Transcript The Relationship Wheel PPT

Relationship Wheel
Human Behavior
Relationships
The Wheel
• Building and developing a relationship does
not happen automatically when two people
meet.
• The relationship grows and flourishes as the
people come together and relate to each
other.
• Thus building a relationship with another
person is basically the process of developing
feelings and interactions between the two of
you.
The Wheel
• Contains four spokes which represent the four
steps of relationship building.
• Rapport
• Self-revelation
• Mutual dependency
• Need fulfillment
• Take the following notes inside each spoke…
Rapport
• Feeling you get when you are at ease with
another person
• Good rapport leads to more interactions
• Poor rapport makes it unlikely that you will
want to continue the relationship
Self-revelation
• As you build rapport you open up to that
person and tell more about yourself…called
self-revelation
• Revealing feelings, experience, and attitudes
Mutual dependency
• You learn each other’s habits
• You learn to depend on the other person to
talk and laugh with, go places with or rely on
Needs fulfillment
• You begin to get respect, confidence and love
or affection from the relationship
• If you both fulfill each others needs the
relationship grows
Brainstorm
• List of all the possible personal needs that you
think could be met through relationships with
others…
Going backwards
• The wheel can also move in the opposite
direction, causing the destruction of the
relationship
• Sometimes the rapport you feel with someone
leads to self-revelation that causes arguments
or bad feelings. This is likely to cause less selfrevelation. In turn, you rapport will decrease
and fewer of your needs will be met.
Intimacy Ladder
Human Behavior
Relationships
Draw the ladder
• Draw the ladder on the back of your page
Intimacy ladder
• People climb the ladder as they build
relationships with others. Each rung on the
ladder describes one way of being close, or
intimate, with another person.
Intellectual intimacy
• Conversation, share ideas and thoughts
• Keep it non-personal
Physical intimacy
• Comfortable with closeness and may touch
another person
• Slap on the back, holding hands, etc. (doesn’t
have to be sexual)
Emotional intimacy
• To be completely natural and show feelings
• Get rid of defenses
• Receive understanding, affection and support
from each other
• Trust each other and share most private
feelings and ideas