Slide 1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30


Slide 29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

9

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Slide 30

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Welcome
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

1

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

"One becomes two,
two becomes three, and
out of the third comes the one
as the fourth."
- alchemist Maria Prophetissa

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

The Gestalt Pillow Talk
—an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from
The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland
Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A.
— [email protected]

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

2

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

3

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

4

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

5

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

6

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Quaternion
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

I, We, It, Its

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

7

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching.

One

half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times,
hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever
thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you
must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself
apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to

understand.

Even within yourself it is hard to know which of

the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts
Storm
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

8

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Polarities - Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other
Long and short contrast each other
High and low rest upon each other
Voice and sound harmonize each other
Front and back follow one another.
- Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

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Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Road Map to Polarities
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

10

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Experience - Pillow Talk
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school
in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk"
to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

11

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

First Position - Placing Yourself
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think, feel...
(e.g., hard, flat, happy . ..)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position

B. TRAITS—unique qualities
(e.g., dependent, loving,...)

Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position

C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't
let go of my ____)

Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

12

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Second Position: The Opposite Pole
The Quaternion

Polarities

A. NOW—sense, think,
feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad ...)

Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. TRAITS—what you see in
you...
(e.g., independent, angry ...)

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. UNFINISHED— I won't/will.."
(e.g., let go of my ___."

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

13

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is
right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is
wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best
thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong."
"Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

14

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

15

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Dialogue
The Quaternion

Polarities

LOVING
ACCUSATION

Road Map
The Experience

Let loose and let yourself feel.
You're afraid to feel.

INDENTIFICATION

You want to be a vegetable.

First Position

Now you're beginning to feel.

Second Position

That's better than no feeling.

Third Position
Fourth Position

CLARIFICATION
NEGOTIATION

Go on, feel.

I want you to practice feeling
frequently, beginning now

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution
CLOSURE

I don’t feel anything.
I'm not afraid.
I just don't want to put out the effort.
No—1 don't want to be like that.
Yes—1 feel resentful toward you.
You're right. I feel now.
I feel hopeful.

I'm glad you're feeling hopeful.
I want something from you.

Fifth Position

INDIFFERENT

O.K. Ask.
Right now. I feel silly.

Great!

I will do what you're asking and I'm not
minding the effort.

Will you give any effort to being
with people?

Yes, I'll make the effort to give more
openly and freely of my loving and caring
as long as you stay off my back when I
need to be quiet and indifferent.

I will give you that.

Whew. I feel lighter.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

16

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

17

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

A. ARBITRATE
frustrated, hopeless, tired,
relieved, compromise...
B. JUDGE
top dog/underdog
C. WATCH
LET YOURSELF ALONE
no
no
no
no
no

self help,
resolutions,
intervention,
buildup,
tear down.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

18

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Third Position:
Merging of One and Two
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used
by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this
conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also
receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts Storm

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

19

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

20

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map

A. REMEMBER

your calm center

The Experience
First Position
Second Position

B. SYMBOLIZE
sign, word, sound...

Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position

C. RECOGNIZE

Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

21

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Transcendence is a place of the heart, a
place of peace much like the heart
chakra.
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

22

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

"...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but
seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this",
but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That"
has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has
elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish
between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is
no more separation between "this" and "that", it is
called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the
center of the circle one can see the infinite in all
things."
"Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

23

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fourth Position: Transcendence
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you
die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and
as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“

"It needs great courage to die each moment.
But until you can truly surrender you are not yet
a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who
has found himself. And when he knows himself
he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be
done."
Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

24

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

25

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Fifth Position: Integration
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

26

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Paradox of Being:
In and Out of Your Selves
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

27

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages
of Resolving Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience

NEITHER HERE NOR THERE
DENY

Who, me impatient?
No, I'm always loving.

SHUTTLE

I can be loving at work
and impatient at home.

SIMULTANEOUS

I can be both. Like a game.

First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

BOTH HERE AND THERE
I am both just loving and just impatience.

Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

28

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

The Five Stages of Resolving
Paradoxical Duality
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

"Having transcended all life, he
began to achieve the clear vision of
dawn. Having achieved the clear
vision of dawn, he began to see the
One. Having seen the One, he
began to transcend the distinction
of past and present, he began to
enter the land where there is no life
or death, where killing does not
take away life and giving birth does
not add to it. He would reject
nothing, welcomed all things,
negated all things, and affirmed all
things. This is called tranquillity in
struggle, meaning perfection is the
result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu"
Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane
English
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

29

Gestalt

Pillow Talk

Sharing Time
The Quaternion

Polarities
Road Map
The Experience
First Position
Second Position
Third Position
Fourth Position
Fifth Position
Paradox

Five Stages of
Resolution

Courage and clarity
in the face of complexity,
agility for continuous change and growth,
peaceful mind to sustain paradox,
and a vision of all things connected.
A presentation by
Kenan Doyle Branam ~ [email protected]
Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 [email protected]

30