Transcript ASAE CHQ PPT Template 2011

Remedies for Women
Who Do Too Much
Friday, November 16, 2012
2:00 – 3:00 pm EST
Presented by:
Jessica G. Hartung, MSM
CEO
Integrated Work
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Tell us….
How do you know how much
is “too much”?
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About Your Presenter
Jessica G. Hartung
• Founder and CEO of Integrated Work
• Bringing world-class professional
development to mission-driven leaders
• Seasoned coach, facilitator, consultant
• Leader of peer groups of nonprofit CEOs
and executives for past 13 years
• Based in Boulder, Colorado
• Sometimes, does too much
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Discussion Outline
An Overview for Today
• Signs of “Too Much”
• Impact of “Too Much”
• Remedies for Immediate Results
• Renewal Activities That Recharge Your Effectiveness
• How to Measure and Celebrate Your Success
• Discussion and Q&A
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Signs Of “Too Much”
• Constant feeling of pressure
• Cynicism and irritability
• Anger and frustration well up
at odd moments
• Feeling unappreciated
• Frequent worrying
• Exhausted and scattered
• Reduced coping skills
• Frequently forgetful
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• Focus on the urgent
(not the important)
• No time for self-care
• Loss of vitality
• Detached from work outcomes
• Persistent health issues
• Need for escape or release
• Less patience
• Others notice a problem
• Burnout
A Quiz
Are you regularly…
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Feeling exhausted and depleted?
Weighed down by demands?
Working harder, but accomplishing less?
Surprised by strong, erratic emotions?
Experiencing persistent health issues?
Having difficulty concentrating?
Noticing a short temper, or lack of patience?
Resenting others who set boundaries?
Case Study
“Laura”
• 15 years experience, recently promoted, broader scope,
more staff
• Always goes the extra mile, relied on heavily by managers
• Her staff are not performing to her standards—so to keep
up, she is doing her work and theirs
• Recently had her first negative performance review—
was asked to improve temperament, learn to mentor and
develop others
• Lost weeks of vacation because she didn’t take it
• She looks exhausted, sounds cynical, is unusually prone to
tears, and expresses anger at all that has happened to her,
as well as mistrust of her managers
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How do we address it?
• Many Choices: Today, Three Remedies
1. Reconnect with our foundation
2. Look at our time distribution
• Current state and desired future
3. Identify customized self-care strategies
• Leverage the challenges for change
What’s Most Important
• For you, what is most fulfilling about your work?
• Why is that important?
• What recently gave you a spark or a positive
charge at work?
• Get clear. Spending time on what you enjoy
doing energizes and uplifts. Do more of it!
• It is the first tool for addressing burnout—both as
prevention and intervention.
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Examine Time Distribution
Current Time
Distribution
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Desired Time Distribution for
Greater Positive Impact
Use the Data
• Use your insights about time distribution to create time
for what you love.
• Have at least one project that sings to your soul.
• What you love is a source of natural energy and
enthusiasm.
• Minimize those aspects of the work that drain you.
• Take control of your time to support your deep goals
and intentions.
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Work and Life in Balance
A good thing, but is it one more thing?
Go beyond our current framework.
Six Strategies when you have too much to do:
• Integration
• Narrowing
• Sequencing
• Moderating
• Outsourcing
• Inner knowing
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Create Your Own Menu
• Consider your favorite ways to renew, re-set
or take care of yourself during your week (personally
as well as professionally).
• Write down your favorites.
• Have it nearby at work.
• When your personal resource levels are low, choose
an item from your menu and do it.
• Select some items from your menu to do every day or
week to keep feeling great.
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Ideas For Renewing Your Spirit
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The “feel good” file
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Audit your rituals
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Give a gift to someone
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Bite-sized inspiration
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Attend to aesthetics
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Sit in silence
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Reflect on
accomplishments
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Touch nature
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Connect with a friend
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Tell the truth to yourself
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Experience gratitude
Smile at everyone,
including yourself
What Lifts Your Spirit?
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Renewing Ourselves
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Professional and personal
Societal rhythms have changed
Preserving real priorities
Personal resource levels impact
effectiveness
• Gain clarity of perspective
• Capacity for meaning
• Health and wellness; physical, spiritual,
and emotional
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Implementing Change
• Insights lead to action, action leads to change
• Daily practices built into work and life
• Develop specific boundaries and standards to
support the beginning of change
• Listen to yourself
• Track and celebrate your success
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Why & How to Celebrate
Why?
• Small triumphs make a big difference
• Renews focus on the goal
• Keeps energy up
• Programs for more success -- meaning & method
How?
• Use Menu
• Share with supportive people -- colleague, friend
• Self -talk “Way to Go!” “Nice Work”
• Make a list for your review -- personal or professional
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Remedies for “Laura”
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Identify where she gets energized, negotiate
her role to keep more of that
Examine time distribution
Gratitude – Daily
Better options for training staff
Practice Moderating and Narrowing
to create boundaries
Taking time off
Choosing to have quiet time, alone or with close
friends
Regaining control, releasing resentment
Summary
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Women have many motivations for doing too much.
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You can be more deliberate about the pace -- slow it
down so you can be more thoughtful.
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Monitor your burnout signs and those of your staff.
Identify aspects of work that give you the most juice.
Get more of them.
Direct your time distribution to support your aims.
Experiment with renewal strategies and activities that fit
your life.
Celebrate your progress, no matter how small.
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Drawing: $100 SpaFinder Wellness
Gift Card
And the winner is….
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Questions?
Comments?
Jessica G. Hartung, MSM
Integrated Work Strategies
www.IntegratedWork.com
[email protected]
303-516-9001
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