Transcript Ephesians 5 Learning to Walk in Love Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ.

Ephesians 5
Learning to Walk in Love
Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another,
forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Animals have a characteristic called “imprinting”—when young
animals are close to a person they take them as their “parents”
It is natural for
Be imitators of God,
children to be
therefore, as dearly loved children like their parents
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and live a life of love,
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always based on the other person’s fulfilling one’s own needs and desires,
meeting one’s expectations of “happiness”, giving little and expecting much
The Perversion
3 But among you
there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality,
or of any kind of impurity,
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5 For of this you can be sure:
decision on false basis:
No immoral, impure or greedy person– God does not tolerate sin
such a man is an idolater–
has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ
and of God.
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“empty words”–
for because of such things
people trusting in
God's wrath comes
on those who are disobedient.
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impurity, with a continual lust for more” Eph 4:19
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8 For you were once darkness,
9:5) while on earth–
but now you are light in the Lord. now believers are the
Light of the world.
Live as children of light
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separating from
9 (for the fruit of the light consists in all perverse
goodness,
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gentleness.”
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Command to Separate and Expose
11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness,
but rather expose them.
12
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what the disobedient do in secret.
13
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partaker
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This is the action of “living as children of light” (v. 8)
idols, or is abusive, or a drunkard, or a swindler. Don't even eat with such
people.
Call to Abandon Darkness
14 for it is light
that makes everything visible.
This is why it is said:
"Wake up, O sleeper, rise from the dead,
and Christ will shine on you."
Many commentators believe verse 14 is taken from an Easter hymn sung
by the early church and used as an invitation to unbelievers who might
In the darkness you can only depend upon your feelings or
have been in the congregation. If they respond to the Light of believers,
perceptions of reality. Only when exposed to light can reality
the Light of lights will illuminate their lives forever.
be understood.
Wise Living by Revealed Wisdom
15 Be very careful, then, how you live–
not as unwise but as wise,
16
making the most of every opportunity,
because the days are evil.
17 Therefore do not be foolish,
but understand what the Lord's will is.
akribōs, “exactly,
accurately,
diligently”,
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wisdom teaching and admonishing one another” (Col 3:16)
Wise living in the Power of the Spirit
pres.pass imp.=
18 Do not get drunk on wine, methusko,
“Stop being drunk”
which leads to debauchery.
Instead, be filled with the Spirit.
pleroo, pres.pass.imp = “be continually overwhelmed by, be being kept
filled”. Passive voice implies conscious permissive influence or
alla, “onHas
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of a or quantity, since all believers
control.
do with content
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not a comparison!
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“Filled with wrath” (Luke 4:28) – “Filled with envy” (Acts 13:45)
Cannot walk in humility, unity, separation, light, love and wisdom
without divine help and empowerment.
The Consequences of the Filling
First of a series of participles
19 Speak to one another with psalms, that modify the command.
Any sound from a Spirit-filled
1
hymns heart that pleases Him.
and spiritual songs.
Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord,
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heart giving
that sings,
3:16
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thanks
toword
God
Father
you,
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21 Submit
to
one for
another
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account
(Epistles
10.96.7)
of Christians
who “recited
tribe in
and
tongue
and how
people
(Rev
5:8-9)
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spirit in
only,
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one
who
fills
the place of the
to
one
another
turns
a
hymn
Christ
as
to
God.”
out
of
reverence
for
Christ
.
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hupotasso,
“submit
to another’s
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or of
priority.”
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giving
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not to
After being beaten and imprisoned, “about midnight
theknow
needs
of another.
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evidence
of the
powerwell
of the
filling of
you are
saying?
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you
are giving
thanks
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Spirit filled wives follow Examples
Not in the “same
22 Wives,
way”, but “as a way
submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
23
For the husband is the head of the wife to serve the Lord”
Colossians 3:18
as Christ is the head of the church,
Wives, be subject to
his body,
your husbands, as is
of which
he is the Savior.
fitting in the Lord.
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in Greek—it
is understood
from v. 21, “submit to one
24 “submit”
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the
church submits
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another”; the same
construction
is in v. 24—
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the verb
hupotasso,
so also
wives should
submit
their
husbands
“to be under the authority of another, to make other’s needs your priority
everything.
orJesus
command”.
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rights
to self
and
to provide
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independence.
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= Husband
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5:25-33)
for, protect, preserve,
love, and
lead their in
wives
and families as Christ
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wife for
notHis
commanded
hupakouō,
as are children
cares
church.
Church-Body=
Wife to--“obey,”
Analogy
from Ephesians
below: (Eph 6:1)
1)Mutual
submission
of his
husband
and rule
wife(1:22)
is the first model
1) Wives
Looks
to
Head
for
beneficial
are no more to be co–providers, co–protectors, or co–leaders with
2)Church’s
submissionpresence
to Christ’s
needs
is second
model
2)their
Experiences
and
love joint
(3:17;
3:19)
husbandsHis
than the church
isselfless
have such
roles
with Jesus Christ.
1 Cor
3) Receives
11:3,:”Butgifts
there
that
is enable
one thing
herI maturity
want youas
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know:
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is responsible
listens
to Christ,
woman is responsible
to 5:2)
her husband, and Christ is
to him a(4:7,11-12;
15-16; 21-22;
responsible
4) RespondstoinGod.”
respect of him (5:21, 33)
Spirit filled Husbands Follow Example
Second
half of Mutual
kathos,
Submission
“to
the
(5:21)
degree
that”
paradidomi,
“to
agapao,
give
over
“giving
into
the
of
self
power
to
meet
ormake
the
hagiase, “set apart,
25 Husbands,
aner,use
adult
men. His
submission
is through
sacrificially
of another
needs
ofsacred”–
another,
seek
the
highest
Note:
world’s
love
is
object
her with a love
he learned
from Jesus
benefit
for
another”
love your wives, loving
oriented
(physical should
attraction,
1instructions
Corinthiansgiven
7:3-4
The
husband
More
to
men,
than
to
women!
In Judaism,
bride
was
just as Christ loved
the
personality,
wit,and
etc,
thus
it values
fulfill
hischurch
marital
Expects
duty
tosymbolically
us
histowife,
love
like
He
loves:
Rom
bathed
to
and gave himself up
for her
worthy
ofThe
love.
Result is
likewise
the wife
5:5,someone
to“…God’s
hershow
husband.
love
has
:4
been
poured
the washing away of
26
to make her holy,
fickle
wife's body does
outalways
not
intobelong
our
hearts
to her
by
alone
the
Holy Spirit,
her
former
life,
then
cleansing but
heralso
by the
washing
with
water
to her
who
husband.
has perfumed,
been
In
the
given
same
to us”
way,
Christ’s
love
chooses
those
who
anointed
and
throughthethe
word, body
husband's
does
katharizo,
notloved—not
belong
ritual
to him
cleansing,
need
to be
because
dressed
inawedding
clothes
1 Thess
4:9,
“…you
have been
taught
27
and to presentalone
her but
to himself
also to they
hisen
wife.
making
religiously
pure
from
are
rhema,
attractive
“inanother.”
the
or sphere
deserveof
it.the
byendoxon,
God peristemi,
to
love
one
“glorious”,
“place
as
near
a
result
or
of
moral
readycome
for worship
as a radiant church, “This
spoken
is howguilt,
word”—primarily
we have
to
his actions,
beside”,
used
metaph.:
of to
splendid
“to bring
into
Whatever
and
weservice
choose
love
and
without
stain
know
pictures
love:
Christ
the
engagement
gave
his
life
for
From without
clothing
intimate
in Luke
fellowship”
7:25 attractive to
practice
love,
becomes
or
wrinkle
us.
period.–
We,
too,
Establishing
ought
to givevalues
our lives
(stain) or within
us! for and
our
Colbrothers.”
purposes
1:22, “he 1
of
has
Jn
their
now
3:16
life
or any other blemish,
Results
(wrinkle)
of the
in skin
through
reconciled
biblical
by the
priorities
death of his
but holy
work
– these
of thedon’t
Key principle: Dying to self while
agreed
physical
upon
body,
previously.
so that he
and blameless.
bridegroom’s
wash off
being committed to others
might present you holy,
preparation
blameless, and without fault
before him.”
How can we love like Jesus?
When you are forgotten or neglected
or purposely set at naught, and you
sting and hurt with the insult or the
oversight, but your heart is happy,
being counted worthy to suffer for
Christ—that is dying to self. When your
good is evil spoken of, when your
wishes are crossed, your advice
disregarded, your
How can we love like Jesus?
opinions ridiculed and you refuse to let
anger rise in your heart, or even
defend yourself, but take it all in
patient loving silence—that is dying to
self. When you lovingly and patiently
bear any disorder, any irregularity, or
any annoyance, when you can stand
face to face with waste, folly,
extravagance,
How can we love like Jesus?
spiritual insensibility, and endure it as
Jesus endured it—that is dying to self.
When you are content with any food,
any offering, any raiment, any climate,
any society, any attitude, any
interruption by the will of God—that is
dying to self. When you never care to
refer to yourself in conversation, or to
record your
How can we love like Jesus?
own good works, or itch after
commendation, when you can truly
love to be unknown—that is dying to
self. When you see your brother
prosper and have his needs met and
can honestly rejoice with him in spirit
and feel no envy nor question God,
while your own needs are
How can we love like Jesus?
far greater and in desperate
circumstances—that is dying to self.
When you can receive correction and
reproof from one of less stature than
yourself, can humbly submit inwardly
as well as
How can we love like Jesus?
as well as outwardly, finding no
rebellion or resentment rising up within
your heart—that is dying to self.
MacArthur,
J. 1996, c1986. Ephesians. Includes indexes.
Moody Press: Chicago
The Manner of Love
houto, makes reference back to the
sacrificial love of Christ for the Church
28 In this same way,
With theInsame
Gen care
2:27 and
man
husbands ought to love their wives
concernand
he meets
wife were
his own
as their own bodies.
made
he“one
mustflesh”—
meet
He who loves his wife loves himself. needs, now
her needs
what one does to
29 After all, no one ever hated his own body,
Feeds, provides
the other, he does
whatever
needed
but he feeds and cares for it,
to himself!
just as Christ does the church— internally—to grow,
30
for we are members of his body. be healthy, mature
and fulfill her purpose
Christ provides for His church, because we areCares
“members
of
for, provides
His body.” If He were not to provide for His church,
He would
whatever
is needed
not provide for His body!
externally—giving her
tender
love,
physical
“The one who joins himself to the Lord is one spirit
with
Him”
(1
affection, warmth,
Cor 6:17)
comfort and security
Motive for Unbreakable Bond
31 1 "For this reason a man will leave his father and
kataleipo, “leave
mother
behind, depart from.”
and
be
united
to
his
wife,
2
One of the greatest
3 and the two will become one flesh."barriers to a good
marriage is the
32proskollao,
This
is
a
profound
mystery–
A key verse:
fut.ind.,
1 Peter
“cleave,
3:7 “You
be cemented
husbandstogether”
likewise, –
live
God’s
with intent
your
wives
is thatinonly
failure
of both
death
an understanding
would
breaktalking
this
way,
bond.
asabout
with
Goda determined
weaker
to love
since
Israel
shewith
istoaan
woman;
but
I am
Christvessel,
partners
“leave”
“everlasting
and grant her
love”honor
(Jer 31:3).
asand
a fellow
of the grace of life,
that your
theirsoparents.
theheir
church.
prayers may not be hindered.” – 3 commands:
•Only after unending spiritual adultery and rejection did He finally divorce
Israel
1)BE(Jer
CONSIDERATE,
3:8)
understanding, sensitive, communicative,
•Due
2) BE
to COURTEOUS,
human hardness
serving,
of hardness
respecting
of heart
herin
limits,
unrepentant
uniqueness
adultery (Mt
5:31-32; 19:4-10) and abandonment of an unbelieving spouse (1 Cor 7:15)
3) GIVE HER HONOR, make her feel like a princess or queen
God made provision for divorce, though His desire is that only death separate
the marriage bond
Church Father John Chrysostom
“Hast thou seen the measure of obedience?
Here also is the measure of love. Wouldst
thou that thy wife shouldst obey thee as the
church doth love Christ? Then have care
thyself for her as Christ does for the church,
and if it be needful that thou shouldst give thy
life for her, or be cut to pieces a thousand
times, or endure anything whatsoever, refuse
it not. Christ brought His church to His feet
by His great love, not by threats or any such
thing, and so do thou conduct thyself toward
thy wife.”
Church Father John Chrysostom
“Hast thou seen the measure of
obedience? Here also is the measure
of love. Wouldst thou that thy wife
shouldst obey thee as the church doth
love Christ? Then have care thyself for
her as Christ does for the church,
Church Father John Chrysostom
and if it be needful that thou shouldst
give thy life for her, or be cut to pieces a
thousand times, or endure anything
whatsoever, refuse it not. Christ
brought His church to His feet by His
great love, not by threats or any such
thing, and so do thou conduct thyself
toward thy wife.”
Mutual Commitment
33 However, each one of you also must love his wife
as he loves himself,
and the wife must respect her husband.
Show him that …
agapao, Argument: as Christ made Himself one Body with the
• You take his word and decisions seriously,
Church, He can be seen as loving the Church as Himself – in
ofleadership
every
husband,
“severally
• An
You
theemphatic
same
desireway,
toinclusion
follow
a husband
his
is one
with
andhis
show
wife,
your
so loving
submission
her is
each
one…”
– contrasted with “and the wife” in a
loving
himself.
• generic
You respect
himorfor
his qualities
that
fashion
a collective
view
of motivate
the wife’syour submission
Note: the love of self is present in all (v. 29), and this natural
response
self-centered love be focused on your made–
Requires commitment, focus, understanding of oneness of two
persons