Ch.18.Family2
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Ch. 18 Families
Today’s coming attractions!!
What would lower your chance of divorce?
What will increase your chances of
divorce?
What makes healthy families?
What would lower your chance of
divorce?
What would lower your chance of
divorce?
Percent Decrease
Factors
in Risk of Divorce
Annual income over $50,000 (vs. under
$25,000)
-30
Having a baby seven months or more
after marriage (vs. before marriage)
-24
Marrying over 25 years of age (vs. under
18)
-24
Own family of origin intact (vs. divorced
parents)
-14
Religious affiliation (vs. none)
-14
Some college (vs. high-school dropout)
-13
What will increase your chances of
divorce?
Individualism
Unexpected pregnancy
Alcohol or substance abuse
Financial strains
What will increase your chances of
divorce? (Cont.)
Young people marrying after a short
courtship
Cohabitation
Romantic love often subsides?
Traditional (nuclear) family is eroding
Staying single is up
Divorce is up
More children born to single mothers
John Gottamn – Why marriages
succeed or fail
Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
Criticism
Attacking personality
Generalizations
Contempt
Name calling
Sarcasm
Body language – e.g. “Rolling Eyes”
John Gottamn – Why marriages
succeed or fail (Cont.)
Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
Defensiveness
Making excuses
Cross complaining
Yes-butting
Stonewalling
Silence
Leaving
John Gottamn – Why marriages
succeed or fail (Cont.)
Remedies
Specific complaints
Validate your partner
Shift to appreciation
5X more positives than negatives
Traits of Healthy Families
Communicate and listen
Support each other
Respect
Trust
Play and humor
Responsibility
Rituals and traditions
Story of the rose
Big ideas you can use!
In a relationship:
Talk about your feelings
Listen to your partner
Help your partner get what they want
Have a partner you can respect and trust
Have fun
Develop rituals or traditions that identify
you as a couple.
Tomorrow’s coming attractions!!
Please read the handout.
When is a good day teaching a bad
thing?
What is considered “deep learning”
What is our “hidden contract”?
“Critical thinking” vs. precise grading
What do you want from a course?