Transcript Chapter 8 Lessons 2 & 3

Chapter 8
Lessons 2 & 3
PEER RELATIONSHIPS
Peer Pressure & Refusal Skills
Dating
Abstinence
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO
CONFORM?
What were the examples of peer pressure and
conformity in this experiment?
Peer pressure- influence people of your own age or
status have on you (spoken vs. unspoken)
1) Positive - good influence
2) Negative – negative consequences
harassment – persistently annoying others
- manipulation – indirect or dishonest way to
control influence others
Blackmail
Guilt Trips
Threats
Violence
Pressure
Bargaining
Teasing
Flattery
Bribing
Responses to Peer Pressure
- Passive – give in, avoiding
- Aggressive – overly forceful
- Assertive- stand up for rights in firm but positive way
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE
1) I messages
2) Respectful but firm voice
3) Alternatives to actions
4) Clear & simple statements
5) Appropriate body language (no mixed messages)
Refusal Skills – skills help you say no
• State your position
• Suggest Alternatives
• Stand your ground
Make your decision known
Avoid tempting situations
Change the subject
Suggest an alternative
Leave the situation
Lifeboat Activity
• You have to decide the order in which you would save the
people on the sinking ship. Place a number next to each
description (1-8).
• Write on a separate sheet of paper why you would save each
character in that particular order.
Lifeboat Activity (cont)
• Get into groups with your rows.
• You must come up with an order of saving people as a group.
Most likely, people are going to have differing opinions but
you can only have one answer.
• Write this down on a separate sheet of paper and the reason
why you chose each person in that order.
Lifeboat Activity Questions
Please answer these questions in a paragraph:
What did this activity have to do with the topic of peer
pressure?
Did your group’s answer differ from your individual answer and
Why?
If you were actually on the lifeboat in real life, how would peer
pressure effect your decision? Why?
Do Now - Answer the questions
Which would be hardest to accept?
- - Husband or wife cheating
- - Husband or wife doing hard drugs
- - Finding out husband or wife was married before and never told you
What do you look for in a mate?
- - Good looking
- - lots of money
- - Fun to be with
What do you look at when you meet someone of opposite sex?
- eyes
- - Overall figure
- - face
Which of these is most preferable to you?
- - Stay single
- - married no kids
- - married with kids
Do Now: Answer these
Brainstorming ?’s in your
note packet
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5)
What is your definition of dating?
What age should you begin dating?
Name some appropriate places where you could go on a
date?
Name negative and positive benefits of dating?
List concerns your parents have about dating?
Dating & Setting Limits
Establishing Dating Standards
1) Safe transportation
2) Reasonable Curfew
3) Have a code of contact
4) Avoid Risk Situation
Dating Violence
22.4% of women and 15.0% of men
first experienced some form of
partner violence between 11 and 17
years of age
What are qualities found
in both?
Good
Relationship
Bad
relationship
Feelings Health Relationship
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Happy
Growth
Contentment
Energized
Optimism
Self – Respect
Enhanced Self Esteem
Encouragement
Feeling Unhealthy Relationship
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Fatigue
Negativity
Decline
Isolation
Sadness
Diminished Self
Desperation
Obsessive thoughts
Verbal
Abuse
Isolation
Quick
Involvement
Controlling
Jealousy
Physical
Violence
WARNING
SIGNS
Blaming
Others
Abstinence
How can teen sexual activity have negative
consequences on the following categories?
LIST SOME CONSEQUNCES FOR EACH CATEGORY
BELOW:
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Physical health
Emotional Health
Social Health
Legal Implications
Abstinence
What are some reasons to practice abstinence until
marriage?
1) Physical Health
- Sexual Transmitted Infections
- unplanned pregnancy
3) Emotional Health- hurt, self respect, guilt, regret
4) Social Health- reputation, family members
Committing to Abstinence
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Establish priorities
Set personal limits on affection
Share your thoughts
Avoid high pressure situations
*Use refusal techniques