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Every Period of Life Has Its Own Challenges
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Teenage
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Mid-Life
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Golden
Years
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Every Period of Life Has Its Own Challenges
Many Men
Some• Women
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Mid-Life
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Mid-Life
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• Not a disease – Catch
• Real Problem
• Preventable
“Second Adolescence”
Four Enemies
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1. His
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(Losing his looks, hair, shape)
2. His Work
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3. His Wife & Family
(Trapped by his responsibilities)
4. His God
(Accusing him of selfishness,
laziness, & lust)
What Is Going On In The Mid-Life Period?
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Transition From Youth to Older Period
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“…a time of struggle
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a feeling of being struck down by life.”
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(Daniel
Levinson,
Myers, 1998)
Aware of our own mortality
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What Is Going On In The Mid-Life Period?
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Many
begin
to focus on self
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Not been able to do
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• Not going
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to be able to do
• What wanted – not obtained
• How they had to “accommodate” Others
 Please parents
 Serve the company / boss
 Give in to the mate
 Do for the children
 “Time to do something for me”
The Challenge of
a Mid-Life Crisis
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30’s – 40’s – 50’s
Painful Process of Maturing
The Challenge of
a Mid-Life Crisis
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I. The–Challenges
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I. The Challenges of The Mid-Life
A. Not
Handle
Changes
Lifestyles
Well
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• Body Changes
(Can’t do what used to do)
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• Children Growing
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• Empty Nest » Fifth level
• Parents growing older / require care / pass
I. The Challenges of The Mid-Life
A. Not
Handle
Changes
Lifestyles
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B. Goals Reached
/ or Not Reached
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where wanted
to
• Not
be by this time
• Financially – not there
• Career not as successful
• Not have the things hoped to obtain
• Or – Reached my goals - now what?
Cause: Materially Minded
Result: Looking For Excitement
I. The Challenges of The Mid-Life
A. Not
Handle
Changes
Lifestyles
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B. Goals Reached
/ or Not Reached
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Lifestyle
C. Busy
• Career at its peak
• Overworked
• Unable to enjoy life – Do what I want
• More demands on time than ever
• Many things may be neglected (Spiritual / Family)
I. The Challenges of The Mid-Life
A. Not
Handle
Changes
Lifestyles
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B. Goals Reached
/ or Not Reached
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C. Busy
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Lifestyle
Set
The
Stage
Spiritual Decline / Family Trouble
Extra-Marital Affair (Adultery)
The Challenge of
a Mid-Life Crisis
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II. Causes of Extra-Marital Affairs
II. Causes of Extra-Marital Affairs
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Prov.
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“Who forsakes– the
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companion of her» youth,
And forgets the
covenant of her God. “
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Marriage Deteriorates
Faith Gets Weaker
Two Causes At The Root
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Weaker
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Little time for spiritual
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Not study as should
(Acts 17:11)
Not pray as much
(Dan. 6:10)
Happens Gradually
(Heb. 2:1)
Thus
• Material / Worldly has
greater attraction
• Fear the Lord - less
• Not bothered by sin
• Easier to do things
know to be wrong
Two Causes At The Root
Marriage
•Faith
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Weaker
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Deteriorates
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Little time for spiritual
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Little time for each other
(Eph. 5:25-28)
Not study as should
(Acts 17:11)
Let up on Communication
(1 Pet. 3:1-7)
Not pray as much
(Dan. 6:10)
Emotional Needs Not Met
(Opens door for another)
Happens Gradually
(Heb. 2:1)
Happens Gradually
(Heb. 2:1)
Two Causes At The Root
Marriage
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Deteriorates
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• Commitment
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• Focus on self – not
mate
• At great risk when opp.
sex shows you attention
• Not bothered by flirting…
Thus
Little time for each other
(Eph. 5:25-28)
Let up on Communication
(1 Pet. 3:1-7)
Emotional Needs Not Met
(Opens door for another)
Happens Gradually
(Heb. 2:1)
! ! ! Danger ! ! !
“It to
Will
Never
Happen
to Me!”
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1 Cor
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10:12
“Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest
he fall.”
“It became clear to me early in my counseling experience that
affairs were much more common that I had every imagined. But
now, after years of marriage counseling, I have come to realize
that almost everyone, given the right conditions, would have an
affair.”
- Dr. William F. Harley, Jr. Surviving An Affair, 16
Faith Gets
Weaker
&
Marriage
Deteriorates
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Having
Mid-Life
Crisis
(Hard time with transition)
Show him attention
Builds his ego
Flirts with him
Adultery!
The Challenge of
a Mid-Life Crisis
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I. The–Challenges
of The Mid-Life
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II. Causes of Extra-Marital Affairs
III. Answers / Do To Prevent Problems
III. Answers / Do To Prevent Problems
A. Work Daily Building Your Faith
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• Study
10:17)
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• Pray
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III. Answers / Do To Prevent Problems
A. Work Daily Building Your Faith
B. Not Neglect Your Marriage
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• Cleave• (glued)
Third level to mate (Matt. 19:4-6)
• Take time– for
each
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level other (Eph. 5:16)
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• Share your lives
Communicate (1 Pet. 3:7)
“ When you stop to think about it, privacy isn’t something that
improves marriages. It’s honesty and openness that improve
marriages. The more information you have about each other’s
thoughts and activities, the easier it is to meet each other’s needs
and resolve conflicts. Privacy actually blocks access to that
important information, and that ultimately lead to marital failure”
- Dr. William F. Harley, Jr. Surviving An Affair, 41
III. Answers / Do To Prevent Problems
A. Work Daily Building Your Faith
B. Not Neglect Your Marriage
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C. Reset Goals To Emphasize The Spiritual
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level God (Ecc. 12:13)
• Purpose is
to serve
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• Spiritual matters
first (Matt. 6:33)
• Wrong goals – destroy (Matt. 19:16-22)
III. Answers / Do To Prevent Problems
A. Work Daily Building Your Faith
B. Not Neglect Your Marriage
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C. Reset Goals To Emphasize The Spiritual
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D. Learn to
Accept
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level Changes In Life
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• Aging is part of life (Ecc. 12:1-6)
• Children growing will happen (Ecc. 1:4)
Ex-GP Dr Hugh Bethell believes that there’s no such thing. “A midlife crisis is really just what happens to people because of life events.
Life starts to change, your kids grow up and leave home, you’re
getting bored of work and think you should retire, and it all happens
when you’re between 40 and 65.”
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Peter Baker, Director of the Men’s Health Forum, is in agreement
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with Dr Bethell. He says, “I think you could argue that there are
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problems that men
face
in middle age. I don’t know if you’d want to
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call it a mid-life crisis,
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middle-age is a time of adjustment for
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men.
“A lot of the issues are psychological rather than issues that need
medical treatment,” he says. “I think we’re in danger of medicalising
middle age for men and saying that, whatever problems they face, it’s
all down to one cause: low testosterone. We’re giving men drugs in
the hope that they will treat the condition when in fact it’s all part of
the process of getting older.”
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III. Answers / Do To Prevent Problems
A. Work Daily Building Your Faith
B. Not Neglect Your Marriage
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C. Reset Goals To Emphasize The Spiritual
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D. Learn to
Accept
• Third
level Changes In Life
Fourth level– Lead to Adultery
E. Watch For–Pitfalls
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• Don’t lust / fantasize (Prov. 6:25)
• Use tools to ensnare you (Prov. 7:10)
• Watch for flirting (Prov. 6:24-25; 7:21)
• A Seducer will lie (Prov. 7:15)
• Don’t play with fire (Prov. 5:8)
• Opportunity / occasion will come (Prov. 7:19-20)
The Challenge of
a Mid-Life Crisis
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• Third level
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I. The–Challenges
of The Mid-Life
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II. Causes of Extra-Marital Affairs
III. Answers / Do To Prevent Problems