Transcript Assisting Your Child In Being Successful in High School

Assisting Your Child In
Being Successful in High
School
Gabrielle D. Carpenter, MEd
Guidance Counselor
Dominion High School
[email protected]
(703)444-8032
AGENDA
•Brainstorm Activity
•Successful Parent Involvement
•Helicopter Parenting v. Coaching
•Learning Styles
•Empowerment Strategies
The No Child Left Behind Act of
2001
Helps to ensure that all children
receive a high-quality education
and holds schools responsible
for making sure that all children
are learning.
The Importance of Parent
Involvement
• The importance of parents being involved in their
young adolescent students' transition from middle
to high school can hardly be overestimated. When
parents are involved in their student's transition to
high school, they tend to stay involved in their
child's school experiences (Mac Iver, 1990); and
when parents are involved in their child's high
school experiences, students have higher
achievement (Linver & Silverberg, 1997; Paulson,
1994), are better adjusted (Hartos & Power, 1997),
and are less likely to drop out of school (Horn &
West, 1992).
Why Parents Need to be Involved
“Educational research clearly shows that support and
involvement of students’ families and the community
at large is fundamental to achievement in schools. The
most comprehensive study on the topic concludes that
greater parental involvement leads to greater student
achievement, irrespective of such factors as
socioeconomic status or ethnic background”
(Blankstien 2004)
Peers have influence
Order of Importance In Teenagers’ Lives
1950’s
Family/Home
School
Church
Peers
TV
1990’s
Peers
TV/Videos/Internet
Family/Home
Celebrities
School
Boyd-Franklin, Nancy Ph.D and Franklin, A.J. Ph.D.
Boys Into Men. New York, NY: Dutton, 1996.
Schedule Family Time
What are Helicopter Parents?
-a term for a person who pays extremely close attention to his
or her child or children, particularly at educational institutions.
aka…..
• Over-involved
• Hyper-involved
• Habit of hovering
What do Helicopter Parents Look
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Constant telephone calls/communications
Choosing students activities, friends
More involved in children’s activities than they are
Deciding what college is a best fit for student
Over Scheduling
**Biggest change in college campuses over last decade
Effects of Hovering Parents
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Stifles growth/self-advocacy skills
undecisive
insecure
low self-esteem
overly dependent
unable to function outside of parental umbrella
Parents as Coaches
• Getting the very best out of someone and
enabling them to make decisions that will
improve their life.
• Personal Trainer—but for the mind instead of
the body
• Helps to develop Action Plans to prepare and
enhance their future.
Coaching Skills
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Listening
Communication
Rapport Building
Motivating,
Inspiring
Non-judgmental
Flexible
10 Ways to Coach Your Child to
Become Self-Reliant/Successful
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Encourage Public Speaking
Practice Negotiation
Model Time Management and Organizational Skills
Teach Self-Sufficiency
Encourage Independence at School
Listen With an Open Mind
Provide Structure
Remember That Every Story Has Two Sides
Teach Self-Respect
Teach Logical Conflict Resolution
www.collegeboard.com
What Can You Do at Home?
Remember that every
child has the power
to be successful in
school and in life,
and every parent,
family member and
caregiver can help.
Strategies for Coaching at Home
• Encourage Your Child to Read
• Encourage Healthy Habits
• Monitor Homework, TV Viewing, Computer
Use and Video Game Playing
• Encourage Your Child to Be Responsible and to
Work on His Own
• Communicate With Your Child
• Praise Your Child
U.S. Department of Education
Remember
Successful Students
Advocate for
Themselves
Learning Styles
This chart helps you determine your learning style; read the word in the left column and then answer the successive questions in the three
columns to see how you respond to each situation. Your answers may fall into all three columns, but one column will likely contain the
most answers. The dominant column indicates your primary learning style.
Adapted from Colin Rose(1987). Accelerated Learning.
When you..
Visual
Auditory
Kinesthetic & Tactile
Spell
Do you try to see the word?
Do you sound out the
word or use a phonetic
approach?
Do you write the word down to find if it feels
right?
Talk
Do you sparingly but dislike listening for too
long? Do you favor words such as see, picture,
and imagine?
Do you enjoy listening
but are impatient to talk?
Do you use words such as
hear, tune, and think?
Do you gesture and use expressive movements?
Do you use words such as feel, touch, and hold?
Concentrate
Do you become distracted by untidiness or
movement?
Do you become distracted
by sounds or noises?
Do you become distracted by activity around
you?
Meet Someone Again
Do you forget names but remember faces or
remember where you met?
Do you forget faces but
remember names or
remember what you
talked about?
Do you remember best what you did together?
Contact people
on Business
Do you prefer direct, face-to-face, personal
meetings?
Do you prefer the
telephone?
Do you talk with them while walking or
participating in an activity?
Read
Do you like descriptive scenes or pause to
imagine the actions?
Do you enjoy dialog and
conversation or hear the
characters talk?
Do you prefer action stories or are not a keen
reader?
Do something new at
school
Do you like to see demonstrations, diagrams,
slides, or posters?
Do you prefer verbal
instructions or talking
about it with someone
else?
Do you prefer to jump right in and try it?
Put something together
Do you look at the directions and the picture?
Need help with a
computer application
Do you seek out pictures or diagrams?
Do you ignore the directions and figure it out as
you go along?
Do you call the help desk,
ask a neighbor, or growl
at the computer?
Do you keep trying to do it or try it on another
computer?
Learning Style Results
Visual-Read a text and study the illustrations.
Auditory-Read out loud the information that you need to
know.
Kinesthetic-Make a model or do something practical that
will help you to learn the information.
Combination-Intergrate all three strategies to maximize
success.
Fundamentals of College Admission Counseling
Empowerment Strategies
What can you do to
empower your
child(ren)to be successful
learners in high school?
Empowerment Strategies for Your
Child
• Meet with Guidance Counselor for academic
advice
• Eat healthy foods and exercise
• Be familiar with the Program of Studies,
Graduation Requirements, etc.
• Read all exam directions carefully and slowly
• Know the deadlines and due dates of
assignments, projects
Empowerment Strategies for Your
Child (con’t)
• Do not allow employment to jeopardize
academic progress
• Encourage your child to choose “good” friends
• Make sure that your child knows how to
calculate his grade point average (GPA)
• Monitor the time and sites visited on the
internet
(adapted from:
The Mentor: An Academic Advising Journal, Walter Rankin, GMU)
Assisting Your Child in Being
Successful in High School
What Questions May I Answer for You?