Ayahs 234 – 242

Ayah 234

And those who are taken in death among you and leave wives behind - they, [the wives, shall] wait four months and ten [days]. And when they have fulfilled their term, then there is no blame upon you for what they do with themselves in an acceptable manner. And Allah is [fully] Acquainted with what you do.

“It is not lawful for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day, that she should mourn a dead person for more than three days except in the case of her husband whom she should mourn for four months and ten days .” [Muslim]

No Perfume No Jewellery No Bright Clothing Stay at Husbands Home Hospital, Court, For grocery & drop offs to school, living in some other country?

Ayah 235

There is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women or for what you conceal within yourselves. Allah knows that you will have them in mind. But do not promise them secretly except for saying a proper saying. And do not determine to undertake a marriage contract until the decreed period reaches its end. And know that Allah knows what is within yourselves, so beware of Him. And know that Allah is Forgiving and Forbearing.

With the Heart With the Tongue • • •

No Nikah Before Four Lunar Months & Ten Days

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.

Watch your words, for they become actions.

In the Iddah of Third Divorce Talaq al Baa-in.

In the Iddah of

Khul’a

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Reflection

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Nowadays no one even thinks of sending the widowed/divorced woman a proposal because she’s seen as “used” or “baggage”

Ayah 236

There is no blame upon you if you divorce women you have not touched nor specified for them an obligation. But give them [a gift of] compensation - the wealthy according to his capability and the poor according to his capability - a provision according to what is acceptable, a duty upon the doers of good.

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Ayah 237

And if you divorce them before you have touched them and you have already specified for them an obligation, then [give] half of what you specified unless they forego the right or the one in whose hand is the marriage contract foregoes it. And to forego it is nearer to righteousness. And do not forget graciousness between you. Indeed Allah , of whatever you do, is Seeing.

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Ayah 238

Maintain with care the [obligatory] prayers and [in particular] the middle prayer and stand before Allah , devoutly obedient.

Best Damaged Damaged Rejected Check the Quality of Your Salah!

Properly Regular On Time Fulfilling All Pillars

ِ ظ ِ فاَح ِ او

Fulfilling All Conditions Sunnah Way

Properly Fulfilling all of the pillars, conditions, correct Performing the prayer on time Constantly

Tongue

Salah

Heart Limbs

Especially Middle Salah

Asr

Why do we forget or delay Asr Salah?

Heart Body Humility Stand Still Show Humility Or Stand Still See Allah Clearly =

How Humble & Still I am in my Salah?

Ayah 239

And if you fear [an enemy, then pray] on foot or riding. But when you are secure, then remember Allah [in prayer], as He has taught you that which you did not [previously] know.

Salah

(In state of fear) Walking Riding Can’t Delay the Salah!

Allah is al Ghafoor ar Raheem. He will forgive me.

I am SO busy at work, I don't have time to pray When Allaah guides me, i will I know I have to pray, but I am too tired & lazy.

I pray; I just delay it until it is convenient for me or I pray it Qadaa I pray the 4 prayers. I only miss Fajr because I have to do Ghusl

If I pray, I will be fired from my job!

I can't pray at my job/school/public place. I am too embarrassed /they will think I am a TERRORIST!

I have made so many mistakes in my life, it is no use for me to pray. Allah will never forgive me.

I want to pray but my children are so young I can't leave them and pray If I pray, people will think that I show off. So I don't pray I don't pray, but I have a good heart

Prophet (s.a.w) mentioned prayer one day and said: "Whoever observes it regularly, it will be light and a proof and salvation on the Day of Resurrection , and whoever does not observe it regularly, it will not be a light or a proof or salvation for him, and on the Day of Resurrection he will be with Qaroon, Fir'aun, Hamaan and Ubayy ibn Khalaf ." (Ahmad).

These four people are mentioned because they are the leaders of kufr. This makes an important point about the one who does not observe regular prayer, whether that is because he is distracted by business his wealth, his power, his position of leadership or his . The one who is distracted from it by his wealth will be with Qaroon; the one who is distracted by his power will be with Fir'aun; the one who is distracted by his position of leadership will be with Hamaan and the one who is distracted by his business will be with Ubayy ibn Khalaf."

Remember Allah!

But How?

The Way He Taught You!

Knowledge Acknowledge! It is a blessing Ask Allah for more Knowledge

So what should man do?

1 of Allah.

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Ayah 240

And those who are taken in death among you and leave wives behind - for their wives is a bequest: maintenance for one year without turning [them] out. But if they leave [of their own accord], then there is no blame upon you for what they do with themselves in an acceptable way. And Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise.

Will: Maintenance for One Year Own Share in Inheritance

If wife has Children If no children Iddah

Ayah 241

And for divorced women is a provision according to what is acceptable - a duty upon the righteous.

Cases Case One Case Two Case Three Case Four Nikah

Yes Yes Yes Yes

Consummation

No No Yes Yes

Mahr Fixed?

No Yes Yes No

Mataa’

Give What You Can Give Half of Fixed Mahr Give Full Mahr Give What is Conventional Muta’ Talaq

Ayah 242

Thus does Allah make clear to you His verses that you might use reason.

Before these ayahs, perhaps we had no idea about the importance of ihsaan and gift giving even during times of divorce

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REFLECTIONS

• • • • • To respond to the ayahs What did you get out of it?

To make an assessment of the universe which you experience Your response to experiences, opinions, events Your thoughts & feelings

WHY REFLECT?

• • • • • • A way of thinking to explore your learning An opportunity to gain self-knowledge A way to achieve clarity and better understanding of what you are learning A chance to develop and reinforce writing skills A way of making meaning out of what you study It’s a command of the Qu’ran!

EXAMPLES

• • • • I learned that widowed women have to stay waiting for 4 months and 10 days IS THIS A FACT OR LESSON?

How to turn this into a lesson… I learned that Allah SWT is so merciful to women that He allows them to have time on their own after their husband passes away so that they are not bothered by advances of other people