Pioneering Leadership

The basis of leadership

Competence Call Community Chosen Courage Character

James Lawrence; Growing Leaders

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You are my dear child, I love you and I’m delighted with you.

‘ If you want to identify me, ask me not where I live, or what I like to eat, or how I comb my hair, but ask me what I think I am living for , in detail and ask me what I think is keeping me from living fully the thing I want to live for .

Between these 2 answers you can determine the identity of any person. The better answer they have , the more of a person they are.

Thomas Merton

•Where do I think I am headed?

•What are the questions that are challenging me along the way presently?

•What kind of person am I becoming as a result of this journey?

•What have I been equipped to accomplish?

Gordon MacDonald, The Resilient Life.

The Dangers

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Burn out

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Drop out

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Level out

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Fall out

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Spread out

Our relationship with God

‘The forming of the soul that it might be a dwelling place for God is the primary work of the Christian leader. This is not an add-on, an option, or a third-level priority. Without this core activity, one almost guarantees that she/he will not last in leadership for a life-time or that what work is accomplished will become less and less reflective of God's honour and God's purposes.

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Gordon MacDonald

For most of us, the great danger is not that we will renounce our faith. It is that we will become so distracted and rushed and preoccupied that we will settle for a mediocre version of it. We will just skim our lives instead of actually living them.’ John Ortberg

SPIRITUAL DISCIPLINES ‘Discipline: any activity I can do by direct effort that will help me to do what I cannot now do by direct effort.

Spiritual discipline: any activity that can help me gain power to live as Jesus taught and modelled it.’

John Ortberg

Abstinence

Solitude Silence Fasting Frugality Chastity Secrecy Sacrifice

Engagement

Prayer Scripture Study Worship Celebration Service Fellowship Confession Accountability

Apostolic spirituality

‘in Christ we speak …..as persons sent from God and standing in his presence.’

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at home on the road

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learning to see & listen

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learning to take nothing for the journey

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learning to live rhythmically

How do we measure spiritual growth?

What helps us to grow in our relationship with God ? What leads us to neglect it?

How do we grow in character ?

I n c r e a s e d c h a n g e Mature: humble about strengths, prayerful about weaknesses, committed to growth Character Personality Mature: build on strengths, integrated, self aware.

Handling suffering well Facing our dark side Fulfilling personal commitments Exercising spiritual disciplines

Develop self awareness

Dealing with disappointments Breaking through quitting points

Self-leadership. Nobody - I mean nobody - can do this work for us. Every leader has to do this work alone, and it isn’t easy. In fact, because it’s such tough work most leaders avoid it. We would rather try to inspire or control the behaviour of others than face the rigorous work of self reflection and inner growth.

Bill Hybels

Emotional self control. The ability to understand and manage moods and emotions in the self and others.

Daniel Goleman

Boundaries for yourself

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open yourself to outside inputs. Open system

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identify where you need fresh input

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be hungry for feedback

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don’t define yourself by outcome

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don’t be ruled by fear

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don’t put off change

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know your weaknesses

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you are in charge of your time and energy

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look for your patterns

Henry Cloud, Boundaries for Leaders.

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I must be successful in everything I do

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Everyone must accept me

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Everyone must love me

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If I make a mistake I am a total failure

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If I disagree with someone they will not like me

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My value as a person depends on how people see me

‘Busyness is not a solution to the problem of time pressure.

It may be helpful to think of busyness as a disease.’

The Red Zone

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physical gauge

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emotional gauge

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relational gauge

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open system gauge

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spiritual gauge

Leaders who are Christ like in

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love integrity serving compassion truthful faithful forgiving time and space

Agencies of change for leaders

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scripture reflection taking time out relationships

Where might I need to grow in character?

How do we grow in competence ?

Passion

Knowledge Something you can learn Skill Something you acquire through training Ability strength Gift Something that is given to Christians by God Talent Something that is formed by the time you’re an adult

Temperament

The people we need

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Seeks God with you

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Challenges you to think

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Corrects you

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Listens to you

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Laughs and plays with you

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Supports you

The character of the leader

1.Personal maturity 2. Conflict management 3. Personal Courage 4. Trustworthy & trusting

Where do I need to develop?

What support do I require to help with this?

The icebergs

The danger of expectations

The problem of measurement

Losing the focus

Isolation

Taking the tough decisions

From this morning

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What is the next step for me ?

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What resources might I need?

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Who will ensure support and accountability for this?