Transcript PI KAPPA PHI - Alpha Rho Chi

Many people believe
that just because
you have a life…
that you should
know how to live.
A successful life does not
result from chance, fate,
or good luck, but from a
succession of successful
days lived in pursuit of a
Worthy Purpose
Successful College Career
Today I will teach you
ways to live a happier
more successful life.
Enjoy college more
 Reduce stress
 Prepare for your “Dream Job”
 Prepare for your “Dream Life”
 Have more fun / balance / joy
You will spend 4+ years of your
life and upwards of $100,000 to
go to college: honestly…why?
 Get a good education….
 Get a good job / career
 Discover yourself
 Have a successful life
 Be secure
Make lifelong friends
 Have FUN !!!!!
To get the most from
this class…
You must be honest
with yourself – brutally
honest with yourself
I am not an expert…
I can not make you learn…
I can only offer you the very best
information available – and then
let you decide what you want to
learn for yourself.
I ask you to be serious today , to
work hard and to look for a “takehome message” something that
you can apply right away.
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1989 - Dream job
At age 27 / CEO
Board of Directors
ESPN fishing show co-host
1994 started consulting
Fortune 500 / Global
100 Million +
By age:33
230 companies worldwide
Started college 1983
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1.6 GPA 1984 – failed out •
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Re-start college 1985
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AA at Santa Fe CC
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Admitted UF 1987
• China, Japan, HK, Germany, NZ
President of school
• 100 Books / 50 Tapes
• Author of leadership book
Dean’s assistant
• 4+ months off each year…
Business owner
#1 in S.E.
If
I
can
do
this,
# 3 in U.S.A.
anybody can!!
Who’s Who
STARTING POINT
What you do today,
determines who
you’ll be tomorrow
Failing to plan…
is planning to fail
To succeed in school...
To succeed in your career ...
To succeed with your family…
To succeed in life ...
You must have a PLAN !
Important Note:
By whatever
definition of success
you decided on.
Personal Success
 When you live a life where
your self-concept and core
values are in harmony with
your lifestyle and behaviors.
The Magic Formula
repare for the journey
aunch into action
djust as you go
etwork with those who know
True Success: Tom Morris - Grosset/Putnam
Prepare
For the Journey
What is the first step ?
Decide where you
really want to go
Some common college
questions…
• How am I supposed to figure out
who I really am?
• How do I discover my purpose?
• What if I am scared to stop being a
kid?
• What if I fail?
• What do all of these doubts mean?
• How do I know if the decisions I am
making are the right ones?
• How do I find balance in my life?
BLD’s
Your choices create
Your destiny
School
Career
Location
Family
Children
Church
Politics
Health
Community
Charity
Retirement
Savings
Possessions
Lifestyle
PS – you are supposed to be confused
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YES!!!!
Are you a little stressed?
Belong to a Greek organization
Member of an honor society
Serve on 2 or more committees
Play an intramural sport
Belong to a service group
Belong to a professional group
Have an internship /part-time job
Take a full load of class
Try to maintain a high GPA…
and have a social life!!!!!!
Good Decisions are:
Values Based
• Honesty
• Security
• Achievement
• Fun
• Laughter
• Service
• Adventure • Love
• Respect
• Family
• Compassion • Safety
• God
• Creativity
• Serenity
What are your core values?
Average Score: 9.87 Had written Values: 2%
An important point to
remember…
You don’t
have choose
one career
forever !!!
5-7 Careers
65% will retire in jobs that
do not currently exist
pecific
easurable
greed Upon
ealistic
ime Bound
Write them down
Many types of Goals...
Personal
Professional
Family
Health
Spiritual
Educational
Travel
 FUN
Many types of Goals...
Long-term: 3-5 years - or longer
Mid-range: 1-3 years
Short-term: this year
Immediate: today /
week / month
KEY POINT
Goals must be…
CONGRUENT
Example:
Graduate Fall 2007
MBA – International Finance
3.6 GPA or higher
Internship with major financial company
1 semester travel abroad
President Portfolio Management
Association
President of Fraternity
10 professional contacts
3 contacts at M&C /AA / D&T
5 solid letters of recommendation
The 3 Keys to College
Success:
Ask for help
• Get involved
• Begin with the
end in mind
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The 3 Keys to Business
Success:
Knowledge
• Network
• Love
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Prepare for the Journey
SUMMARY
1. Decide where you really want to go.
2. Create a clear and specific intended
outcome – a “values based” Worthy
Purpose to live your life by.
3. Set SMART Goals to achieve your
Vision.
Some people…
 Know where they want to go
 Have a clear Worthy Purpose
 Write down SMART goals
 Accomplish – NOTHING !
Launch into ACTION
Passion = Vision
Vision = Direction
Direction + Action =
Achievement
Consistent Achievement
= A Successful Life
The Three Step
Secret to Success
1. Decide exactly what it is
you want.
2. Determine what it will take
to achieve it. (5w’s & H)
3. Focus every bit of energy
and effort on achieving it.
FOCUS / BALANCE
Pay the Price…
Want
Price
Get / Give / Give Up
3.8 GPA
10 Hrs / Week
Read all Chapters
Read Cliff Notes
Attend all Classes
Tape Lectures
Buy A+ notes
Join Study Group
Visit Professor
Tutor
Old tests
Extra Credit
Skip Tues. HH
1.5 Hrs at gym
No TV 3 nights
3.0 GPA
5 Hrs / Week
Adjust as you go
Something to
remember...
You will fail
However, it is how you chose to
respond to those failures and
setbacks that will determine
your ultimate success in life.
Many people never take
responsibility, they blame...
 Genetics
 Family
 Environment:
 Teachers
 Administration
 Advisors
 Other Students
 Nationals
Your personal power
comes from...
Stimulus
GAP
Ideal You
Not the person you
are now, but the person
you want to become!
Response
RULES
A few Key Points…
 You created your rules.
 They are not necessarily correct.
 You can change them at any time.
 Your rules are not the same as
anyone else’s rules.
Make rules that allow
you to win ! Pick people
that will help you win!
QUESTIONS
The quality of your life, will
be determined by the
quality of your questions…
To others… and to yourself !
Example: Poor
 Why does this always happen to me ?
 Why do I have to take this stupid class ?
 Why am I so bad at accounting ?
 How come I can never get in shape ?
 Why is the professor always against me ?
 What is wrong with these people ?
 Why does my life have to be so hard ?
 What else can go wrong now ?
Example: Good
•What can I learn from this ?
• How can I make doing this project fun ?
• How can I set a good example ?
• What would a great leader do here ?
• How can I help ?
• What is good about this ?
• Will this help me achieve my GOALS ?
• Is this the right thing to do ?
How can I have as much
fun as possible in college…
While still getting
straight A’s,
staying healthy
and safe and
preparing myself
to land my dream
job and live my
dream life.
Network
With Those Who Know
The most successful
people always...
Surround
themselves
with people
smarter than
they are!
Lots of ways to do this….
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How to get Straight A’s
How to Reduces Stress
How to Pick your Dream Job
How to Build a Professional Network
How to Interview for your Dream Job
Build a network of people to help you succeed
Family
Professional Groups
Sorority
Fraternity
Career Center
Internships
Other Students
Teachers
Honor Society
Clubs
Counselors
Friends
Find a group of people in your major
and form a…
Master
Mind
Group
The most important
slide of the day…
You become what
you focus on…
and like the people
you spend time with.
Information
Family – Friends – School – Church – Society – Advertising – Work
Assumptions
Reactions
Attitudes
Other People
Friends
Society
Rules
Beliefs
Mental Maps
Actions
Behaviors / Focus / Attention
Remember...
All the studying, all the
research, all the
knowledge is of little use…
if you don’t apply
what you learn!
Focus + Discipline X Action=
Excellence
This is the truth….
What you are speaks
so loudly, that I cannot
hear what you say.
People will judge you by your
actions… not by your intentions
SUMMARY
To succeed in life
you must have a...
P LA N
Prepare for the journey
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Vision + Values = Worthy Purpose
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Create 3-7 SMART goals for your life
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Career, family, health, school … FUN
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Short, medium, long-range goals
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Goals must be congruent
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Write them down!!!!!!!!!!
Launch into action
 Direction + Action = Achievement
 Amount of Action applied, determines
amount of success achieved.
 You can have anything…Pay the Price
 If it is to be ... It is up to me !
Adjust as you go
 You will fail
 Take Responsibility
Control the GAP
Become the “Ideal You”
 Past  Future
 Make rules that help you win
Network with those
who know
 You become what you focus on.
 Books, tapes, internet, seminars.
 Teachers, students, clubs.
 Master Mind Group
 Dedicate yourself to Lifelong Learning
Risk
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool…
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental…
To reach out to others is to risk getting
involved…
To show your feeling is to risk showing your
true self…
To place your ideas out before the crowd is to risk
being called naïve…
To love is to risk not being loved in return…
To live is to risk dying…
To hope is to risk despair and to try is to risk failure…
But risks MUST be taken, because the
greatest risk in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has
nothing,is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may
avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot
learn and feel and change and grow and love and live.
Chained by his certitudes, he's a slave. He’s forfeited
his freedom.
Only the person who risks is truly free.
So I challenge each of you…
To risk being different, to risk being
special, to risk living a life of your own
making.
A life of love and joy and happiness and
success and achievement.
A life that you design. That you create. That
you start building… today.
“The greater danger for
most of us is not that our
aim is too high and we
miss it, but that it is too
low and we reach it.”
Thank You
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