Transcript What Love Is NOT!

What Love Is NOT!
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Uses of the word LOVE in the Bible!
Love Defined
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Different Words For Love!
◦ Eros - Sexual love
 The word “erotic” comes from this!
Love Defined
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 Different Words For
◦ Stergein - Familial love
Love!
Love Definded
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 Different Words For Love!
◦ Phileo - More nearly represents
tender affection!
 This word is never used in a command to
love God’s word!
 This love is not given without
expectation!
 This love usually expects the same
coming back in return!
Love Defined
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Different Words For Love!
◦ Agapao - Largely translated as “love”
 2nd most common translation in KJV is "charity"
◦ (Esp. 1 Cor. 13)!
 This kind of love is unnatural to man!
 It is a love that must be learned and is commanded!
 It is a love given without expectation and it denotes and
demands a total commitment!
◦ Jn. 3:16
 There are no conditions, no strings attached!
 It always seeks the good of it’s object!
 It is to Love the Unlovable!
Love Defined
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1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels,
but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a
clanging cymbal.
2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand
all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all
faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love,
I am nothing.
3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and
though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it
profits me nothing.
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love
does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not
provoked, thinks no evil;
6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13:1-7
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8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies,
they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will
cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish
away.
9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part.
10 But when that which is perfect has come, then
that which is in part will be done away.
11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I
understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when
I became a man, I put away childish things.
12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to
face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just
as I also am known.
13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but
the greatest of these is love.
1 Corthinans 13:8-13
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All our works must be done with love as
the basis!
 Jesus gave us the Example of love!
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◦ John 3:16
◦ 1 John 4:7-14
Actions alone are not Love!
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• Speak in tongues
• Gift of prophesy
• Understand:
• All Mysteries
• All knowledge
• Have great faith
• Give all to the
poor
• Give my body to
be burned
WITHOUT
LOVE
THESE
ARE
NOTHING!
Works Must be Based on Love!
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“Love suffers long” – vs. 4
◦ Long suffering!
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God is patient!
◦ Romans 15:5
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Apostles were patient!
◦ 2 Corinthians 12:12; 1 Thessalonians 1:3
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We must be patient – 1 Timothy 6:11
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With our brethren – Tit. 2:2
With our family!
With ourselves!
In faith – Heb. 6:12; James 5:7
Love is NOT impatient!
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“and is kind” – vs. 4
◦ “of a good or benevolent nature or disposition,
as a person: a kind and loving person.”
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A character trait of God
◦ Col. 3:12-15; Titus 3:4
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Commanded of God
◦ Eph. 4:32
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A work of faith!
◦ 2 Peter 1:7
Love is NOT unkind!
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“does not envy” – vs.4
◦ “a feeling of discontent or covetousness with
regard to another's advantages, success,
possessions, etc.”
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Christ crucified for envy!
◦ Matt. 27:12-18
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A trait of the ungodly!
◦ Rom. 1:29; Phil. 1:15
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A work of the flesh!
◦ Gal. 5:19-21
◦ 1 Tim. 6:4; Titus 3:3
Love does NOT envy!
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“vaunteth not itself” – vs. 4
◦ “to speak vaingloriously of; boast of: to vaunt
one's achievements.”
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Means also to not be rash!
◦ acting or tending to act too hastily or without
due consideration.
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Is not braggadocios!
◦ Matt. 6:1-8
Love does NOT parade itself !
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“is not puffed up” – vs. 4
◦ “feeling self-important; arrogant; pompous.”
◦ “To be full of pride.”
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Paul condemned this among Christians
◦ 1 Cor. 4:6, 18-19; 5:2
◦ Col. 2:18
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The proud fail!
◦ Proverbs 16:18; Luke 14:11
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Indicates lack of humbleness!
◦ James 4:10
Love is NOT puffed up!
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“does not behave…unseemly” – vs. 5
◦ “discourteous or impolite, especially in a
deliberate way: a rude reply”
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Christ was never rude!
◦ He was firm and spoke forthrightly!
 Matt 23.
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Rudeness is the opposite of kindness!
◦ Kindness commanded by Paul – Eph. 4:32
◦ Kindness is a “work of the Spirit”!
 Gal. 5:22
Love does NOT behave rudely!
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“seeketh not her own” – vs. 5
 Christ did not seek His own interest!
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◦ Phil. 2:1-11
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Paul had the mind of Christ
◦ Phil. 1:21-26
 He sought the spiritual welfare of the Philippians
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So must we!
◦ 1 Peter 5:5
Love does not seek its own!
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“is not easily provoked” - vs. 5
◦ “to anger, enrage, exasperate, or vex”
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Not to provoke one to evil!
◦ Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21
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Must provoke (stir up) to do good!
◦ Heb. 10:24
Love is NOT provoked!
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“thinketh no evil” - vs. 5
No evil thoughts regarding others!
 Prov. 23:7
◦ Could be expressed in our speech
◦ Or presuppositions we have of others
 James 4:11-12
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Evil thoughts reflect an evil heart!
◦ Matt. 15:18-20
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An evil heart results in evil actions!
◦ James 2:4
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God’s word judges our thoughts!
◦ Heb. 4:12
Love does NOT think evil!
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“rejoiceth not in iniquity” - vs. 6
◦ Rejoice - to be glad; take delight in; to rejoice
in another’s happiness.
◦ Iniquity - gross injustice or wickedness.
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This is a trait of the worldly!
◦ Romans 1:19-32
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They take pleasure in wickedness!
◦ 2 Thess. 2:3-12
◦ Moral and religious unrighteousness!
 Matt. 7:21-23
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We must rejoice in truth!
◦ 2 John 1:4; 3 John 1:4
Love does NOT rejoice in iniquity!
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“Beareth all things” – vs. 7
◦ Original stego to cover, to conceal – to bear or
sustain.
Will bear afflictions or persecutions that
come
 To conceal in the sense as used by Peter
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◦ 1 Peter 4:9
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Does not delight in revealing the sins and
short comings of others!
◦ Not a gossip nor a tattletale.
Love does NOT reveal or yield!
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“Believeth all things, hopeth all
things” – vs. 7
◦ To give one “the benefit of the doubt”
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Believes the best if no evidence to the
contrary!
◦ But, not gullible – can discern good and evil!
Looks and hopes for the best in people!
 Does not yield to “evil surmisings”
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◦ 1 Tim. 6:4
Love does NOT yield to suspicion!
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“endureth all things” – vs. 7
◦ From hupomono meaning to have brave
patience!
Willing to face circumstances such as
persecution, hindrances, temptations
 Paul warned that persecutions will come!
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◦ 2 Tim. 3:10-12
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This love will be willing to endure what
ever circumstance life may bring!
Love does NOT yield to trials!
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“Charity never faileth” – vs. 8
All other things would fail or cease!
Love is unfailing and superior to anything
else!
 Love must be permanent!
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◦ Must continue to the end!
We will fail if we don’t have the “agape”
love!
 Faith and Hope must abide and continue!
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is the Greatest and must be
the Foundation and Basis of these!
Love does NOT fail!
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