Transcript Why Abstinence is Important Mark C. Farist Sequoyah High School Canton, Georgia
Why Abstinence is Important Mark C. Farist Sequoyah High School Canton, Georgia [email protected]
The Danger Zone “ The Teen Sex Scene”
“Oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex, mutual masturbation… it’s all sex.” C.D.C. 2002 SOME STD’s are often passed by JUST “skin to skin contact.”
Day 1 PRETEST /WHAT IS THE ISSUE? MALES vs. FEMALES Day 1: VitaMIND
It’s all about
Risk Elimination
not just
Risk Reduction.
Dr. John Diggs RISK REDUCTION SAYS: “Safe SEX "or “SAFER SEX“ “Programmed Sexual Exploitation”
PROBLEM LABELED “Programmed Sexual Exploitation” 1.Know your partner: a.
History.
b.
Current status.
c.
Reliability of information?????
“Safe SEX OR SAFER message” 2. Make all intercourse “protected”.
You must always use protection…..always!
Risk Reduction IS “PROTECTION” (CONDOMS)
Risk Elimination IS ABSTINENCE!
(100% SAFE)
Abstinence Education
Making an informed decision not to participate in at-risk sexual behavior including:
• • • •
Sexual intercourse Oral sex Anal sex Outercourse
“Men think they need innumerable women for one basic need.” “Women think they need one man for their innumerable needs.” -Rabbi Daniel Lapin
MALE AND FEMALE DIFFERENCES:
BOYS GIVE “LOVE” TO GET SEX
.
GIRLS GIVE SEX TO GET “LOVE”.
TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE
1.Can a girl become pregnant without sexual intercourse?
A.
B.
C.
D.
It is impossible.
It is possible but not likely.
It is very possible.
It has not happened but it could be possible.
TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE
2. A person can get a sexually transmitted disease without having sexual intercourse.
A.
B.
C.
D. It is impossible.
It is possible but not likely.
It is very possible.
It has not happened but it could be possible.
TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE
3. Once a male reaches his teenage years he produces how many sperm?
A.
B.
C.
D.
About one hundred thousand per day.
About one hundred million per day.
About one hundred million per month.
About one hundred million in a lifetime.
TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE
4. Which
BEST
describes the virginity of American teenager?
A.
B.
C.
D.
51.2% are virgins.
55.4% are virgins.
47.5% are virgins.
35.2% are virgins.
TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE
5. Which is true concerning condom effectiveness?
A.
B.
Effective in protecting against Chlamydia only.
Effective in protecting against Chlamydia and Herpes.
C.
Effective in protecting against HPV and Hepatitis B.
D.
Condoms offer no proven protection for Chlamydia, Herpes, HPV or Hepatitis B.
TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE
6. Which BEST represents the failure rate of condoms in the prevention of the spread of STD’s
WHEN USED
teenagers?
A.
B.
C.
D.
25% failure rate.
20% failure rate.
10% failure rate.
5% failure rate.
TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE
7. Approximately how many sexually active teens get a STD each year?
A.
B.
C.
D.
1 out of 2 sexually active teenagers.
1 out of 4 sexually active teenagers.
1 out of 10 sexually active teenagers.
1 out of 20 sexually active teenagers.
TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE
8. Most people with STD’s: A. Have painful sores.
B. Have painless sores.
C. Have sores, a rash, fever and/or pain while urinating.
D. Have no sores or any symptoms at all.
TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE
9. Which of the following STD’s can lead to death? (May be more than one) A.
B.
C.
D.
HIV/AIDS Gonorrhea Human Papilloma Virus HPV Hepatitis B
TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE
10. True or False: “ concept that offers the same benefits of the virgin’s lifestyle in regards to sexual choices.
Secondary Virginity ” is a Answer: TRUE
Day 2 : “I thought that was right.”
Today’s Bonus VitaMIND : “There is a way that seems right to a man but the end thereof is death.” - Ancient Hebrew Proverb
Is there a problem with premarital sexually activity in our country?
Let’s look and see…
Teen Pregnancy
900,000 girls each year 5,000 teens each day 20% teenage girls get pregnant by age 18 Only 13% graduate High School 8 out 10 end up on welfare programs
Annual Adolescent Pregnancy
Nearly one million teen pregnancies.
300,000 teen abortions 300,000 teen miscarriages 400,000 teen live births
Sexually Transmitted Diseases 4 million teens each year
1 OUT OF EVERY 4
Sexually Active Teens gets a STD 1 teen every 8 seconds gets a STD 20% of High School graduates will have a STD in Georgia
QUESTION OF THE DAY First…..Which decade did the most teen pregnancies occur?
A.
B.
The 1950’s.
The 1960’s.
C.
D.
E.
The 1970’s.
The 1980’s.
The 1990’s.
And the ANSWER IS……
A. The 1950’s!
WHY?
1950’s
People married at a earlier age Average age of marriage was 18 years old Young teenage married couples were starting their families.
The BABY BOOMERS!
THE NEXT QUESTION OF THE DAY
Is there a problem of teenage pregnancy?
Coach Farist says NO!
Sex & America’s Teenagers… “74% of girls who had sex before 14 and 60% who had sex before 15 reported their first experience as a rape.”
Day 3 Wednesday 3/22/06
“ PURITY ISN’T A LINE YOU DRAW, IT’S A DIRECTION YOU TAKE.”
THE PROBLEM IS…..
Unplanned unmarried TEENAGE pregnancies.
THE PROBLEM PROPERLY IDENTFIED!
Teenaged UNMARRIED pregnancy which is associated with the following: Poverty Need for government assistance i.e. welfare Irresponsibility of fathers “Dead Beat Dads” Incarceration (jail time) Drop-Out rates increase from schools
The Problem of Sexually Transmitted Diseases 4 million teens each year
1 OUT OF EVERY 4
Sexually Active Teens gets a STD 1 teen every 8 seconds 20% of High School graduates will have a STD
Profile of American Teens
Profile of American Teens At Age 13 Kissing
Profile of American Teens At Age 13 At Age 15 Kissing Oral Sex Mutual Masturbation (“Outercourse”)
Profile of American Teens At Age 13 At Age 15 At Age 18 Kissing Oral Sex Intercourse Outercourse Outercourse (“Touching”) Intercourse
WHERE DO YOU GO WHEN YOU HAVE GONE ALL THE WAY?
THE LAW OF DEMINISHING RETURN SAYS:
THE MORE YOU DO THE LESS SATISFACTION YOU GET AND THEREFORE YOU DO MORE AND YOU GET LESS WHICH LEADS TO FEELINGS OF HOPELESSNESS AND FRUSTRATION.
Why have SEX?
5 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1.Hormones
5 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media
5 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media #3. Peers
5 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media #3. Peers #4. “Beers” Alcohol
Teens and Alcohol
8 th 10 th 12th Drinking 24% 40% 50% Binge 15% 25% 33% Drinking
Teens and Alcohol
75% of first time sexual encounters involve alcohol 66% of teen pregnancy one or both partners were drinking before sex Young people start drinking at an average age of 14 The number of young women who drink to get drunk is 15 times higher than 15 years ago
ALCOHOL
is the
# 1 DRUG IN HIGH SCHOOL
5 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media #3. Peers #4. Alcohol #5. Relationships
Day 5
Today’s VITAMIND:
You are ONE in a million and ONE in a billion so celebrate you!
Sex and the Consequences STD’s Emotional/Mental Social Pregnancy
Sex and the Consequences
Emotional/Mental Consequences
• • • • Worry Guilt Doubts Lowered Self
Worth
Day 6 “VITA
MIND
”
Wait while you date save SEX for marriage.
Quote of the day:
“ I’ve heard many say to me they were sorry they had sex before marriage but I’ve never had anyone tell me they were sorry they waited until marriage to have sex.”
---Coach Farist Sequoyah High School
THOUGHT OF THE DAY:
********I CAN’T
CHANGE
THE PAST BUT I CAN DECIDE WHAT’S
NEXT
********
JUST A THOUGHT:
“CHANGE
ISN’T
CHANGE
UNTIL
I
DECIDE TO
CHANGE
.”
Abstinence Education
Definition
Making an informed decision not to participate in at-risk sexual behavior including:
Sexual intercourse
Oral sex
Anal sex
Outercourse
“Sexual intercourse for girls 15 years and younger is typically involuntary, exploitive, and coercive.” The Atlantic Monthly
Sex & America’s Teenagers… The average male partner is an adult more than three years older than the girl.
CHLAMYDIA
GONORRHEA
SYPHILIS
C.D.C. Study of Teen Sexual Risk Factors for Pregnancy and STD’s.
1. Age of first sexual experience.
When you started.
2. Frequencies of sexual acts.
How often you have sex.
3. Number of past sexual partners.
How many partners
.
Although teenagers represent only 10% of the population, they account for 25% of all STD cases. This is primarily due to the teenage girl’s cervix.
Medical Institute
A 15 year old girl has a 1 in 8 chance of developing P.I.D. by having sex compared with a 1 in 80 chance for a 24 year old .
Medical Institute
15 year old 24 year old Uninfected
Day 7: “RIO SUCIO” Today’s
VitaMIND:
Don’t say “I will” until you say…. “I do”.
From this bridge you can see……...
THE “RIO SUCIO”
“RIO SUCIO”
Sexually Transmitted Dieases
1975 2005 Gonorrhea 30+ STD’s Many Syphilis Incurable STD’s
Sexually Transmitted Diseases HIV/AIDS
1980 2000 31 Deaths 6,400,000+
Fastest growing age group is under 24
8-10 year incubation period
WHEN DID YOU FIRST HEAR THE ABSTINENCE MESSAGE?
KINDERGARTEN
DO YOU REMEMBER THIS ONE?
Sussie and Johnny sitting in a tree
KISSING
.
First comes
LOVE
then comes.
MARRIAGE
.
Here comes SUSSIE with a baby carriage.
Sex Education
….
“In the DAY” In the 70’s and80’s Emphasis on being non-directive Acceptable for teens to be sexually active “free expression” Contraceptives emphasized
Sex Education
….
“In the DAY” 1990’s “Safe Sex” message 52% of teenage girls are sexually active 27% of births to teen mothers Late 90’s the “Safer Sex” message
Abstinence Education
Definition
Making an informed decision not to participate in at-risk sexual behavior including:
Sexual intercourse
Oral sex
Anal sex
Outercourse
Abstinence Education
Results 1990 2001 54% sexually 45% sexually active active
Abstinence is Cool!
75% say it’s cool to be a virgin 58% say sex is always wrong 50% say have been in situations where could have chosen sex, but didn’t C.D.C. Surveillance Report
Renewed Virginity Secondary Sexual Choices
U-TURNS ARE ALWAYS ALLOWED
“Safer Sex” Message
Condoms work almost all the time right?
After all it’s just CONDOM sense.
Condom Failure Rates
The rate of failure for teens condom use is 20%.
The failure rate for married couples use is 10%.
“Condom Sense
” National Institutes of Health 2001 Study Condoms can reduce risk of: HIV 87% Gonorrhea----women to men
“Condom Sense ”
National Institutes of Health 2001 Study Condoms do not reduce the risk of: HPV No evidence of reduced risk in other STD’s including genital herpes, chlamydia.
Is “Safe Sex” Safe?
Motivation for Abstinence • • • • • Personal goals Concerned about the risks Personal/religious beliefs Parents’ influence Coach Farist/Fore/Ms.Ard
8 Keys of Effective Abstinence Education 1.Teachers belief in abstinence 2. Show the Risks/Rewards 3. Provide medically accurate information on condoms/STD’s/pregnancy rates 4. Relationship education 5. Refusal skills 6. Abstinence pledge 7. Provide for renewed/secondary “virginity” 8.Parental involvement
• • • • • • • • Abstinence Message is a Freedom Message
The Freedom from:
Guilt, doubt, worry STD’s Pregnancy Loss due to adoption Loss due to abortion Loss of reputation Pressure to marry early Certain family problems
Abstinence Message is a Freedom Message • • • • • •
Freedom to:
• Develop skills and abilities Develop greater trust in marriage Develop greater sense of self worth Become more creative in sharing feelings Achieve financial stability Pursue dreams, desires, goals Become the person you want to be
Day 7 Wednesday 11/16/05 Today’s VitaMIND: The virgin speaking to the nonvirgin: “I can be like you any time I want to be but you can never be like me.”
WHY WAIT?
#1. Protection!
a.
Physically. Pregnancy/STD’s b.
c.
d.
Mentally/Emotionally.
Socially. Reputation/Position/Job Spiritually. Conviction/Vow/Promise
WHY WAIT?
#2. PROVISION.
a.
Peace/Completeness .
b.
Pleasure.
WHY WAIT?
#1. Protection!
#2. Provision!
“PP”
Day 8
“SWEET”
DAY Today’s VitaMIND:
“SEX was ‘
MINT
for marriage” ’
C.D.C. Study of Teen Sexual Risk Factors for Pregnancy and STD’s.
1. Age of first sexual experience.
When you started.
2. Frequencies of sexual acts.
How often you have sex.
3. Number of past sexual partners.
How many partners.
Random Stats/Information.
50% Chance of contracting Gonorrehea from an infected person per sexual encounter.
Gonorrehea is called the “Clap”or the “Drip”.
Teenage girls are more susceptible to STD’s because of immature/slow developing cervix.
Average age of male sexual partners is 3 years older than the teenage female.
80% of teenage females that get pregnant the father is 20 years old plus.
Most common STD for teens in Cherokee county is Chalamydia.
“Let the Adventure Begin” Knowledge IS POWER in “THE DANGER ZONE
”
ABSTINENCE WORKS !
100% of the time.
Sources of Information
• www.cdc.gov/ • www.medinstitute.org
• www.aimforsuccess.org
Mark C. Farist Sequoyah High School Canton, Georgia [email protected].
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