Transcript OCTOBER is - Ohio State University

OCTOBER is
Women ages 16
to 24 experience
the highest rates
of intimate
violence or dating
violence.
-Bureau of
Justice Statistics.
Dating and
Domestic Violence
Awareness Month
Women ages 16
to 24 experience
the highest rates
of intimate
violence or dating
violence.
-Bureau of
Justice Statistics.
Dating and
Domestic Violence
Awareness
Resource Guide for OSU Students Who Have Experienced Violence
The following is a list of services and support that you may wish to use. If you have experienced a
sexual assault the following hospitals provide advocates and more.
Campus Advocacy Program
267-7020
OSU Medical Center
Grant Medical Center
Riverside Methodist Hospital
Doctor’s Hospital
Mount Carmel St. Ann’s ED
Mount Carmel East ED
Mount Carmel West ED
293-8333
566-9270
566-5321
429-6050
898-4000
234-6030
234-1862
Student Health Center
292-4321
Campus advocates can meet with you at a campus location to
help you figure out your next step.
Consider seeking medical attention and/or evidence
collection by a Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner especially if
the assault occurred within the last 72 hours. Accompaniment
by a trained volunteer advocate who can provide emotional
support, crisis-intervention and referrals is available.
Student Health Services can provide confidential information
and services concerning sexually transmitted diseases,
pregnancy and general medical issues.
OSU Campus Police
292-2121
Columbus Police Dept. (CPD)
645-4701
Sexual Abuse Squad CPD
645-6232
Domestic Violence & Stalking Unit
File a report with The OSU campus police if the assault
occurred on campus. If the assault occurred off-campus,
contact the Columbus Police Department or the local police
with jurisdiction.
OSU Counseling and
Consultation Service
292-5766
Free, confidential counseling services are available to students
at any time in the recovery process.
Faculty/Staff Assistance
Program
292-4472
Free, confidential counseling services are available to staff and
faculty.
Student Judicial Affairs
OSU, Student Wellness
Center, Sexual Violence
Education & Support (SVES)
292-0748
292-4527
OSU has a disciplinary hearing process for incidents of
misconduct involving OSU students. This process can be
discussed with the Director of Student Judicial Affairs
without filing a complaint.
The Student Wellness Center @RPAC houses the office that
works with students dealing with sexual assault, relationship
violence and stalking. Speak with SVES for support in
understanding and your medical and legal options, and for
support throughout criminal or OSU judicial proceedings.
OSU Student Advocacy Center 292-1111
This program can assist you with academic, housing, and
financial concerns.
The Office of International
Education
292-6101
Assists with incidents involving international students and
scholars.
24-Hour Rape Helpline
267-7020
CHOICES – (Domestic
Violence 24-hour hotline)
224-4663
Residence Halls -
If you live in a residence hall, your Hall Director
can assist in identifying additional resources.
Provided by the Sexual Assault Response Network of
Central Ohio, this hotline can provide anonymous and
confidential support and information
Provided by CHOICES, this hotline can provide
anonymous support and information.
Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.
-Maria Robinson
1 in 4 Women will experience Domestic Violence during her
lifetime.
Women between the ages of 16 – 24 experience the
highest rate of domestic violence.
70% of college and teenage women who are sexually
assaulted, are raped during the course of a date.
-Bureau of Justice Special Report:
Intimate Partner Violence, May 2000.
If you’re in a relationship, does
the person you care about/love...
• constantly keep track of your time?
• act jealous and possessive?
• accuse you of being unfaithful or flirting?
• discourage your relationships with friends and family?
• prevent or discourage you from working, interacting
with friends or attending school?
• constantly criticize or belittle you?
• control all finances and force you to account for what
you spend? (Reasonable cooperative budgeting
excepted.)
• humiliate you in front of others? (Including "jokes" at
your expense – especially in front of their friends.)
• destroy or take your personal property or sentimental
items?
• have affairs?
• threaten to hurt you, your children or pets? Threaten
to use a weapon?
• push, hit, slap, punch, kick, or bite you or your
children?
• force you to have sex against your will, or demand
sexual acts you are uncomfortable with?
If this sounds familiar:
•Keep in mind that these are signs of an abusive relationship.
•Speak with a friend or someone you trust.
•Consider speaking with someone in the field of relationship violence (see resource list).
•Work with someone to develop a safety plan and explore your options in a safe
setting (OSU PD, CHOICES, SVES – Student Wellness Center, CCS, 24-hour
helpline…)
October is Dating and Domestic Violence
Awareness Month.
Consider Seeking Help if Your Partner:
•Emotionally abuses you (insults, belittling comments, ignoring you, acting
sulky or angry when you initiate an action or idea).
•Tells you who you may be friends with, how you should dress, or tries to
control other elements of your life or relationship.
•Gets jealous when there is no reason.
•Drinks heavily, uses drugs, or tries to get you drunk.
•Berates you for not wanting to get drunk, get high, have sex, or go with
him/her to an isolated or personal place.
•Is physically violent to you or others, even if it's "just" grabbing and
pushing to get his/her way.
•Is unable to handle sexual and emotional frustrations without becoming
angry.
•Does not view you as an equal--sees himself/herself as smarter or socially
superior.
•Goes through extreme highs and lows, is kind one minute and cruel the
next.
•Is angry and threatening to the extent that you have changed your life so as
not to anger him/her.
Consider Seeking Help if Your Partner:
•Emotionally abuses you (insults, belittling comments, ignoring you, acting sulky or angry
when you initiate an action or idea).
•Tells you who you may be friends with, how you should dress, or tries to control other
elements of your life or relationship.
•Gets jealous when there is no reason.
•Drinks heavily, uses drugs, or tries to get you drunk.
•Berates you for not wanting to get drunk, get high, have sex, or go with him/her to an
isolated or personal place.
•Is physically violent to you or others, even if it's "just" grabbing and pushing to get his/her
way.
•Is unable to handle sexual and emotional frustrations without becoming angry.
•Does not view you as an equal--sees himself/herself as smarter or socially superior.
•Goes through extreme highs and lows, is kind one minute and cruel the next.
•Is angry and threatening to the extent that you have changed your life so as not to anger
him/her.
Myths about Dating
Violence
Reality about Dating
Violence
“Battering only occurs when a person is under
stress…a person can only tolerate so much.”
We are all under stress. It is not an excuse nor a reason
for violence or mistreatment. It is also important to note
that batterers only beat their partners, not their coworkers, etc.
“Some people deserve to be battered. They drive
you nuts.”
No person deserves to be abused. People are responsible
and accountable for their own actions. Claiming to be
driven to an action is an excuse.
“A person gets a little drunk and loses control. It
happens all the time. You know the saying, ‘you
always hurt the ones you love’.”
Studies show that a high correlation exists between family
violence and alcohol abuse. Although alcohol does not
cause violence, the presence of alcohol may allow a
person to rationalize or excuse her/his behavior.
“If only I could be a better partner. Maybe he/she
would change.”
A person behaves (or changes) her/his behavior as a
result of something within her/himself. One person is not
responsible and cannot assume responsibility for another
person’s behavior.
“Battering occurs mainly in the lower socioeconomic classes.”
Domestic violence does not discriminate. It cuts across all
socio-economic, racial and religious lines. It occurs in rural
as well as urban areas.
“If my partner ever hit me, I’d leave. I’d never put
up with that kind of treatment.”
Many women/men who abuse can be characterized as
Dr.Jekyll/Mr.Hyde personalities. Few begin relationships
as abusers. By the time an abusive relationship is
identified, a woman/man has invested time, trust, and
hope. It is a long process to get out of a violent
relationship.
Adapted from “Myths/Realities” April 1988, by CHOICES for Victims of Domestic Violence
WHAT DOES
DATING and
DOMESTIC
VIOLENCE LOOK
LIKE?
Sexual Assault
Emotional/Psychological
Violence
Physical Violence is the intentional use of physical force
with the potential for causing death, disability, injury, or
harm. It may include, but is not limited to, scratching;
pushing; shoving; throwing; grabbing; biting; choking;
shaking; slapping; punching; burning; use of a weapon; and
use of restraints or one’s body, size, or strength against
another person.
Sexual assault is any unwanted sexual contact or attention
that may be achieved through force, manipulation,
intimidation, coercion, violence, or the use of alcohol and
drugs to impair the victim. It includes both attempted or
completed sexual acts.
Saltzman et al. 2002
Psychological/emotional violence involves trauma to the victim
caused by acts, threats of acts, or coercive tactics.
Psychological/emotional abuse can include, but is not limited to,
humiliating the victim, controlling what the victim can and cannot do,
withholding information from the victim, deliberately doing something
to make the victim feel diminished or embarrassed, isolating the victim
from friends and family, and denying the victim access to money or
other basic resources.
Stalking includes repeated behaviors or actions that make a person feel
afraid or in danger. Stalking is serious and often escalates over time. It
also may become violent. Common stalking behaviors include: following
the victim, calling the victim repeatedly, damaging the victims property,
sending the victim unwanted letters, gifts, etc, threatening to hurt the
victim or the victims friends/family/pets/etc, using tracking systems or
other technology to track the victim’s whereabouts, etc. About 1 in 12
women and 1 in 45 men are stalked in their lifetime.
Saltzman et al. 2002; Office of Violence Against Women of the U.S. Department of Justice
Campus Advocacy
Program
Are you an OSU student who has experienced
sexual violence, relationship violence, and/or
stalking behaviors? If you would like to talk to
someone, call 614-267-7020 and choose the
“Campus Advocate” option.
Campus Advocates can meet with you at a campus
location to provide support, information, and
resources, and to help you figure out your next step.
This Bulletin Board Brought to You by
The Student Wellness Center
292-4527 or [email protected]
www.swc.osu.edu