Transcript Why Can’t We Just Get Along?

Why Can’t We All Just
Get Along?
How to Create Cohesive Teams Through
Understanding Personalities
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Matt Stephen, Ed.D.
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35 years in public
education
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Teacher, Counselor, Asst.
Principal, Principal, Director,
Asst. Supt., Asst. Professor,
Consultant, Storyteller, and
Papa
Constructing and articulating
a leadership style called
“Whole-hearted Leadership.”
◦ Mission to Serve
◦ Building Meaningful
Relationships
◦ Helping Others Develop and
Grow
We Are All Different
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“Why can’t everyone
be like me?”
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“Do I really want
everyone to be like
me?”
Sometimes it is
hard to get along
with others
Discord
Fear in the Workplace
 Inhibits Production
 Turnover
 Law Suits
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More Positive Relationship-Building
Leads to:
 Consistent Behavior
 Increased Morale
 Positive Culture
 Increased Production
 Happier Customers
Why Get Along?
So why is it important that we understand
different personalities?
We perceive people differently
Let’s look at little Matt Jeffrey
through the eyes of....
Mrs. Abercrombie and Mrs. Pierce
Awareness
Tolerance
Building Relationships
To move from Awareness to
Tolerance takes:
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Awareness of Self
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Awareness of Others
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Desire to Change
Thinking
◦ Here is where we lose
those who are anti-social
Awareness
Tolerance
Tolerance
Acceptance
Building Relationships
To move from Tolerance to
Acceptance takes:
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Desire to Change
Thinking
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Desire to Change
Personal Action
Tolerance
Acceptance
Acceptance
Celebration
Building Relationships
To move from Acceptance to
Celebration takes:
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Desire to Change
Organizational Action
◦ Embrace diversity as a
team
Acceptance
Celebration
Relationships in Our Lives
Colleagues
Society
Me
Customer
Management
Personality Inventories
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Types:
 Lion, Golden Retriever, and Beaver
 Dr. Gary Smalley and Dr. John Trent
 Personality
Color
 Myers-Briggs
 True
Personality Types
Colors Personality Inventory
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Strengths– Visionary, practical, productive,
strong-willed, independent, decisive, leader
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Weaknesses– Cold, domineering, unemotional
self-sufficient, unforgiving, sarcastic, cruel
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Strengths– Outgoing, responsive, warm,
friendly, talkative, enthusiastic, compassionate
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Weaknesses– Undisciplined, unproductive,
exaggerates, egocentric, unstable
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Strengths– Calm, easy-going, dependable,
quiet, objective, diplomatic, humorous
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Weaknesses– Selfish, stingy, procrastinator,
unmotivated, indecisive, fearful, worrier
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Strengths– Analytical, self-disciplined,
industrious, organized, aesthetic, sacrificing
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Weaknesses– Moody, self-centered, touchy,
negative, unsociable, critical, revengeful
Your Personality Color
http://www.empower-yourself-with-color-psychology.com/personality-color.html
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If your favorite color is red, you are action oriented with a deep need
for physical fulfillment and to experience life through the five senses.
If orange is your favorite color, you have a great need to be with
people, to socialize with them, and be accepted and respected as
part of a group. You also have a need for challenges in your life,
whether it is physical or social challenges.
Choosing yellow as your favorite means you have a deep need for
logical order in your everyday life and to be able to express your
individuality by using your logical mind to inspire and create new
ideas.
If green is your favorite, you have a deep need to belong, to love
and be loved, and to feel safe and secure. You need acceptance
and acknowledgment for the everyday things you do for others - just
a 'thank you' is sufficient.
Lovers of blue have a deep need to find inner peace and truth, to
live their life according to their ideals and beliefs without having to
change their inflexible viewpoint of life to satisfy others.
Indigo lovers have a need to feel in harmony and at one
with the Universe and to be accepted by others as the
aware and intuitive spiritual beings that they are.
 If purple or violet is your favorite color, you have a deep
need for emotional security and to create order and
perfection in all areas of your life, including your spiritual
life. You also have a deep need to initiate and participate
in humanitarian projects, helping others in need.
 If your personality color is pink you have a deep need to
be accepted and loved unconditionally.
 If turquoise is your favorite color your deepest need is
to create emotional balance in your life, to be able to
express your hopes and dreams no matter how idealistic
they may be and to make your own way in the world
under your own terms.
 If your favorite color is magenta, you are a nonconformist who sees life from a different point of view.
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Myers-Briggs Personality Types
http://www.personalitypathways.com/type_inventory.html
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Extraverted – Introverted
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Sensing – Intuitive
(Practical)
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Thinking – Feeling
(task-oriented)
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(relationship-oriented)
Judging – Perceiving
(Plan)
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(imaginative)
(Spontaneous)
ISTJ, ISFJ, INFJ, INTJ, ISTP, ISFP, INFP, INTP, ESTP, ESFP, ENFP, ENTP, ESTJ,
ESFJ, ENFJ, ENTJ
True Colors Personality Inventory
https://truecolorsintl.com/
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Blue
Green Orange
Who am I?
How am I perceived by others?
Who are my team members?
Gold
Organizer
Blue
People-Person
Green
Thinker/Visionary
Orange
Creative /Spontaneous
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Prepared
Loves to Plan
Detail Oriented
Punctual
Strong Sense of Duty
Belief in Policies and Rules
Values Family Traditions
Conscientious
Conservative and Stable
Well-Organized
Most Comfortable with Structured Environment
Gold
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Caretaker
Optimistic
Passionate
Enthusiastic
Imaginative
Cause Oriented
True Romantic
Needs to be Unique
Cooperative rather than Competitive
Strong Sense of Spirituality
People Oriented
Peacemaker
Blue
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Problem Solver
“Why” Mentality
Very Complex
Standard Setter
Cool, Calm, Collected
Intellectual
Work is Play and Play is Work
Need for Independence and Private Time
Driven by Competence
Perfectionist
Analytical
Approaches Interpersonal Relationships in a Logical Manner
Green
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Energetic
Desires Change
Playful
Master Negotiator
Natural Entertainer
Pushes Boundaries
Accepts Challenges
Impulsive and Spontaneous
“Just Do It” Attitude
Appreciates Immediate Feedback
Most Productive in Non-structured Environments
Self-Confident
Orange
Let’s Plan a Party!!
Golds?
Blues?
Greens?
Oranges?
Let’s Plan a Staff Development Activity
Golds?
Blues?
Greens?
Oranges?
Is there a need for diversity on a team?
Building Cohesive Teams
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Realize the need for
tolerance – acceptance –
celebration
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Realize importance of
interdependence
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Hold conversations to
achieve celebration level
I once knew a principal….
What about Social Life?
Home
 Friends
 Community
 Church
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Ask me about my wife, Martha….
Building cohesive
teams through
understanding
personalities
really works.
But…
If you don’t want to try it,
there are always
alternative methods….
For True Colors Training
contact me at:
Email:
 mattstephen@servantle
adersineducation.com
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ucation.com
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