Transcript SEX ADDICTION L. Marie Damgaard

© L. M. Damgaard
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INTRODUCTION
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WHAT IS SEX ADDICTION?
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TYPES OF SEXUAL ADDICTION
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SOUTHPARK
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PORNOGRAPHY & CYBER SEX
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STATISTICS
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LOVE ADDICTION
 EXTREME LOVE ADDICTION
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When God made
Adam, he said, “Adam,
I have good and bad
news for you; the good
news is that I gave you
both a brain and a
penis. The bad news is
that I'm afraid I gave
you only enough blood
to work one at a time.
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Sexual addiction is a
persistent and escalating
pattern or patterns of
sexual behaviors acted
out despite increasingly
negative consequences
to self or others
It occurs when a person
uses one or more sexual
behaviors as a “fix” that
results in negative
consequences.
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Compulsive Behavior 94%
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Loss of Control 93%
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Efforts to Stop 88%
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Loss of Time 94%
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Preoccupation 77%
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Inability to Fulfill Obligations 87%
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Continuation Despite Consequences
85%
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Escalation 74%
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Social, Occupational, Recreational
Losses 87%
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Withdrawal 98%
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Sexually charged
fantasies, relationships
and situations. Arousal
depends on sexual
possibility
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Obsession &
Preoccupation is the
way to prolong the
feeling
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Seduction of partners.
Arousal is based on
conquest and
diminishes rapidly
after initial contact
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Arousal heightened
with risk and number
of partners
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Visual arousal. The use
of visual information to
escape into obsessive
trance.
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EXHIBITIONISTIC SEX
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Attracting
attention to
body or sexual
parts of the
body. Sexual
arousal stems
from reaction
of viewer,
whether shock
or interest
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Purchase of sexual
services. Arousal is
connected to payment
for sex and with time
the arousal actually
becomes connected to
money itself.
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Monetized rage:
Eroticized rage +
Money
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Selling or bartering sex
for power. Arousal is
based on gaining
control of others by
using sex as leverage
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Mutual Sex may be
unrewarding
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Boundary violation
without discovery.
Sexual arousal occurs
by violating boundaries
with no repercussions.
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Frotteurism
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High-risk sex with
unknown persons
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No obligations
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Immediate
gratification
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Ritualistic
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Being humiliated or
hurt as part of sexual
arousal; or sadistic
hurting or degrading
another sexually, or
both.
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BDSM
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Autoerotic: SelfInflicting pain
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Exploitation of the
vulnerable. Arousal
patterns are based on
target “types” of
vulnerability.
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“Grooming” process:
process of building
trust in a potential
victim
Internet Sex is the
“crack-cocaine” of sexual
compulsivity
Al Cooper, PhD.
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“Sexual acting out online
has been shown to
manifest in similar offline behavior. People
who already were sex
addicts find the internet
accelerates their
problem. Those who
start in the on-line
behavior quickly start to
act out in new ways offline”
Watson, J. C. (2005). Internet addiction diagnosis and assessment implications for
counselors. Journal of Professional Counseling: Practice, Theory, & Research, 33, 17-30.
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“Given the widespread
availability of sexually
explicit materials
online, Internet sex
addiction is the most
common form of
problem online
behavior among
users”.
Young, K. S. (2008). Internet sex addiction: Risk factors, stages of development, and
treatment. American Behavioral Scientist, 52, 21-37.
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“88% of self-made sexual or suggestive
images and videos posted by young people,
often on social networking sites, are taken
from their original online location and
uploaded on to other websites.”
Statistics for inpatient is similar to gambling
ratios: 3:1 males to females. Although it is
becoming more like 50/50 ratio in the past
few years.
October 22, 2012 – guardian.co.uk -
Internet Watch Foundation
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“Addictive Love is a reliance on someone or
something external to the self in an attempt
to get unmet needs fulfilled, avoid fear or
emotional pain, reenact trauma, solve
problems, and maintain balance. The
paradox is that addictive love is an attempt to
gain control of our lives, and in so doing, we
go out of control by giving personal power to
someone or something other than
ourselves”.
Schaeffer, B. (2009). Is it Love or is it addiction?
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