Myelinating pathways – faster processing
Creating and altering brain structure and circuitry
Organizing and re-organizing functions of brain
structures
The brain changes itself - lifelong
The brain is shaped by experience. And because
we have a choice about what experiences we
want to use to shape our brain, we have a
responsibility to choose the experiences that
will shape the brain toward the wise and the
wholesome.
- Richard J. Davidson, PhD
Evolutionary legacy
Genetic templates
Family of origin conditioning
Who we are and how we cope…
…is not our fault
Given neuroplasticity
and choices of self-directed neuroplasticity
Who we are and how we cope…
…is our responsibility
Mechanisms of Brain Change
Conditioning
New Conditioning
Re-Conditioning
De-Conditioning
Conditioning
Experience causes neurons to fire
Repeated experiences, repeated neural firings
Neurons that fire together wire together
Strengthen synaptic connections
Connections stabilize into neural pathways
Conditioning is neutral, wires positive and
negative
Conditioning – Skills and Functions
How brain learns from experience
Encodes learning, behaviors, skills in
neural circuitry
Develop pre-frontal cortex
Strengthen inner secure base, personal
sense of self
Therapeutic relationship = re-parenting
Attachment – Earliest Conditioning
Secure: safety and trust; stable and flexible focus and
functioning; open to learning; inner secure base provides
buffer against stress, trauma
Insecure-avoidant: stable, not flexible; focus on selfworld, not on other or emotions; rigid; defensive, not
open to learning; neural cement
Insecure-anxious: flexible, not stable; focus on other, not
on self-world; less able to retain learning; neural swamp
Disorganized: lack of focus, moments of dissociation,
compartmentalization of trauma
Pre-Frontal Cortex - Functions
Regulate body and nervous system
Quell fear response of amygdala
Manage emotions
Attunement – felt sense of feelings
Empathy – making sense of experience
Insight and self-knowing
Response flexibility
True Other to the True Self
The roots of resilience are to be found in the felt
sense of being held in the mind and heart of an
empathic, attuned, and self-possessed other.
- Diana Fosha, PhD
To see and be seen: that is the question, and
that is the answer.
- Ken Benau, PhD
New Conditioning
Choose new experiences
Gratitude practice, listening skills, focusing
attention, self-compassion, self-acceptance
Create new learning, new memory
Encode new wiring
Install new pattern of response
New Conditioning
Strengthen pre-frontal cortex
Brain more resilient
Brain more receptive
We are more resilient
Cues to Practice - ANTS to PATS
Identify habitual negative pattern of response
Identify new, positive response to counter/replace
Identify cue word or phrase to name negative and
positive
Criticism - Compassion
Use cue to break automaticity and change the
channel
Repeat the practice as many times as necessary
Re-conditioning
Memory de-consolidation – re-consolidation
“Light up” neural networks
Juxtapose old negative with new positive
Neurons fall apart, rewire
New rewires old
Re-conditioning
Resource with memory of someone’s compassion
toward you
Evoke compassion for your self
Evoke memory of someone being critical of you
(or inner critic)
Hold awareness of criticizing moment and
compassionate moment in dual awareness
Drop the criticizing moment; rest in the
compassionate moment
Wished for Outcome
Evoke memory of what did happen
Imagine new behaviors, new players, new
resolution
Hold new outcome in awareness,
strengthening and refreshing
Notice shift in perspective of experience, of
self
Modes of Processing
Focused
Tasks and details
New conditioning and re-conditioning
De-focused
Default network
Mental play space
De-conditioning
De-Conditioning
Default network
De-focusing, loosens grip
Creates mental play space
Can open to worry, rumination
Can open to plane of open possibilities
Brain makes new links, associations
New insights, new behaviors
De-Conditioning
Imagination
Guided visualizations
Guided meditations
Reverie, daydreams
Brain “plays,” makes own associations and
links, connect dots in new ways
Reflect on new insights
Compassionate Friend
Sit comfortably; hand on heart for loving awareness
Imagine safe place
Imagine warm, compassionate figure –
Compassionate Friend
Sit-walk-talk with compassionate friend
Discuss difficulties; listen for exactly what you need
to hear from compassionate friend
Receive object of remembrance from friend
Reflect-savor intuitive wisdom
Practices to Accelerate Brain Change
Presence – primes receptivity of brain
Intention/choice – activates plasticity
Perseverance – creates and installs change
Mindfulness and Psychotherapy
Even-hovering attention
Unconditional positive regard
Observing ego
“What are you noticing now?”
Catch the moment; make a choice
Incremental Learning to Quantum Leaps
Stress/trauma; stuck in reactive patterns
Restore calm, equilibrium, presence, acceptance
Antidote negativity bias; rewire defensive patterns
Install new, more resilient strategies
Rewire shame
Recover secure base of resilient self
Expand to creativity, flow, flourishing
Embody, express authentic self
Incremental Learning to Quantum Leaps
Stress/trauma; stuck in reactive patterns
Restore calm, equilibrium, presence, acceptance
Conditioning
Use integration of higher and lower brain
Attachment conditioning (stabilize the brain)
AEDP, IFS, CFT
Incremental Learning to Quantum Leaps
Antidote negativity bias; rewire defensive
patterns
Install new, more resilient strategies
New conditioning
Use higher brain to rewire higher brain
DBT, MBCBT, ACT, positive psychology
Incremental Learning to Quantum Leaps
Rewire shame
Recover secure base of resilient self
Reconditioning
Use higher brain to rewire lower brain
Psychodynamic, Coherence therapy,
sensorimotor, somatic experiencing, EMDR
Incremental Learning to Quantum Leaps
Expand to creativity, flow, flourishing
Embody, express authentic self
Deconditioning
Default network
Jungian, transpersonal, spiritual, visualizations,
imagery
Intelligences
Somatic - body-based, rewire trauma
Emotional - from survival responses to thriving
Relational - heal heartache, access havens and
resources, navigate peopled world
Reflective – conscious awareness; catch the
moment, make a choice
Conditioning
Without intervention, what happens in brain
all the time
Therapeutic intervention
Therapist as attachment, re-parenting figure
Create conditions of safety and acceptance:
Stabilize reactivity, foster receptivity
Mature the pre-frontal cortex
Dissolve defenses; re-open to learning
True Other to the True Self
The roots of resilience are to be found in the felt
sense of being held in the mind and heart of an
empathic, attuned, and self-possessed other.
- Diana Fosha, PhD
To see and be seen: that is the questions, and
that is the answer.
- Ken Benau, PhD
Ah, the comfort,
The inexpressible comfort
Of feeling safe with a person.
Having neither to weigh out thoughts
Nor words,
But pouring them all right out, just as they are,
Chaff and grain together;
Certain that a faithful hand
Will take them and sift them;
Keeping what is worth keeping and,
With the breath of kindness,
Blow the rest away.
- Dinah Craik
Deep Listening
The most basic and powerful way to connect to
another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps
the most important thing we ever give each
other is our attention….A loving silence often
has far more power to heal and to connect
than the most well-intentioned words.
- Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.
Resonance Circuit
Resonance – vibe, emotional contagion
Attunement – felt sense, explicit, non-verbal
Empathy – verbal, cognitive, coherent
narrative
Compassion – concern, caring, help
Acceptance – pre-requisite for resilience and
lasting change
Neuroscience of empathy
Dyadic regulation
Social engagement system
Vagal brake
Fusiform gyrus regulates amygdala
Restores equilibrium
See Yourself as Others See You
Imagine sitting across from someone who
loves you unconditionally
Imagine switching places with them; see
yourself as they see you; feel why they love
you and delight in you; take in the good
Imagine being yourself again; taking in the love
and affection coming to you; savor and absorb.
The Guest House - Rumi
This being human is a guest-house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
Some momentary awareness come
As an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you
out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
- Rumi
Welcome Them All
Wiser Self welcomes to the “party”
characters that embody positive and negative
parts of the self
with curiosity and acceptance of the message
or gift of each part and
honors each part of the “inner committee”
Create a Circle of Support
Imagine several people who love and support
you, who are “on your side” – partners, close
friends, benefactors (therapists-mentorsteachers). Spiritual figures and pets work, too.
Imagine your circle of support surrounding
you, or in support behind you, as you venture
into the unknown or difficult
Positivity Portfolio
Ask 10 friends to send cards or e-mails
expressing appreciation of you
Assemble phrases on piece of paper
Tape to bathroom mirror or computer monitor,
carry in wallet or purse
Read phrases 3 times a day for 30 days
Savor and appreciate
Wiser Self
Imagine yourself five years from now: wise,
compassionate, good, strong, alive and vibrant
Ask this Wiser Self: how did you become like
this? What did you have to overcome or let go
of to become like this? What one word of
advice do you have for me?
Inhabit this Wiser Self briefly; what does it feel
like to become your Wiser Self?
Relational Intelligence
Receiving/reaching out for help
Setting limits and boundaries
Negotiating change
Repairing ruptures
Forgiveness
Receiving-Reaching Out for Help
Identifying conditioned patterns
Avoiding/rejecting; clinging
Practicing the opposite pattern
Asking/receiving; activating/experimenting
Allowing the new pattern to settle in
Self-compassion when new practice is difficult;
evokes shame
Setting Limits and Boundaries
Identify values that determine limit
Create context of mindful empathy
Assert limits/boundaries
State consequences
Enforce consequences
Negotiating Change
Speaker requests dialogue
Speaker/listener create conditions to be heard
Speaker states topic sentence
Speaker uses “I” statements; focuses on own
perceptions, reactions, needs
Listener reflects back; no interruptions,
questions, defenses, explanations, judgments,
criticisms
Negotiationg Change, part 2
Listener summarizes; speaker corrects
Speaker identifies 3 behavior he/she can do to
meet identified need and 3 behaviors partner
can do to meet identified need; positive,
measurable, within time frame
Each chooses one behavior to do in time frame
Each acknowledges the other when behavior is
done
Repairing Ruptures
Acknowledge existence of rupture; desire to
repair
Each states own experience, hurts, needs
Each listens to and empathizes with
experience, hurts, needs of other
Each takes responsibility for their actions and
acknowledges impact
Each asks and offers forgiveness
Forgiveness
Forgiving ourselves
Asking others for forgiveness
Forgiving others
for harm, hurt, betrayal, abandonment
out of fear, anger, hurt, confusion
in thought, word, or deed
knowingly or unknowingly
New Conditioning
Use cues to break automaticity
Create new thoughts, affirmations
Use cues to practice new behaviors
Shift from negative to positive emotions
Create new habits, new ways of being
Neuroscience is Revolutionizing
Our Thinking about Feelings
Negative Emotions – Up Side of Your Dark Side
Signal – pay attention, this is important!
Motivator of action
Positive Emotions – left shift; antidotes
negativity; opens up possibilities
Negativity Bias – Left Shift
Brain hard-wired to notice and remember
negative and intense more than positive and
subtle; how we survive as individuals and as a
species
Leads to tendency to avoid experience
Positive emotions activate “left shift,” brain is
more open to approaching experience,
learning, and action
Compassion Practice
Mindfulness
Awareness of what’s happening
(and our reaction to what’s happening)
Self-Compassion
Acceptance of what’s happening
(and our reaction to what’s happening)
Compassion – Common Humanity
Wise effort in response to what’s happening
(and our reactions to what’s happening)
Benefits of Self-Compassion
Increased motivation; efforts to learn and grow
Less fear of failure; greater likelihood to try again
Taking responsibility for mistakes; apologies and
forgiveness
More resilience in coping with life stressors
Less depression, anxiety, stress, avoidance
Healthier relationships; more support and, less control
and/or aggression
Increased social connectedness, life satisfaction, and
happiness
Positive Emotions - Benefits
Less stress, anxiety, depression, loneliness
More friendships, social support, collaboration
Shift in perspectives, more optimism
More creativity, productivity
Better health, better sleep
Live on average 7-9 years longer
Resilience is direct outcome
Take in the Good
Notice: in the moment or in memory
Enrich: the felt sense in the body
Absorb: savor 10-20-30 seconds, install in long-
term memory
Emotional Intelligence
Perceiving, identifying, managing one’s own
emotional landscape with openness and curiosity
Regulating negative emotions
Cultivating positive emotions
Maintaining emotional vitality and equilibrium
Recognizing others’ emotions, empathizing with
emotional causes of behaviors
Responding to one’s own and others’ emotions
skillfully and compassionately
Reconditioning of Shame that
De-Rails Resilience
Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience
of believing we are flawed and therefore
unworthy of acceptance and belonging.
Shame erodes the part of ourselves that believes
we are capable of change. We cannot change and
grow when we are in shame, and we can’t use
shame to change ourselves or others.
- Brene Brown, PhD
Love makes your soul crawl out of its hiding
place.
- Zora Neale Hurston
Love guards the heart from the abyss.
- Mozart
Just that action of paying attention to ourselves,
that I care enough about myself, that I am
worthy enough to pay attention to, starts to
unlock some of those deep beliefs of
unworthiness at a deeper level in the brain.
- Elisha Goldstein
Reconditioning
Memory de-consolidation – re-consolidation
“Light up” neural networks of problematic memory
Cause neural networks to fall apart temporarily and
instantly rewire by:
Juxtaposing positive memory that directly contradicts
or disconfirms;
Focused attention on juxtaposition of both memories
held in simultaneous dual awareness
Causes the falling apart and the rewiring
Reconditioning
Anchor in present moment awareness
Resource with acceptance and goodness
Start with small negative memory
“Light up the networks”
Evoke positive memory that contradicts or disconfirms
Simultaneous dual awareness (or toggle)
Refresh and strengthen positive
Let go of negative
Rest in, savor positive
Reflect on shifts in perspective
Wished for Outcome
Evoke memory of what did happen
Imagine new behaviors, new players, new
resolution
Hold new outcome in awareness,
strengthening and refreshing
Notice shift in perspective of experience, of
self
Intelligence of Integrated Self
There is a natural and inviolable tendency in
things to bloom into whatever they truly are in
the core of their being.
All we have to do is align ourselves with what
wants to happen naturally and put in the effort
that is our part in helping it happen.
- David Richo
Creativity, Flow, Flourishing
Enjoyment appears at the boundary between boredom
and anxiety, when the challenges are just balanced
with the person’s capacity to act.
The best moments usually occur when a person’s body
or mind is stretched to its limits in a voluntary effort
to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile.
Optimal experience is thus something that we can
make happen. For each person there are thousands
of opportunities, challenges to expand ourselves.
- Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Autobiography in Five Short
Chapters – Portia Nelson
I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost…I am helpless
It isn’t my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.
II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I’m in the same place
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
III
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in…it’s a habit
My eyes are open,
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
IV
I walk down the same street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
V
I walk down another street.
-Portia Nelson
De-conditioning - Quantum Learning
Insights
Epiphanies
Revelations
Aha!s
Therapeutic break-throughs
Defocused mode
Dreams
Daydreams, reveries
Stream of consciousness
Imagination
Guided visualization
I am larger than I thought.
I did not know I held so much goodness.
- Walt Whitman
Love teaches me I am everything.
Wisdom teaches me I am nothing.
Between the two, my life flows.
- Sri Nisargadatta
Linda Graham, MFT
www.lindagraham-mft.net
[email protected]